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Post by DamieQue™ on Jun 3, 2010 13:50:03 GMT -5
@ Damie... I'm standing at the scorer's table just waiting on the buzzer, and the ref to signal me in..... |
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Post by Coldfront06 on Jun 3, 2010 13:52:05 GMT -5
Uh HELLO!!!!!!!! If a woman says, "I am unhappy in this relationship and this is why," if you're not gonna work at making things better, why not just let go instead of string her along? People in general will string someone along as long as they feel like they can still get some benefit out of the situation. |
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Post by DamieQue™ on Jun 3, 2010 13:53:02 GMT -5
Uh HELLO!!!!!!!! If a woman says, "I am unhappy in this relationship and this is why," if you're not gonna work at making things better, why not just let go instead of string her along? |
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Post by Chal™ on Jun 3, 2010 13:55:49 GMT -5
umm hmmm @ Cold <=== thinking of more questions @ Damie Touche!! ;D Uh HELLO!!!!!!!! If a woman says, "I am unhappy in this relationship and this is why," if you're not gonna work at making things better, why not just let go instead of string her along? |
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Post by Bigs on Jun 3, 2010 15:07:38 GMT -5
I'm not sure I understand this question, I think it's in response to Blu, but I'll venture a response anyway. A man can't give you the respect that only you can provide for yourself. It's important how you view yourself and thus carry yourself. Most often, that's how men are going to see you.
It's not a fool proof system (i.e. just because you carry yourself as a queen doesn't mean some knucklehead won't come at you sideways) but most women who are respected by men, have a respect for themselves that they project. Why not just treat the woman as a woman regardless of what she projects? I still do treat women as women... But not every woman deserves your utmost respect. I don't treat every woman with the same reverance as my mom, aunts, cousin, ex-wife, etc... What you project is a lot of times what you're gonna get back... Just as women don't treat all men the same way even though you understand they are a man. |
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Post by Coach on Jun 3, 2010 15:20:33 GMT -5
@ Damie... I'm standing at the scorer's table just waiting on the buzzer, and the ref to signal me in..... shit, i still got my warm up on. lol |
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Post by BKupInHere on Jun 3, 2010 16:56:02 GMT -5
:lurk:
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Post by peppermint on Jun 4, 2010 20:49:15 GMT -5
@ Damie... I'm standing at the scorer's table just waiting on the buzzer, and the ref to signal me in..... It is often said, a man dogs a woman out because she doesn't "require" more. Now that can range from being down right rude to cheating. Why does someone need to require you to open a door or be upfront about what you want? |
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Post by dappa on Jun 4, 2010 21:03:22 GMT -5
What's with the double standard? Its the way the world works. Some work for men and some work for women. |
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Post by dappa on Jun 4, 2010 21:04:20 GMT -5
Why do guys (mostly the shorter ones, sorry reign) feel the need to tell me they could (of course they won't) fight my husband? Because either he dissed them or they are nuts, one or the other lol. |
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Post by dappa on Jun 4, 2010 21:11:42 GMT -5
1. Do men in general struggle with the Madonna/whore issue? 2. Do men often assert themselves non-verbally around other men or is it only in the mind of the man? 3. Why won't "some" men (honestly, younger ones IMO) admit if another man is handsome? 4. What are some advantages of becoming a older man? 5. What are some of the hardest things to come to terms with growing older? 6. How often do you really require sex? 7. Can you ever get burned out on sex? 8. Do you enjoy your prescribed roles or do you basically "do you"? 9. Around other men do you bond more because of your Blackness or your Maleness? 10, Why are some men SO offended by gay men? 11. Why do men who claim to LOVE women, use terms like "punk ass" "pussy ass" and "bitch ass" to degrade another man? 12. Why do men take the expression of love/affection/sexual attraction; oral...and assign it as the ultimate display of degradation..."suck my Dick" - THEN wonder why some women don't want to do it? Ok...that's all for now. 1. No, you are a hoe or your not. That grey area sh$t is for women. 2. non-verbally because most men speak the same language. 3. Cause we do not do that. 4. Knowing yourself and what what will and will not put up with. 5. You gotta show younger dudes not to test you lol. 6. twice a week 7. No deal with it 8. What is the role? 9. If it is mostly bruhs then usually it is both. 10. Never cared. I am not gay and that is what counts. 11. If it walks like a duck..... 12. I do not know dudes who do that, sorry. |
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Post by dappa on Jun 4, 2010 21:13:36 GMT -5
Why do [some] men find it so hard to admit they need someone? Why does everything have to turn into a "my nuts are bigger than yours" contest? Why can't you just admit that you're wrong? Why do [some] men wait until it's too late to try and "fix" things? Why not just do right all along? 1. We are judged by our independence 2. Men compete, it is what it is 3. never 4. Easy, we are not kids to whom you command. Women love to try to order men around and that does not work. |
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Post by dappa on Jun 4, 2010 21:14:27 GMT -5
I'm not sure I understand this question, I think it's in response to Blu, but I'll venture a response anyway. A man can't give you the respect that only you can provide for yourself. It's important how you view yourself and thus carry yourself. Most often, that's how men are going to see you.
It's not a fool proof system (i.e. just because you carry yourself as a queen doesn't mean some knucklehead won't come at you sideways) but most women who are respected by men, have a respect for themselves that they project. Why not just treat the woman as a woman regardless of what she projects? Because not all women are equal. |
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Post by dappa on Jun 4, 2010 21:16:13 GMT -5
lol Why can't you guys just say what's on you mind instead of expecting us to guess what's wrong? Pot meet kettle |
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Post by Chal™ on Jun 4, 2010 21:35:46 GMT -5
lol @ Pot meet Kettle
I'm not the Pot. I speak my mind in the most non-nagging way possible. Apparently, even that is a problem
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Post by peppermint on Jun 4, 2010 21:47:53 GMT -5
Why not just treat the woman as a woman regardless of what she projects? Because not all women are equal. What does that have to do with basic human decency? |
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Post by Gee-Are on Jun 5, 2010 13:26:56 GMT -5
Because not all women are equal. What does that have to do with basic human decency? Hmmm... Let's say 2 women are walking towards a man. One is composed, head up, dressed nicely (sundress and sandals), bright smile, etc. The second woman is swtiching the hips, smacking gum, has a stank attitude, and dressed in twathuggers. She still looks good, but to which one is the man going to say the following: " 'Scuse me m'lady, but it is a hot summer's day, and I do b'lieve that you shall burn if you have not applied the proper SPF to your epidermis. Oh my, it is the Queen's tea time, shall we trot to the local cafe' to escape the sweltering fire of this cursed star!..." Realistically, probably neither, both WILL get looks or the staredown, and when approached, believe that what is said to both will be markedly different, just based upon the NON-VERBAL communication they've already given. |
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Post by Gee-Are on Jun 5, 2010 14:32:29 GMT -5
1. Do men in general struggle with the Madonna/whore issue? No, just understand that once you've shown that your Madonna is rooming with a whore, don't get mad when the man wants to ask her out more than the Madonna. 2. Do men often assert themselves non-verbally around other men or is it only in the mind of the man? I will say man laws do exist, rules only picked up or communicated by hanging out with other men. For some of the nuances, maybe you have to be told, but for the most part, men don't want to have to waste energy saying, "Ay dude...I've looked at you sideways 2x already. You gonna just keep [insert violation here]?" 3. Why won't "some" men (honestly, younger ones IMO) admit if another man is handsome? Why is it necessary to do that? Paying compliments is not an issue, e.g., "Hey man that's a nice suit, tie, etc.," but generally this situation you're asking about comes up when the person discussed is not even around or not a part of the conversation. Example to follow... If David is not going to hear the compliment directly, Roger can't be sure that what he said will be communicated properly. How does it look when David hears 2nd hand..."Roger said you look nice in that suit today..." David's face --->   Roger's face --->  4. What are some advantages of becoming a older man? Generally, you're considered to have the appearance of being wiser. So it gives you at least a few points ahead over the younger you, unless you really learned nothing and open your mouth to reveal that fact. Also as someone said earlier, you've claimed the right, whether earned or not, to truly say what the f*ck you want, because can't nobody tell you different. 5. What are some of the hardest things to come to terms with growing older? 1" lost on your vertical 6. How often do you really require sex? Not ALWAYS about frequency...Sometimes, a man just wants to bust a nut. Then it's about frequency, but it can also be about quality. So, then I'd say, enough to put you to sleep. When he feels like he really put it down, because you're knocked out, droolin', and twitchin' (ain't no fakin' it) that's pretty satisfying. 7. Can you ever get burned out on sex? On sex in general...no. On sex with the same woman, if it ain't fresh and exciting,..I guess. Even then...it's sex. What? 8. Do you enjoy your prescribed roles or do you basically "do you"? With anything, if you're taken for granted then it can be frustrating, but I would venture to say that most men embrace the ability and responsibility to provide for their own. 9. Around other men do you bond more because of your Blackness or your Maleness? Men are able to find all reasons to bond with other people. If it's a man who is black - both manhood and blackness If it is a man who is not black - manhood If it is a woman who is black - blackness and she has the goodies... If it is a woman who is not black - she has the goodies... See, every black man is like Gandhi! ;D  10, Why are some men SO offended by gay men? Damie, answered this fairly well for those situations when the men are acting like women or even going so far as to claim to be women, and want you to acknowledge that rites of passage. For those that don't act that way, I guess it's not that much of a problem. 11. Why do men who claim to LOVE women, use terms like "punk ass" "pussy ass" and "bitch ass" to degrade another man? Women don't like to be called bitch either, right? So it's the perfect insult... eh, I got nothin' 12. Why do men take the expression of love/affection/sexual attraction; oral...and assign it as the ultimate display of degradation..."suck my Dick" - THEN wonder why some women don't want to do it? Ok...that's all for now. It may not be a display of degradation. He could be really asking you to do it, just more assertively. Let's say you're at the mall with your man...stuff is poppin' off and getting heated, and in a moment of ultimate tension, the dude says, "Suck my D!ck!"  He might really want you to take him in the back of Forever 21 and do the damn thang. Think about how great that argument would end for him. Why's everything got to be so complicated...  |
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Post by Gee-Are on Jun 5, 2010 15:15:03 GMT -5
Why do many men have a need to fix things for other people? Because obviously, if they knew how to fix it, it wouldn't be in the state that it is. Seeing as how men know how to fix damn near everything, why wouldn't we? Better question, why do women want to keep telling men about all the stuff that is wrong in their life, then say, "I don't want you to fix it, just listen."? Ummm, you like being broken and in disrepair? |
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Post by DamieQue™ on Jun 7, 2010 7:17:44 GMT -5
R O T F L - jump in dude. Maybe you can answer Pep's question better than me, cause I don't think I understood it. It is often said, a man dogs a woman out because she doesn't "require" more. Now that can range from being down right rude to cheating. Why does someone need to require you to open a door or be upfront about what you want?
And I guess to me, this shouldn't be a foreign concept, as women have had D!ck-on-Dial for years. Outside of that midnight rendezvous, you don't want to have anything to do with him. |
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Post by QueenOH on Jun 7, 2010 8:35:34 GMT -5
Why do many men have a need to fix things for other people? Because obviously, if they knew how to fix it, it wouldn't be in the state that it is. Seeing as how men know how to fix damn near everything, why wouldn't we? Better question, why do women want to keep telling men about all the stuff that is wrong in their life, then say, "I don't want you to fix it, just listen."? Ummm, you like being broken and in disrepair? Sometimes you just gotta listen. Maybe I want to fix it. I'm just not going to do it right this moment. |
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Post by Chal™ on Jun 7, 2010 8:40:42 GMT -5
And I guess to me, this shouldn't be a foreign concept, as women have had D!ck-on-Dial for years. Outside of that midnight rendezvous, you don't want to have anything to do with him. [/color][/quote] Hmmm. Interesting. |
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Post by DamieQue™ on Jun 7, 2010 8:46:13 GMT -5
And I guess to me, this shouldn't be a foreign concept, as women have had D!ck-on-Dial for years. Outside of that midnight rendezvous, you don't want to have anything to do with him. [/color][/quote] Hmmm. Interesting. [/quote] What? Y'all don't have D.O.D.? Aren't there dudes who (based on things you see) you know have no future with you other than pipe-laying when you send the bat signal?
Y'all be fronting - LOL |
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Post by Chal™ on Jun 7, 2010 8:56:13 GMT -5
i'm not saying it doesn't happen. Just apparently, I've missed out on this "necessity." I've only screwed 2 dudes in my entire life, and neither of them were in the D.O.D. category.
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Post by QueenOH on Jun 7, 2010 9:15:35 GMT -5
Why do teen boys go around punching each other in the balls?
(see the sack tapping thread)
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Post by Vudu_Prince on Jun 7, 2010 10:11:55 GMT -5
R O T F L - jump in dude. Maybe you can answer Pep's question better than me, cause I don't think I understood it. It is often said, a man dogs a woman out because she doesn't "require" more. Now that can range from being down right rude to cheating. Why does someone need to require you to open a door or be upfront about what you want?Also most men are upfront about what we want. Thing is stop Lucy Van Pelting the pussy. Yanno "cmon Charlie Brown kick the ball " then at the last minute you snatch it away and we know how that story ends. Then you're upset when you THINK you meet the perfect guy who actually wants less than the last dude but SELLS more. Yall have a "relationship" for 3-6 months and then he gives you the " I need my space" speech. |
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Post by BKupInHere on Jun 9, 2010 9:43:13 GMT -5
:lurk part 2:
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Post by Vudu_Prince on Jun 9, 2010 9:46:44 GMT -5
I know you're not without words madam. Speaketh! |
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Post by BKupInHere on Jun 9, 2010 9:48:36 GMT -5
I know you're not without words madam. Speaketh! Nope! I will LISTEN so I can LEARN. :lurk part 3: |
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Post by MochaD on Jun 9, 2010 9:51:43 GMT -5
^^ Sup Homie! How have you been?
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