Inside the Minds of Women

[Chal™]

1). When you ask us our opinion - aren't you really just asking for us to validate what your position is or do you really want to hear our opinion?

I really want to hear what you think. If you agree with me all the time I’d think you were up to something. Either that , or you’re slow. No couple is THAT in tune.

2). Do you all admit when you're wrong?

Yes.

3). If you admit when you are wrong - does it take coaxing - or will you admit it without being prompted?

Depending on what it is. For some things I won’t just up and volunteer the information. But if questioned, I will admit to my role in whatever it is. For other things I feel like if I’m big and bad enough to do/say it, yea, I’ll tell you I did it. In either case, no coaxing. Ask and I’ll tell.

4). Do you trust your girls around your men? If not - who do you trust least, your man, or your girls?

Yes, because my reputation precedes me. lol

5). If your man was losing a fight, would you hit the other dude with a foreign object to help him out?

Do you consider my overhand right a foreign object?

6). Do you expect a man to defend your honor? If you are disrespected do you expect him to speak up and demand a redress on your behalf?

I don’t expect it, but I would be totally disappointed if he doesn’t. IMO, if a man (any man, not necessarily mine) can stand by and watch another man disrespect a woman, then he’s just as bad as the guy doing the disrespecting. Now, I don’t expect him to fight on my behalf, but damn, say SOMETHING.

7). How do you show a man that you respect him?

I don’t think I know how to put that into words. I can show you better than I can tell you.

8). In your opinion are men appreciative or do they take much of what women do for granted?

Some are. Some start out that way and slowly grow out of it. And some are just selfish like that.

9). Name 3 Things you wish all men would learn about women?

1. A relationship is between two people. Me and you. Your family should not know everything about us. Why yo folks looking at me crazy at the BBQ cause they know we argued 3 nights ago?

2. Pardon the broken English, but we ain’t her. That last chick that did you dirty and broke your heart, that was her. That last girlfriend that you thought was soooooooo perfect. That’s not us. I’m not her. I’m me. I can’t pay for her mistakes. I can’t be what she was to you because I am uniquely Chal (ah, shape shift). And until you get them out of your head, you’ll never appreciate me for me.

3. We like to get ours, too, ya know.

10). Name the Top 5 things that men do that annoy you the most (include ties if you must)

1. The way [some] men approach women
2. Possessiveness
3. Say one thing but mean another
4. Think that every issue can be solved with sex
5. Won’t let go simply because they don’t want the next one to get what they had

p.s. is 10 questions too much? I'm just trying to get this thread rolling.


Not at all. Keep em coming.

[Bunny Hop]

1). Why would you bring your problems to us to merely listen to them?
1a). Why not go to your girlfriends if you just want someone to listen to you vent? (Serious question, they have more training in this area, and they actually enjoy it, why substitute us in this role?)
Again I ask...why not?

Why not? If you're my partner and we're in a relationship then I should be able to come to you with my issues. If I can't do that then why are we together? You could get butt and someone to do stuff with from any chick. Being in a relationship, at least with me, is about sharing and communication, if I can't do that then I ask again...why are we together?

2). Why do you ask us, "if we miss you"? If you have to prompt us to get us to say it - doesn't that make it less genuine?
Because when you say yes and we feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Me asking doesn't make you saying yes less genuine...the way you answer it may show us how genuine you are.

3). Are you angry with the black man in general?
Sometimes yes...I won't lie. From Daddy issues, personal relationships, academic situations, friendships, professional relationships, and just everyday living yall do some dumb foul isht. A lot of it has nothing to do with color but a lot of it does. I'm not angry at all Black men all of the time but sometimes yall just piss me off, LOL.

3a). Do you feel he understands your struggle?
Yes and no. At any given moment I can have race, gender or both working against me. I think Black men have a hard time admitting that we have a struggle and seeing it because all you know is your own and all that we ever hear about is your struggle. Even when women are talked about we're (BW) are lumped into the group with everyone else. You don't have to understand exactly where I'm coming from (you're not me so I don't expect you to) but do not dismiss it (I've seen this from the men on OOA). Just you acknowledging that we do have our own struggle can go a long way (IMO).

3b). Do you feel you understand his?
To a certain extent. I'm not a man so my understanding only goes so far but I'm Black so I sure as hell get that part, LOL. I do think that I get his more than he gets mine. Maybe that's because his is publicized so much more or the leaders are usually men or men have just men more vocal...IDK.

4). Gay male friends - what's the deal? If you don't think they're honorary women - why do you treat them like they are?
I'm guessing you're talking about the more feminine ones? I don't have one but I think I'd like to, LOL.

5). Can you really not tell that the toilet seat's up before you sit down? Seriously?
It's 3:26am and I have to pee. If I turn on the light it wakes me up (all the way) and it'll take me another hour to go back to sleep. So I leave the light off expecting knowing the toilet seat is in the default position (which is down of course). In the dark while you're half sleep, it's just a white blob. You just kind of know the general area so you sit down and adjust if you need to. Now I've never fallen in but I think I've just been lucky. *knocks on wood*

6). What's it like to give birth (for those of you who have)?
N/A

7). When you all do cheat in a relationship - why do you do it?
*quiet revenge
*not satisfied...nothing to do with anything physical.
*the relationship was pretty much over...we just hadn't said the words


8). What phrase do you hate to hear most from a man?
"Do what you do"

9). Is there a difference to you between a man that's had alot of sexual exploits with women that no one really knows about and a man who has had the same # of exploits, but those exploits are known?
IDK...a lot of sex is a lot of sex but there is something about it being in your face and everyone knowing everything.

9a). How does (if at all) that affect your view of him?
If these are known loosey gooseys then I might be giving him major side eye. He can't keep his stuff behind closed doors and neither can they and that makes me nervous because I'm a little to private for all of that.

10). Have you ever hit/mushed/pushed/shoved your man in anger?
Not Alc but I did smack my first a few times. Once he tried to throw me in a pool (I can't swim), another time he bit me on the arm so hard that there were teeth marks and the other time we were playing around and I couldn't breath. I was literally suffocating and since he thought I was playing he wouldn't get up. I think I remember hitting him to make him get up.



GOODNESS DAMIE! That was like a marathon, LOL.

[FatalDST]

Jun 14, 2010 15:45:07 GMT -5 DamieQue™ said:

@magic Booty: I want you to explain the whole deal - what's it like? What are you thinking? What are you feeling? etc. Just give it to me from your view.

Well, I had a c-sec, so my experience in the end was probably different than someone that had a baby vaginally... I tell you though, when those labor pains kick in.. you just want it to be over... imagine having a never ending stomach cramp has you curled up! Anyway, I didnt feel alot because I was under the anethesia... I was numb from tits down... I could feel them tugging on me, but thats about it.. didnt really know what they were doing.. I could see the horor on baby daddy's face as he was watching.. I same something to him and scared the shit out of him.. he didnt know I was actually away while they were doing it..plus, he was high as a kite! Afterwards, I had problems (being frank) taking a dump and passing gas... they wouldnt let me leave the hospital until I did both... that was damn near just as much pain as the labor...

I really wish I had him vaginally.. but in the end, I guess I got the same result

[DamieQue™]

@ Bun: I'm interested in what y'all think. Truthfully I think we all are.

LOL - okay Chal questions:

1). LOL isn't "asking" equivalent to "coaxing"? Do I have to ask if you already acknowledge to yourself you're wrong?

2). Why do you expect a man who is not affiliated with you to say something on your behalf if you are being disrespected? Like what is the thought process (keep in mind I'm not agreeing or disagreeing - just asking)

3). LOL - ok what would you "SHOW" your man to show him you respect him. Actions have got to speak... so what are your actions saying?

4). Can you give a couple (actually 2 would be enough) of examples of men saying something but meaning another?

[DamieQue™]

1). Women would you go "experimental" in the bedroom with another woman if your man asked you to?

2). We all know there is no one size fits all for anyone, but is there one position that you all generally gets you off more than any other? [Feel free to skip this one if it's too personal]

3). Do you find that women or men are more hostile to you in the work place?

4). Does your answer change if the man/woman is your superior? What if they're you're subordinate - any change in answer?

5). What is the first thing you notice about a man? What is the last thing?

6). Do you think there's anything wrong with a man who's more in touch with his feminine side? Could you be attracted to him in spite of it?

7). Is there any role that is uniquely for women? uniquely for men? If not - does that mean that every role is interchangeable (roles: in industry, home, church, organizations, etc)

8). Do you use silent treatment, tears, arguments to get your way? If you do does this constitute emotional abuse?

9). What is your favorite fragance to smell on a man? What is the worst (outside of HI KARATE)?

10). How do you like to see your man's hair? Any style that you don't like?

[Chal™]

LOL - okay Chal questions:

1). LOL isn't "asking" equivalent to "coaxing"? Do I have to ask if you already acknowledge to yourself you're wrong?

No. It could be something someone told you. You come back and ask me. I answer. That's not coaxing.

2). Why do you expect a man who is not affiliated with you to say something on your behalf if you are being disrespected? Like what is the thought process (keep in mind I'm not agreeing or disagreeing - just asking)

I don't expect him to. I just said I'd be disappointed. The LEAST he can say is, "Hey, man. Don't do that. Don't do it like that." I'm not saying he should get into a knock out no holds barred type brawl. But don't just stand there and look on, either. Whether I can defend myself or not, there is something to be said about chilvary.

3). LOL - ok what would you "SHOW" your man to show him you respect him. Actions have got to speak... so what are your actions saying?they'e saying that I respect him. lol. This just like when we were trying to define respect in another thread. I can't define it without using the actually word. I guess to say it simply, he knows that I 'm with him 100%. I stand by him. I support him, but at the same time, the way he treats me determines a lot.

4).Can you give a couple (actually 2 would be enough) of examples of men saying something but meaning another?

me: Honey, what's wrong?
him: Nothing.

Nothing? You walked through the door mad as heck, cursing up a storm, ready to fight somebody, but nothing's wrong. You're sitting looking like your best friend died but nothing wrong? A simple I don't wanna talk about it would a whole lot better (and more honest) than nothing.

her: if you wanna go, go
him: nah, i'm straight

How da ef you straight if all we do is fight and you constantly saying you wish you never met her. move on. bounce. stop being selfish.

Either that or you try to be so hard acting like you don't care if she go KNOWING that you want her to stay so yall can work it out.

[Chal™]

1). Women would you go "experimental" in the bedroom with another woman if your man asked you to?

I know I'm always preaching "never say never" so I'll just say that I can't see myself doing that in the foreseeable future.

2). We all know there is no one size fits all for anyone, but is there one position that you all generally gets you off more than any other? [Feel free to skip this one if it's too personal]

Yes

3). Do you find that women or men are more hostile to you in the work place?

A bit of both, but for different reasons.

4). Does your answer change if the man/woman is your superior? What if they're you're subordinate - any change in answer?

No

5). What is the first thing you notice about a man? What is the last thing?

1st - His eyes. Last - His overall look. I look at the individual parts and then the big picture.

6). Do you think there's anything wrong with a man who's more in touch with his feminine side? Could you be attracted to him in spite of it?

There's nothing wrong with him per se, but I won't be attracted to him.

7). Is there any role that is uniquely for women? uniquely for men? If not - does that mean that every role is interchangeable (roles: in industry, home, church, organizations, etc)

No man can raise a girl to be a Woman, i don't care what anyone says. No woman can raise a boy to be a Man. Again, I don't care what anyone says.

8). Do you use silent treatment, tears, arguments to get your way? If you do does this constitute emotional abuse?

No. If I'm giving you the "silent treatment" it's because I don't wanna say anything that will lead to the argument and tears.

9). What is your favorite fragance to smell on a man? What is the worst (outside of HI KARATE)?

actually, I don't have a favorite fragrance. I love the fresh out the shower scent. I can't pick a certain fragrance because it doesn't smell the same on every guy.

10). How do you like to see your man's hair? Any style that you don't like?

neatly trimmed around the edged. not too much on the top and sides, but not to low either. waves are a plus. OR, if the shape is right, there is nothing like a shiny, smooth, bald head, BUT the facial hair gotta be on point. can't be bald with a naked face, too. lol

Mohawks, jheri curls, and braids are a no no

[Julie Art]

Wow @ Fatal. Is it true that once you see your baby you forget all about the pain?

[Bunny Hop]

1). When you ask us our opinion - aren't you really just asking for us to validate what your position is or do you really want to hear our opinion?
No...I stopped fishing for answers when I realized how silly and annoying it was (it kept happening to me). When I ask for an opinion then that's exactly what I want to hear.

2). Do you all admit when you're wrong?
I'm learning to...I'm a work in progress.

3). If you admit when you are wrong - does it take coaxing - or will you admit it without being prompted?
It depends. Sometimes it needs to be pointed out, sometimes I need to go think on it myself and sometimes as soon as I say/hear something I know it.

4). Do you trust your girls around your men? If not - who do you trust least, your man, or your girls?
I trust my girls. I don't have a lot of friends so the ones that are here are the ones that I trust. If I can't trust a woman around my man she is not a friend. Many times it's not my friends that are suspect.

5). If your man was losing a fight, would you hit the other dude with a foreign object to help him out?
Hell yeah....I'd find the biggest thing that would do the most damage. I'm not going to just stand there screaming like a girl and watch.

6). Do you expect a man to defend your honor? If you are disrespected do you expect him to speak up and demand a redress on your behalf?
I expect my man to defend my honor. I have maybe 1 or 2 guy friends that would do so. Outside of them I don't expect it.

7). How do you show a man that you respect him?
I listen, I try things his way, I do things he likes, I tell him, I help him, I support him, etc.

8). In your opinion are men appreciative or do they take much of what women do for granted?
I think many times yall take us for granted without realizing it. Maybe you all just get comfortable and feel like we'll be here.

9). Name 3 Things you wish all men would learn about women?
*We need you to LISTEN
*Respect my views, opinions, feelings, etc.
*Understand that we know you better than you think and we are aware of more things than you think we are.

10). Name the Top 5 things that men do that annoy you the most (include ties if you must)
1. Leaving those little black hairs on the sink after shaving.
2. Having no tissue, napkins or paper towels
3. Having no hand soap
Those are the 3 that come to mind first.

p.s. is 10 questions too much? I'm just trying to get this thread rolling.
Nope...it's kind of fun. Makes me think about a lot of stuff.

[Bunny Hop]

1). Women would you go "experimental" in the bedroom with another woman if your man asked you to?
I'm going to say that there's a 96% chance that I will not be doing this. I'll leave the 4% for the "never say never."

2). We all know there is no one size fits all for anyone, but is there one position that you all generally gets you off more than any other? [Feel free to skip this one if it's too personal]

yes and that's all I'll say, LOL.

3). Do you find that women or men are more hostile to you in the work place?
IDK...I've been in a lab and I've been in retail so I think it depends on the environment. At the lab no but retail yes. The men are pretty doggone petty but women are worse.

4). Does your answer change if the man/woman is your superior? What if they're you're subordinate - any change in answer?
Yes, especially in retail. Folks really get off on being your superior and they to make you feel like you owe them something. Beesh please I've become very weary of some of the women I work with...I know suspect behavior when I see it.

5). What is the first thing you notice about a man? What is the last thing?
IDK...I think I just look at a guy's face/head period. I think I take it all in at once...hairstyle, facial hair, skin, teeth, lips, eyes, etc.

6). Do you think there's anything wrong with a man who's more in touch with his feminine side? Could you be attracted to him in spite of it?
I can't get with a guy that is more feminine than me. I just can't do it.

7). Is there any role that is uniquely for women? uniquely for men? If not - does that mean that every role is interchangeable (roles: in industry, home, church, organizations, etc)
I want to say no but sometimes I just don't know. I really hate gender roles though. I'm more of the mind that couples should do what works for them and if it falls along the lines of "traditional" gender roles then so be it. I just don't like "I am the woman so I do A,B, and C. You are the man so you do X, Y, and Z."

8). Do you use silent treatment, tears, arguments to get your way? If you do does this constitute emotional abuse?
LOL @ emotional abuse. Emotions, usually strong ones, bring these things out of me...I don't do it thinking "I want to get my way so let me cry/not talk/argue." These particular things are my ways of dealing with the situation. I might do some other stuff to get my way ;D

9). What is your favorite fragance to smell on a man? What is the worst (outside of HI KARATE)?
Whatever Alc wears is great. I don't really keep up with that stuff so whatever he buys always smells good.

10). How do you like to see your man's hair? Any style that you don't like?
I do not like men with heat styled hair. I do not like men with texture altering chemicals in their hair. I didn't like it when I had a perm and I sure don't like it now. I'm not a big fan of some freeform locs, mainly the really big ones. I'm ok with everything else.

[Vudu_Prince]

Interesting responses thus far...

[QueenOH]

9) My favorite smell on a man is frankincense and myrrh

The worst smell is anything that smacks me in the face when you are 50 yards away. Don't bath in it. Also I dislike that Axe stuff

10) I can't stand a man that has better hair than me. Lucky for Blac he looks good bald. But I sometimes like to see locs on a man (not every man looks good with locs)

[QueenOH]

7) The gender role that is for men in my life is spider killer. I don't care if you are only a friend if you are just as scared of spiders as I am then you are not useful at all to me

[QueenOH]

8) I can't use the silent treatment because if something is bothering me then you are going to hear about it. Unless I feel like it doesn't involve you and I want to work out the emotions on my own. I don't like to cry in front of people (I use to use the tears on my dad when I was young) so no go on using tears. I can argue you into seeing my way then I will use that.

Arguments are not emotional abuse, they are a way of getting strong feelings out rather than bottling them up only to have them come out in surprising and violent ways later

[FatalDST]

Jun 14, 2010 19:05:42 GMT -5 Julie Art said:

Wow @ Fatal. Is it true that once you see your baby you forget all about the pain?

Hell naw, dont believe that shit! I was like aww, he so cute.. they said you want to hold him, I said not really! LOL I was cold (literally trembling), tired, & hungry (hadden eaten in over 24 hrs)! You have pain afterwards, atleast I did... like I said though, not sure how it feels after a vaginal delivery.. People think csec is the easy way out, but its not, recovery is alot longer and harder... your cookie kinda "bounces back"..LOL

[QueenOH]

Jun 15, 2010 8:30:57 GMT -5 FatalDST said:

Jun 14, 2010 19:05:42 GMT -5 Julie Art said:

Wow @ Fatal. Is it true that once you see your baby you forget all about the pain?

Hell naw, dont believe that shit! I was like aww, he so cute.. they said you want to hold him, I said not really! LOL I was cold (literally trembling), tired, & hungry (hadden eaten in over 24 hrs)! You have pain afterwards, atleast I did... like I said though, not sure how it feels after a vaginal delivery.. People think csec is the easy way out, but its not, recovery is alot longer and harder... your cookie kinda "bounces back"..LOL

I bled for a month aftwerward and I had to get stitches. A baby doesn't make it better because while I'm exhausted I can't rest yet because I have a baby to take care of.

[FatalDST]

I bled for 5 wks too! I stoped the week before my 6 week check-up... then a week after, I started my regular cycle! (sorry if this is TMI for the men)... yes, you are exhausted, because you dont get any rest at the hospital either, and you have to tend to a newborn now.. and if you are cut like me, it's hard to pick him up, hard to stand up, hard to sit down, hard to lay down. Walking kinda slumped for a couple days cause your stomach muscles just useless and you are trying to be extra careful because you dont want to open that cut back up!

[Bunny Hop]

It's TMI for me, LOL. Yall are scaring me!!

[FatalDST]

LOL. Sorry Bhop! On the other hand though... It's amazing the love you have for this little person!!! Especially those days when you walk in the room after a long hard crazy day at work, school, wherever.. and they light up when they see you! Everything that went wrong that day, seems to magically disappear.

[QueenOH]

I'm not. They don't tell you these things in Sex Ed. You need to know.

I'm not having another kid because I don't want to go through it again. I don't know how my grandma had 12

[FatalDST]

Queen... >>>>> we here <<<< LOL

I said that when I was pregnant.. I dont see how a mickey fickey go through this time after time... I kept saying that Duggar heffa is a fucking machine yo! damn the Iotas.. she's half man half amazing! LOL

[BKupInHere]

:::lurk:::

[DamieQue™]

Jun 15, 2010 9:40:23 GMT -5 BKupInHere said:

:::lurk:::

How you gon' lurk in YOUR thread. Answer the questions HoneyDripper.

[DamieQue™]

1). How freaky is too freaky?

2). Did you/will you breast feed? Why or why not?

3). What do men compliment you on most? What do other women compliment you on most?

4). What are some of the tell-tale signs that lead you to believe a man is cheating?

5). Have you ever gotten involved in investigating another woman's man? If so why and what did you find out?

6). Do women really hold grudges longer or is this just a repeated stereotype?

7). If you have daughters, what will you teach them about women's hair?

8). How old where you when you were first allowed to wear make-up and date boys?

9). Ever snuck a boy in to your house or ever snuck out to meet one? If so what happened?

10). On a panel with Steve Harvey, Hill Harper, Sherri Shepperd, and Jackie Reid, at the end of the panel, they took comments from people in the crowd and one woman suggested, that women can't have it all. They can't be a successful wife, successful mother, and successful businesswoman, - that one of the 3 had to give? Do you agree? Why or why not?

[FatalDST]

1). How freaky is too freaky?

Depends on the person.. everyone has their limits.. I stop at my asshole! LOL

2). Did you/will you breast feed? Why or why not?

No. I couldn't. I had a breast reduction back in the day.

3). What do men compliment you on most? What do other women compliment you on most?

Lately, my hair/locs. But I have been complimented on my smile, teeth, and skin...

4). What are some of the tell-tale signs that lead you to believe a man is cheating?

Stay out longer and later, not calling communicating...

5). Have you ever gotten involved in investigating another woman's man? If so why and what did you find out?

Not really. I might help with general info, like looking up a marriage license (which is public info).. but never too detailed

6). Do women really hold grudges longer or is this just a repeated stereotype?

some women do... I try not to hold on like that, but sometimes, that mother fucker (whoever you mad at) pisses you off all over again when you see them!

7). If you have daughters, what will you teach them about women's hair?

I have a boy, but I will tell him her hair doesnt make her, by that I mean if she feels likes she wants long hair, short hair, locks, afro, whatever, be supportive, it her head, her decision! If he loves her.. then her hair won't shouldnt matter.. UNLESS, its a fucking mess, then he can suggest she go get it done! LOL

8). How old where you when you were first allowed to wear make-up and date boys?

I still dont really wear make-up.. every once in a while I will throw on eye-liner, maybe even a little eye shadow, but not very often at all.. I had my first boyfriend when I was 15.

9). Ever snuck a boy in to your house or ever snuck out to meet one? If so what happened?

Kinda. My parents were out of town. I never actually snuck out MY house cause we had burglar bars and my dad walked all damn night always checking on shit... I did sneak out of my friends house one night when I slept over, we both did...on this particular night, nothing really happened.. we just hung out, had a couple drinks then came back home. A crack head saw us and told.. we denied it of course!

10). On a panel with Steve Harvey, Hill Harper, Sherri Shepperd, and Jackie Reid, at the end of the panel, they took comments from people in the crowd and one woman suggested, that women can't have it all. They can't be a successful wife, successful mother, and successful businesswoman, - that one of the 3 had to give? Do you agree? Why or why not?[/color][/quote]

No, I dont agree. I havent been legally married, but common law for some years, and I did all of them at once in my opinion... just this past year, I was all of these, including a full time grad student.. so anything is possible with prayer and determination and support!

[BKupInHere]

Jun 15, 2010 9:42:58 GMT -5 DamieQue™ said:

Jun 15, 2010 9:40:23 GMT -5 BKupInHere said:

:::lurk:::

How you gon' lurk in YOUR thread. Answer the questions HoneyDripper.

ok

[Chal™]

1). How freaky is too freaky?

Too freaky is when you start straining body parts and breaking bones. Too freaky is when you try to go up in places you ain’t got no business going. Too freaky is 2 girls and a cup. lol

2). Did you/will you breast feed? Why or why not?

I want to say I will. At least for the duration of my recovery period up until about 3 or 4 months. Then again, baby just might be drinking formula.

3). What do men compliment you on most? What do other women compliment you on most?

Respectful Men – my eyes and smile Retarded Guys – my butt and chest Women – My skin, eyes, and smile


4). What are some of the tell-tale signs that lead you to believe a man is cheating?

The coded phone numbers, the coded texts, the late night ooh-i-need-to-take-this-call-in-the-bathroom-then-when-i-come-out-i-gotta-make-a-run, sometimes, there is a change in grooming habits, the preplanned fights to give him a reason to leave the house and stay out until tomorrow (“I had to clear my head”)…….

5). Have you ever gotten involved in investigating another woman's man? If so why and what did you find out?

Investigating, no. Actually seeing him with the chick, yes.

6). Do women really hold grudges longer or is this just a repeated stereotype?

Stereotype. We get our revenge and move on.

7). If you have daughters, what will you teach them about women's hair?

That they don’t have to conform to the creamy crack. That hair is beautiful whether it’s short and straight, long and nappy, and anywhere in between. That hair is not what makes you beautiful.

8). How old where you when you were first allowed to wear make-up and date boys?

Eyeliner (brown) and gloss (clear) 10th grade
Eyeliner (black or brown) and gloss (slightly tinted) 11th grade
Don’t wear anything else but eye shadow. Didn’t get into that until college

Date boys? HA!!! You didn’t know my moms (as in both of them). “Travis” was my “best friend” for 4 years before we announced that we were “together” lol

9). Ever snuck a boy in to your house or ever snuck out to meet one? If so what happened?
Oh goodness, I’ll be typing all day on this one.

10). On a panel with Steve Harvey, Hill Harper, Sherri Sheppard, and Jackie Reid, at the end of the panel, they took comments from people in the crowd and one woman suggested, that women can't have it all. They can't be a successful wife, successful mother, and successful businesswoman, - that one of the 3 had to give? Do you agree? Why or why not?

I disagree. It totally depends on the woman. If you can find the balance necessary to accomplish it, AND have the support of your family, it can be done. I think a good example of this is Jada Pinkett Smith.

[BKupInHere]

Jun 14, 2010 14:26:34 GMT -5 Coach said:

Why do women think men are so hard to understand??

A lot of women have no trouble talking about their issues. It goes along with the belief that "women are emotional"-we're EXPECTED to be upset and want to talk to somebody-ANYBODY about our problems/issues.

Men have been told for so long to "man up"; "keep it inside" ;"dont show your hand". Any man showing vulnerability is a no-no,even in this "ENLIGHTENED" day and age. Unfortunately some of us women will not wait for a man to open up and eventually share his problem. We browbeat him until his original problem is now MINIMAL to the annoying problem we've become to the man who needs quiet time.

[Bunny Hop]

1). How freaky is too freaky?
I'm not sure yet.

2). Did you/will you breast feed? Why or why not?
If I'm healthy enough to do so then absolutely. It's cheaper and healthier. I didn't know how much formula cost until I started ringing it up. That money could really be used for something else.

3). What do men compliment you on most? What do other women compliment you on most?
*men - my smile
*women - my hair

4). What are some of the tell-tale signs that lead you to believe a man is cheating?
It's usually a change in routine, rumors that are a little too true (if that makes sense), suspect behavior, etc.

5). Have you ever gotten involved in investigating another woman's man? If so why and what did you find out?
Oh goodness....yes, LOL. Once I didn't even know that we were stalking until she said "that's that bytches car right there" and went flying into a parking space. Another time it involved a good friend of mine. Her dude was lying all the time and I was "talking" to the friend, who was a bad liar. We spent way too much time trying to figure stuff out. They're married now

6). Do women really hold grudges longer or is this just a repeated stereotype?
I think it's a stereotype.

7). If you have daughters, what will you teach them about women's hair?
I will teach them to the love their naps. And if perming is what they want to do in high school then they need to do the research, present the findings to me, learn to properly take care of it and probably pay for the upkeep themselves. If having natural hair is an issue for them then they need to show me the alternative and that they understand what they're doing and why.

8). How old where you when you were first allowed to wear make-up and date boys?
Well I was never a make up wearer so it was never an issue. I just wore it for performances, pictures and proms. I had boyfriends in middle school but we didn't do much. When my first real boyfriend came along I was in high school and by that time she was somewhat ok with it. I think she put a lot of faith in me.

9). Ever snuck a boy in to your house or ever snuck out to meet one? If so what happened?
I didn't sneak out but I would have my HS boyfriend over when my mom was at work all of the time. When I got caught I got in BIIIIIGGGG trouble. I'll save the story on how I got caught for later, LMAO.

10). On a panel with Steve Harvey, Hill Harper, Sherri Shepperd, and Jackie Reid, at the end of the panel, they took comments from people in the crowd and one woman suggested, that women can't have it all. They can't be a successful wife, successful mother, and successful businesswoman, - that one of the 3 had to give? Do you agree? Why or why not?
I do not agree. That woman is sad. Maybe they don't all come at once or maybe it'll be hard but I think it's possible. If she wants to settle and have that defeated outlook then that's fine but I can't accept that. Besides success is different for everyone and you won't even know if you were successful at all of these things for many years. I personally just want to be happy and loved.

[Coach]

1) Seriously, whats up with the shoes?? I've seen women have damn near 100 pairs of shoes..some of which were only worn once n twice.

2)When you wear revealing outfits that show skin and/or cleavage, do you really get offended when someone looks and/or stare?

3) How do you REALLY feel about brother dating outside the race?
3a)What about seeing a sister date outside the race?

4)How is that when we first meet you, you always wear thongs, boy-shorts, g-strings, hell sometimes no underwear at all. But ass soon we get into a deep committed relationship, you start wear the underwear that cover thee whole ass.....can a brother see a lil cheek every now and then??