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Post by DSTspr98 on Jul 15, 2008 10:38:14 GMT -5
(C & P from YBF)
Will Smith has confirmed what damn near everybody has suspected for several years now about he and Jada’s “open marriage”. In an interview with UK magazine Reveal, Willy himself has confirmed that he and Jada ask for each other’s approval before they have sex with other people. And I quote:
“Our perspective is, you don’t avoid what’s natural and you’re going to be attracted to people.” he says.
“And if it came down to it, then one would say to the other: ‘Look, I need to have sex with somebody. Now, I’m not going to if you don’t approve of it’.”
The 39-year-old star explains that the couple’s open policy has been in place from day one of their 10-year marriage.
“In our marriage vows, we didn’t say ‘forsaking all others’. We said ‘you will never hear I did something afterwards’. Because if that happens the relationship is destroyed.”
Other things that Will says are important in his relationship are keeping in shape for his “little firecracker” Jada, the “look in her eyes”, and communication.
“And lots of sex makes for a good marriage too!”
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Post by Bathroom Model on Jul 15, 2008 10:44:20 GMT -5
I'm so against this!!!
I just couldn't give my husband permission to have sex with anyone else.
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Post by T-Rex91 on Jul 15, 2008 10:44:37 GMT -5
*ain't married to no one*
a 10 year hollywood marriage is rare. Will and Jada recently said divorce was not an option so they just needed to figure out what they needed to do to stay together. This for them is it. It's not a choice I'd make but swinging is more common than you'd think. I'd heard that Monique has this arrangement too.
It's interesting that the article ends with him talking about what he does to keep Jada happy. Shows he's not just out swinging because he's checked out on her.
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Post by Southie on Jul 15, 2008 10:45:41 GMT -5
If that works for them, I can not get mad. Not many people can honestly handle that type of situaion. I think MoNique has a similar arrangement.
I remember her stating that infidelity is not a dealbreaker.
(something like that)
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Post by Highly Favored on Jul 15, 2008 10:50:32 GMT -5
I'm so against this!!! I just couldn't give my husband permission to have sex with anyone else. I feel this way, too. |
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Post by DSTspr98 on Jul 15, 2008 10:51:57 GMT -5
If that works for them, I can not get mad. Not many people can honestly handle that type of situaion. I think MoNique has a similar arrangement. I remember her stating that infidelity is not a dealbreaker. (something like that) Very true. It is im what works for you and your family. I also recall Mo saying something to the effect of not leaving her husband because he cheated. Is this becoming the answer to reducing the divorce rate? Stay married but if it happens to get stale there's the "open marriage" clause? |
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Post by DSTspr98 on Jul 15, 2008 10:53:20 GMT -5
I'm so against this!!! I just couldn't give my husband permission to have sex with anyone else. Yeah, I can see that being tough for just about any woman. How comfortable would 1 wife have to be to accept this arrangement? |
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Post by 123Diva on Jul 15, 2008 10:53:54 GMT -5
My thing is if this is the arrangement, why get married?
Just be unmarried swingers.
To me, marriage connotates a lifelong commitment to one person.
I wonder if Will and Jada have actually slept with other people yet during the course of their marriage, or if this is just an 'if...then' statement.
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Post by DSTspr98 on Jul 15, 2008 10:55:38 GMT -5
*ain't married to no one* a 10 year hollywood marriage is rare. Will and Jada recently said divorce was not an option so they just needed to figure out what they needed to do to stay together. This for them is it. It's not a choice I'd make but swinging is more common than you'd think. I'd heard that Monique has this arrangement too. It's interesting that the article ends with him talking about what he does to keep Jada happy. Shows he's not just out swinging because he's checked out on her. ^^^This is true. I saw them on "Expose" last week and that man LOVES him some Jada. However they do it, it seems to be the right mix for them to stay happy. |
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Post by CrimsonENDvy on Jul 15, 2008 10:57:34 GMT -5
Yeaaaahhhhhhh boooyyyyyy!!!!! So this means if I ever meet him I can have that opportunity!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm just kidding. On one hand its pretty cool that they have so much trust, but on the other hand it's a little disturbing...I mean how does he know for sure all those kids are his? It has two sides but in the end it looks that it can only end badly. Folks forget about feelin's and stuff lol.
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Post by T-Rex91 on Jul 15, 2008 10:59:53 GMT -5
Cuz those lil boggers look JUST like him. and i'd hope that protection was MANDATORY for any outside trysts
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Post by Bathroom Model on Jul 15, 2008 11:00:18 GMT -5
My thing is if this is the arrangement, why get married?
Just be unmarried swingers.To me, marriage connotates a lifelong commitment to one person. I wonder if Will and Jada have actually slept with other people yet during the course of their marriage, or if this is just an 'if...then' statement. Excatly. In that case what is adultery? Some believe that it means before marraige other believe within marriage. if your marriage is open. How do you explain this to your kids. |
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Post by DSTspr98 on Jul 15, 2008 11:01:05 GMT -5
My thing is if this is the arrangement, why get married? Just be unmarried swingers. To me, marriage connotates a lifelong commitment to one person. I wonder if Will and Jada have actually slept with other people yet during the course of their marriage, or if this is just an 'if...then' statement. Of course rumors about Will & Charlize started up again with his latest movie Hancock. I really think it was just done to create buzz around the movie. LOL @ Just be unmarried swingers. I hear ya. |
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Post by Southie on Jul 15, 2008 11:05:22 GMT -5
I guess they want to redefine the boundaries of marriage, to fit their personal interest.
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Post by DSTspr98 on Jul 15, 2008 11:06:06 GMT -5
Yeaaaahhhhhhh boooyyyyyy!!!!! So this means if I ever meet him I can have that opportunity!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm just kidding. On one hand its pretty cool that they have so much trust, but on the other hand it's a little disturbing...I mean how does he know for sure all those kids are his? It has two sides but in the end it looks that it can only end badly. Folks forget about feelin's and stuff lol. LOL, ROFL! Soror now you know women out there placin themselves in position to get at Big Will. They plottin as we speak.  Wow... didn't think about the impact on the children. That's another noteworthy angle. Now in terms of DNA... all them kids look like him & Jada. Then again we've seen that go wrong on Maury, oh well. |
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Post by CrimsonENDvy on Jul 15, 2008 11:19:00 GMT -5
Yeaaaahhhhhhh boooyyyyyy!!!!! So this means if I ever meet him I can have that opportunity!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm just kidding. On one hand its pretty cool that they have so much trust, but on the other hand it's a little disturbing...I mean how does he know for sure all those kids are his? It has two sides but in the end it looks that it can only end badly. Folks forget about feelin's and stuff lol. LOL, ROFL! Soror now you know women out there placin themselves in position to get at Big Will. They plottin as we speak. Wow... didn't think about the impact on the children. That's another noteworthy angle. Now in terms of DNA... all them kids look like him & Jada. Then again we've seen that go wrong on Maury, oh well. Lmao. They shole do look like him. And yeah you're right DSTOH I'm sure they do use protection. Maybe I need to strategically plan a trip to LA...and strategically end up outside his house in lingerie...lmao!! ...okay let me come back to Earth...  |
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Post by Bunny Hop on Jul 15, 2008 11:21:02 GMT -5
My thing is if this is the arrangement, why get married? Just be unmarried swingers. To me, marriage connotates a lifelong commitment to one person. I wonder if Will and Jada have actually slept with other people yet during the course of their marriage, or if this is just an 'if...then' statement. I'd think that at the end of the day and when it's all said and done then you have to one you love to come home to. This might turn out to be a temporary thing for them and then it'll just be the two of them at some point. Granted it's not something that I could do but if it's what keeps that family together and happy then I say go for it. |
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Post by T-Rex91 on Jul 15, 2008 11:44:55 GMT -5
I had invested ~300 pages into Ossie and Ruby's autobiography and they dropped this bombshell on me. They were swingers too. I was like WTF? Maybe more common than you think.................................
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Post by DSTspr98 on Jul 15, 2008 11:46:54 GMT -5
LOL, ROFL! Soror now you know women out there placin themselves in position to get at Big Will. They plottin as we speak. Wow... didn't think about the impact on the children. That's another noteworthy angle. Now in terms of DNA... all them kids look like him & Jada. Then again we've seen that go wrong on Maury, oh well. Lmao. They shole do look like him. And yeah you're right DSTOH I'm sure they do use protection. Maybe I need to strategically plan a trip to LA...and strategically end up outside his house in lingerie...lmao!! ...okay let me come back to Earth... Soror, MAKE IT HAPPEN! Report back to the Coleman Thread with details...LOL, ROFL. ;-) |
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Post by ReignMan19 on Jul 15, 2008 11:58:37 GMT -5
You guys bring up some very interesting points... hmmm
but it still boils down to self control...
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Post by The Elect Lady on Jul 15, 2008 12:12:57 GMT -5
I'm sorry, but nothing about this seems like a good idea. For me, sex is more then a physical act. My emotions get involved also. And I believe that emotional cheating is just as bad as sexual cheating...
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Post by DSTspr98 on Jul 15, 2008 12:26:54 GMT -5
I had invested ~300 pages into Ossie and Ruby's autobiography and they dropped this bombshell on me. They were swingers too. I was like WTF? Maybe more common than you think................................. Wow, are you serious? As Southie mentioned, talk about redefining marrital boundaries. |
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Post by T-Rex91 on Jul 15, 2008 12:38:27 GMT -5
Yep, NEVER would have believed it if it hadn't come from them in their own words.................
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Post by Cambist on Jul 15, 2008 12:41:54 GMT -5
Sounds like it's a good idea.
Y'all dont know if your grandaddy is really your biological granddaddy.
It's about what works. Will and Jada have been married for 10 years. Ossie and Ruby for-e-ver. Take those two couples and juxtapose them on the majority of other Hollywood marriages and tell me what works and what doesn't.
It's not for everyone -this is true. But if it's for them, then it is what it is. I DOUBT that they go out every week and have sex with someone else. I didn't read it like that.
Again, if marriage is supposed to be forever then you'd better figure out how you want to live the rest of your days....and better yet, how you DON'T.
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Post by 123Diva on Jul 15, 2008 12:42:00 GMT -5
I'll be damned if sleeping with other people is what i feel I have to do to keep my marriage together. Again, just stay single.
Marriage is such a sham these days.
Marriage is not for everybody. Perhaps it's not for the person who cannot fathom staying faithful to one person forever.
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Post by 123Diva on Jul 15, 2008 12:43:07 GMT -5
Now I like Will and Jada as a couple and I believe that they truly lovely each other and yes to each his/her own, but I am baffled by this arrangement.
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Post by Cambist on Jul 15, 2008 12:47:05 GMT -5
What baffles you? They made a decision as to what would keep them happy. They didn't say that they would live double lives and each have long term lovers on the side. They just simply addressed one of the two most frequent causes of divorce: money and infidelity.
Money? Well, it's Will and Jada. No problem there.
So they addressed this by saying, "We are together forever and this is how we will handle this other issue since divorce is not an option."
I don't see anything wrong with it.
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Post by 123Diva on Jul 15, 2008 12:53:42 GMT -5
I don't think that that's truly being 'together.'
I am baffled because when I think of marriage I think of 2 people being committed and faithful to each other and part of that means not sharing their body with anyone else. So this redefining of marriage is what I am confused by. And of course I say that realizing that plenty of folks do it anyway, but simply haven't agreed to it.
What's wrong with staying single (unmarried) if monogomy is not for you?
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Post by Bathroom Model on Jul 15, 2008 12:53:43 GMT -5
I'll be damned if sleeping with other people is what i feel I have to do to keep my marriage together. Again, just stay single. Marriage is such a sham these days. Marriage is not for everybody. Perhaps it's not for the person who cannot fathom staying faithful to one person forever. Honey, I am just as outraged. I believe that marriage like a lot of things in life is a sacrifice. You just can't have it ALL. In any situation. The more I find out that people are so easily accepting of things that are so obviously wrong I realize that hell is going to overcrowded. I'm going to try and live my life right until then... |
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Post by ReignMan19 on Jul 15, 2008 12:58:02 GMT -5
So do we continue to look at Will and Jada as a strong black couple??
(interested in the responses)
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