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Post by LogAKAlly <3'n Keef on Jun 2, 2010 22:39:01 GMT -5
1. Do men in general struggle with the Madonna/whore issue?
2. Do men often assert themselves non-verbally around other men or is it only in the mind of the man?
3. Why won't "some" men (honestly, younger ones IMO) admit if another man is handsome?
4. What are some advantages of becoming a older man?
5. What are some of the hardest things to come to terms with growing older?
6. How often do you really require sex?
7. Can you ever get burned out on sex?
8. Do you enjoy your prescribed roles or do you basically "do you"?
9. Around other men do you bond more because of your Blackness or your Maleness?
10, Why are some men SO offended by gay men?
11. Why do men who claim to LOVE women, use terms like "punk ass" "pussy ass" and "bitch ass" to degrade another man?
12. Why do men take the expression of love/affection/sexual attraction; oral...and assign it as the ultimate display of degradation..."suck my Dick" - THEN wonder why some women don't want to do it?
Ok...that's all for now.
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Post by nsync on Jun 2, 2010 22:46:32 GMT -5
Exalt! Those were some great questions!
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Post by LogAKAlly <3'n Keef on Jun 2, 2010 23:11:29 GMT -5
Exalt! Those were some great questions! AWWW SHUCKY DUCKY!! Thank you e-twin!! ;D That was off the dome!! I'll be back. |
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Post by LogAKAlly <3'n Keef on Jun 3, 2010 1:17:41 GMT -5
Outsourced: Can you ever be with just one woman throughout your whole life?
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Post by DJ Firecracker on Jun 3, 2010 2:20:56 GMT -5
I agree, definitely loving these questions and lurking to see the answers
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Post by DamieQue™ on Jun 3, 2010 7:17:20 GMT -5
1. Do men in general struggle with the Madonna/whore issue? 2. Do men often assert themselves non-verbally around other men or is it only in the mind of the man? 3. Why won't "some" men (honestly, younger ones IMO) admit if another man is handsome? 4. What are some advantages of becoming a older man? 5. What are some of the hardest things to come to terms with growing older? 6. How often do you really require sex? 7. Can you ever get burned out on sex? 8. Do you enjoy your prescribed roles or do you basically "do you"? 9. Around other men do you bond more because of your Blackness or your Maleness? 10, Why are some men SO offended by gay men? 11. Why do men who claim to LOVE women, use terms like "punk ass" "pussy ass" and "bitch ass" to degrade another man? 12. Why do men take the expression of love/affection/sexual attraction; oral...and assign it as the ultimate display of degradation..."suck my Dick" - THEN wonder why some women don't want to do it? Ok...that's all for now.
2. Most assertions are verbal. Why? Because at the point you have to assert yourself, someone's already stepped over the line and you gotta handle that. It's like marking your territory with audio.
3. A dude shouldn't be observing a dude to see if he's handsome to make any admission either way
4. Saying whatever you feel like and folks accepting it because you're old... and you probably fought in a war for their freedom or something
5. That as much as we try to be, we are not in control and not the masters of all we survey - we can only approximate these two states.
6. As often as it takes to keep us from skeeting on some other women's sheets... no set number - just hit him off. Each one you make him bust is one that another lady doesn't get a shot at
7. Possibly, if it's the same way every time
8. I suppose there's some satisfaction to be had by being a good provider - we will be judged by this criteria (like it or not)
9. I think we bond most over shared experience. And that unique experience is shaped by being both black and male - I don't think one trumps the other. Only black males know what it's like to always be a physical threat to those around you no matter where you go. It's not my blackness, it's not my maleness - it's both.
10. Because some appear to transform their sexual desire for men, into a permission slip to behave as honorary women. They are NOT women. It would be like saying why are you hostile to renegades or ghosts. Because they are acting like something they are not - no matter what they feel. No amount of high heels, lip gloss, or high pitched voices will make you women and deep down I think we resent being told that we have to participate in, what to us, is a self-delusion and a farce.
11. Because the term has nothing to do with denigrating women, it's about denigrating the dude. You could call a dude a Diva or a Queen and the insult is the same
12. It's also an act of submission. When we use it as an insult it's meant to convey that that other person should bow down to us in a very submissive way. So yes it can be used as an insult. However, just about every insult we use in earnest, we also use in jest, (ex. F*ck you). We could say "F*ck You" as an insult and you would still have sex with us, so it doesn't compute to us that if we say "Suck my D!ck" as an insult, now you won't do it. |
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Post by Chal™ on Jun 3, 2010 8:23:43 GMT -5
Why do [some] men find it so hard to admit they need someone?
Why does everything have to turn into a "my nuts are bigger than yours" contest?
Why can't you just admit that you're wrong?
Why do [some] men wait until it's too late to try and "fix" things? Why not just do right all along?
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Post by peppermint on Jun 3, 2010 10:49:49 GMT -5
<--- is waiting for an answer to Chal's number 4 to see if a piggy back is needed.
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Post by G Money$CMB$ on Jun 3, 2010 11:05:07 GMT -5
Is there such thing as a playa changing his ways? Meaning does he stop with all the games and REALLY become a one woman man?
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Post by Vudu_Prince on Jun 3, 2010 11:08:12 GMT -5
Why do [some] men find it so hard to admit they need someone? Why does everything have to turn into a "my nuts are bigger than yours" contest? Why can't you just admit that you're wrong? Why do [some] men wait until it's too late to try and "fix" things? Why not just do right all along? 1. No man wants to be vulnerable and then down the road have that chit thrown up in their face. So must of us would rather do without for a moment until the smoke clears on our own. 2.Because unlike women men can have a pissing contest and that be it. Go to your local barbershop. Men talk about sports, movies, hell everything is a contested heated debate and then afterward its all chill. We're not as serious as some women who haven't spoken in weeks because they didn't see eye to eye concerning who Jack shouldve married on their favorite soap opera. 3. Because you were probably wrong 4 other times prior and never admitted it. I'm just sayin.. 4.Because you probably put up with us in the beginning and thought you could make us change. Some men "such as myself" gives a straight deal the first round. An example .... If you met ur man in the club after seeing him there often... dont get mad after yall together he still fall up in the club. He wasn't there looking for a woman he just like to chill and now that he has one doesn't mean he doesn't like to chill. |
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Post by Blu on Jun 3, 2010 11:10:06 GMT -5
Is there such thing as a playa changing his ways? Meaning does he stop with all the games and REALLY become a one woman man? Depends on the woman. Different women can bring out different qualities in a man. Some women inspire us to be faithful while other women inspire us to play around.. |
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Post by Vudu_Prince on Jun 3, 2010 11:10:37 GMT -5
Is there such thing as a playa changing his ways? Meaning does he stop with all the games and REALLY become a one woman man? Umm No. Men for the rest of their lives will always want new pussy. It's like crack. Now he may not indulge in said activities but he will think about it. |
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Post by DamieQue™ on Jun 3, 2010 11:17:36 GMT -5
From answer #5 above:
5. That as much as we try to be, we are not in control and not the masters of all we survey - we can only approximate these two states.
Because in fact my nuts ARE bigger than yours.  Also - it should be noted that tone dictates alot. We are peace-seeking creatures. However if you set a confrontational tone, you'll get a confrontational response.
Because alot of times we aren't.
As far as waiting too long to fix things - that's just something that happens. Sometimes the epiphany just comes too late and the window is closed. I don't think it's deliberate or exclusive to men. |
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Post by QueenOH on Jun 3, 2010 11:24:00 GMT -5
Why do many men have a need to fix things for other people?
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Post by peppermint on Jun 3, 2010 11:31:20 GMT -5
Why does someone have to inspire or require a basic level of respect?
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Post by G Money$CMB$ on Jun 3, 2010 11:38:13 GMT -5
Damie hush. Men aren't right ALL OF DE TIME mon.
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Post by Chal™ on Jun 3, 2010 11:50:46 GMT -5
So why ignore the signs? If I say to you, "I am unhappy in this relationship and this is why," why not just let go if you don't intend to fix it?
Why do [some] men feel the need to save face by claiming to be the dumper instead of the dumpee? (lol)
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Post by DamieQue™ on Jun 3, 2010 12:44:13 GMT -5
Is there such thing as a playa changing his ways? Meaning does he stop with all the games and REALLY become a one woman man? |
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Post by QueenOH on Jun 3, 2010 12:58:39 GMT -5
Why does it take so much effort to get men to eat vegetables?
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Post by DamieQue™ on Jun 3, 2010 12:59:29 GMT -5
Why does someone have to inspire or require a basic level of respect?
It's not a fool proof system (i.e. just because you carry yourself as a queen doesn't mean some knucklehead won't come at you sideways) but most women who are respected by men, have a respect for themselves that they project. |
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Post by DamieQue™ on Jun 3, 2010 13:01:48 GMT -5
Damie hush. Men aren't right ALL OF DE TIME mon. |
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Post by peppermint on Jun 3, 2010 13:02:22 GMT -5
Why does someone have to inspire or require a basic level of respect?
It's not a fool proof system (i.e. just because you carry yourself as a queen doesn't mean some knucklehead won't come at you sideways) but most women who are respected by men, have a respect for themselves that they project. Why not just treat the woman as a woman regardless of what she projects? |
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Post by Vudu_Prince on Jun 3, 2010 13:04:51 GMT -5
Why does it take so much effort to get men to eat vegetables? Well I'm a person who cooks because I have to as I have children. So I cook dinner 3-4 times a week therefore I eat my veggies right along with them. It could be stuck in the bachelor life style though. The rip and run. Make the veggies fun. Us men like crunchy foods.. So instead of boiling your veggies... go to the store if u don't wanna invest in a steamer and get you a large metal strainer. Place your broccoli in the strainer and place over a pot with boiling water. Steam them and put sum butter. They will be nice and bright green crunchy and tasty. You can do the same with ears of corn too. String Beans can be done the same way. Its all about presentation to us. Men view food like we view sex. Its all visual. |
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Post by DamieQue™ on Jun 3, 2010 13:12:15 GMT -5
I'm not sure I understand this question, I think it's in response to Blu, but I'll venture a response anyway. A man can't give you the respect that only you can provide for yourself. It's important how you view yourself and thus carry yourself. Most often, that's how men are going to see you.
It's not a fool proof system (i.e. just because you carry yourself as a queen doesn't mean some knucklehead won't come at you sideways) but most women who are respected by men, have a respect for themselves that they project. Why not just treat the woman as a woman regardless of what she projects? |
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Post by QueenOH on Jun 3, 2010 13:19:31 GMT -5
Why does it take so much effort to get men to eat vegetables? Well I'm a person who cooks because I have to as I have children. So I cook dinner 3-4 times a week therefore I eat my veggies right along with them. It could be stuck in the bachelor life style though. The rip and run. Make the veggies fun. Us men like crunchy foods.. So instead of boiling your veggies... go to the store if u don't wanna invest in a steamer and get you a large metal strainer. Place your broccoli in the strainer and place over a pot with boiling water. Steam them and put sum butter. They will be nice and bright green crunchy and tasty. You can do the same with ears of corn too. String Beans can be done the same way. Its all about presentation to us. Men view food like we view sex. Its all visual. I eat my veggies raw. They are very crunchy that way. And V8 does not take the place of fresh vegetables |
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Post by G Money$CMB$ on Jun 3, 2010 13:23:06 GMT -5
Why are African American men scared to go to the Doctor?
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Post by Vudu_Prince on Jun 3, 2010 13:25:14 GMT -5
Well I'm a person who cooks because I have to as I have children. So I cook dinner 3-4 times a week therefore I eat my veggies right along with them. It could be stuck in the bachelor life style though. The rip and run. Make the veggies fun. Us men like crunchy foods.. So instead of boiling your veggies... go to the store if u don't wanna invest in a steamer and get you a large metal strainer. Place your broccoli in the strainer and place over a pot with boiling water. Steam them and put sum butter. They will be nice and bright green crunchy and tasty. You can do the same with ears of corn too. String Beans can be done the same way. Its all about presentation to us. Men view food like we view sex. Its all visual. I eat my veggies raw. They are very crunchy that way. And V8 does not take the place of fresh vegetables We talking about men not you darn it. We not gonna eat it raw... well somethings we do.... |
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Post by Vudu_Prince on Jun 3, 2010 13:27:10 GMT -5
Why are African American men scared to go to the Doctor? Honestly because we don't give a damn. As long as we can still have sex then we good. lol |
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Post by Bigs on Jun 3, 2010 13:39:03 GMT -5
@ Damie... I'm standing at the scorer's table just waiting on the buzzer, and the ref to signal me in.....
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Post by Chal™ on Jun 3, 2010 13:46:07 GMT -5
Uh HELLO!!!!!!!!
If a woman says, "I am unhappy in this relationship and this is why," if you're not gonna work at making things better, why not just let go instead of string her along?
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Also - it should be noted that tone dictates alot. We are peace-seeking creatures. However if you set a confrontational tone, you'll get a confrontational response. 
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