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Post by Chal™ on Apr 16, 2010 15:37:58 GMT -5
Mocha, that sounds wonderful, BUT you aren't dealing with these Memphis ninjas. They make you wanna catch an assault charge. lol
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Post by Oren Ishii on Apr 16, 2010 15:39:39 GMT -5
@mocha: Don't get me wrong. I like to dress my style as well; I just don't like being bothered by dudes... So I've toned it down a little bit. I used to wear heels everyday, big hair all the time, very diff. style (fash. des. major at one point).
When I have an event, or go out or something, I'll be a little bit more dressed up.
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Post by MochaD on Apr 16, 2010 15:53:24 GMT -5
Just know that boys will be boys. If they like what they see and are bold enough to step to you they will step. Unfortunately, they don't always come correct.
@chal, that's why I said IF they approach me respectfully. To get respect you got to give it.
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Post by Chal™ on Apr 16, 2010 16:05:17 GMT -5
lol. i feel you, Moch. the rude ish hardly ever happens when I'm back home, or @ one the out of state offices.
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Post by Noble Work on Apr 16, 2010 16:32:29 GMT -5
So are some of you ladies PISSED because you're Beautiful?
(I'm not hitting on you either)
@ Mocha....School'em Mocha!!!! School they asses!!!!!!
@muse: No make up? guess what? Somebody out there actually like that
skirts, heels? guess what? Somebody out there actually like that
non-scrip glasses? guess what? Somebody out there actually like that
tall & stand out? Yep, Somebody out there actually like that to.
My point is there are men who like what they see because you are you. No matter how you dress up or down men like beautiful women. Now some act on it some admire from afar. Some step to you ignorant and some lines you've may have even heard before. But you know what embrace it. No you can't control what they say but you know YOU. You know that they ain't getting the number. You know you ain't trying to accept what they are offering but ain't it lovely or feel good that somebody acknowledge you or gave you a complement for being YOU?
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Post by Chal™ on Apr 16, 2010 16:46:22 GMT -5
no on is pissed because they're "beautiful". We get pissed of by the reactions to said beauty. It's one thing to express appreciation for what you are seeing. it's another to spit lewd, disrespectful comments.
i'm not gonna lie, the attention (when tastefully expressed) is nice. Yes, it does feel good. But walking by a group of guys @ the mall and hearing someone express how they could (excuse my language) fuck you frontwards, backwards, and sideways is NOT appealing.
"Excuse me, miss. I think you are a very attractive lady. I'd love the opportunity to get to know you better."
"damn, shawty, you finer den a muuuufucker. shit, can I go wid u?"
See the difference? Understand my disgust?
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Post by Noble Work on Apr 16, 2010 17:04:16 GMT -5
no on is pissed because they're "beautiful". We get pissed of by the reactions to said beauty. It's one thing to express appreciation for what you are seeing. it's another to spit lewd, disrespectful comments. i'm not gonna lie, the attention (when tastefully expressed) is nice. Yes, it does feel good. But walking by a group of guys @ the mall and hearing someone express how they could (excuse my language) fuck you frontwards, backwards, and sideways is NOT appealing. "Excuse me, miss. I think you are a very attractive lady. I'd love the opportunity to get to know you better." "damn, shawty, you finer den a muuuufucker. shit, can I go wid u?" See the difference? Understand my disgust? Yes I see the difference? Those are the ones you shoot your deuces to. Like I was saying YOU know YOU. You know you're not going back to here what they got to say because they lost you at Aye shawty.....lol. But take the higher road and charge it to the game. But let's be realistic "Excuse me, miss. I think you are a very attractive lady. I'd love the opportunity to get to know you better" MOST times does not happen at a mall.  |
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Post by Chal™ on Apr 16, 2010 17:25:26 GMT -5
true, but still. a lady can hope. lol
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Post by Oren Ishii on Apr 16, 2010 17:31:25 GMT -5
It's not just about being appreciated for being 'beautiful' (so subjective)
It's about being objectified. I don't like being pared down to just my physical appearance in my everyday life. I get that in my work. (Most) Men don't even regard us as whole human beings. We're T&A to a lot of them; why should I have put up with that constantly? Why should any woman?
As far as boys being boys...why can't (some) Black males stop acting like boys & start acting like men? Express your appreciation of the female form in a more socially acceptable manner. This is not the dayum Call of the Wild.
What, you scared of being called a lame if you act like you have some home training? How would you feel if people spoke to/about your mother the same way?
Show some respect!
Ugh.
[I'm just ranting; this isn't directed @ any of the lovely men of OOA. LOL]
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Post by LejaOMG on Apr 16, 2010 19:04:16 GMT -5
I give almost all respectful dudes the time of day. I don't ever lie about having a boyfriend. I've twice lied about having a girlfriend, and it failed miserably, lol.
There was a time when I felt like I was getting a little too much attention and it was distracting me, so I purposely wore sweats and sneakers. It kinda had a placebo effect. Since I didn't feel as cute, I wasn't exuding my whole confidence deal (which, I hear tell, is what makes people approach me moreso than my looks), folks didn't have as much to say. Interestingly, when I'm dressed down AND feeling fly (rare), I always get hit on.
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Post by 123Diva on Apr 16, 2010 20:13:20 GMT -5
It becomes too much for me when the attention also attracts the full attention of onlookers/passerbys. You know...garbage trucks pulling over, cars stopping and making u-turns holding up traffic, bus drivers talking to me the entire ride when I'm no where near the front of the bus. I get embarassed and sometimes even annoyed.
There have been times, I completely disregarded it in hopes that no one would notice that the attention was directed at me.
I can respect nice clean compliments that keep it moving. I smile and say thanks, and wish the person a good day/evening/whatever, always. Anything more and I either get really embarassed, or NYC girl comes outta me.
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Post by Oren Ishii on Apr 16, 2010 20:44:03 GMT -5
Wait Diva, the dumbest ish in the world:
If you see me walking down the street w/MiniMe, or getting out of a car,
PLEASE DO NOT PULL YOUR BUS OVER, Mr. Bus Driver Man!
SMH
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Post by Sapphire on Apr 16, 2010 20:55:14 GMT -5
I think you all so gather at the Lincoln Memorial with shirts that say "Beauty Hurts" and sing a stirring rendition of This is No Ordinary Life by Sade Please get Sade's lyrics correctly. It's love not life.  |
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Post by Alc 06 on Apr 16, 2010 21:03:53 GMT -5
So are some of you ladies PISSED because you're Beautiful? (I'm not hitting on you either) @ Mocha....School'em Mocha!!!! School they asses!!!!!! @muse: No make up? guess what? Somebody out there actually like that skirts, heels? guess what? Somebody out there actually like that non-scrip glasses? guess what? Somebody out there actually like that tall & stand out? Yep, Somebody out there actually like that to. My point is there are men who like what they see because you are you. No matter how you dress up or down men like beautiful women. Now some act on it some admire from afar. Some step to you ignorant and some lines you've may have even heard before. But you know what embrace it. No you can't control what they say but you know YOU. You know that they ain't getting the number. You know you ain't trying to accept what they are offering but ain't it lovely or feel good that somebody acknowledge you or gave you a complement for being YOU? I was actually coming in here to say something along these lines. No matter what you do, someone out there will like it. I, for example, like to see a woman "dressed-down". I like to know that I can find a woman attractive on her worst day, because i know things can only get better. No surprises when all the makeup comes off, scarf gets put on, "Booty-Pop" device gets taken out of the pants, etc. My question, in turn would be "what if you were NEVER hit on?" Which is worse? |
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Post by Chal™ on Apr 17, 2010 3:12:48 GMT -5
ok, tonight I went on Beale Street with the fam. we were cool, drinking, dancing, having a good time. Now I understand that when you're on the dance floor, guys will dance up on girls and vice versa. BUT, if I walk away when you do, DON'T follow me or grab my arm. And what the hell kinda pick up line is "Are you as soft as you look?"
Ninja please.
Then the guy @ the gas station. "umm hmm. i need to go where you going. can i go wit u. damn, can i take you home with me? So my cousin is like, "Chill out, brah, she with me." He do the whole my bad, cuz thing, but ass soon as my cousin walks away he says, "Remember this number," and calls out his phone number. Are you serious?
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Post by Oren Ishii on Apr 17, 2010 13:23:03 GMT -5
I HATE BOTH of these... If I don't wanna dance w/you - I WILL walk off on you. Don't follow me around for the rest of the night. What is this, Homeward Bound?? You a lost puppy & you need some help? WTH?! And respect who I'm with! ok, tonight I went on Beale Street with the fam. we were cool, drinking, dancing, having a good time. Now I understand that when you're on the dance floor, guys will dance up on girls and vice versa. BUT, if I walk away when you do, DON'T follow me or grab my arm. And what the hell kinda pick up line is "Are you as soft as you look?" Ninja please. Then the guy @ the gas station. "umm hmm. i need to go where you going. can i go wit u. damn, can i take you home with me? So my cousin is like, "Chill out, brah, she with me." He do the whole my bad, cuz thing, but ass soon as my cousin walks away he says, "Remember this number," and calls out his phone number. Are you serious? |
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Post by Chal™ on Apr 17, 2010 13:33:21 GMT -5
exactly!!
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Post by Coldfront06 on Apr 17, 2010 13:34:38 GMT -5
This thread is just a gathering place for you all to brag about how much you get hit on...yall ain't fooling nobody...lol
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Post by Chal™ on Apr 17, 2010 13:54:24 GMT -5
lol @ Cold nuh unnn |
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Post by Oren Ishii on Apr 17, 2010 17:49:47 GMT -5
*smacks Cold on the back of the head*
That one's for Diva, cause she's in here too.
And the thread is open to gentlemen. If it was gonna turn into a brag-fest, we'd have waited for y'all to handle that.
*rolls eyes & walks off*
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Post by 123Diva on Apr 17, 2010 19:02:28 GMT -5
::DEAD:: @ Cold and Muse.
Carry on ladies!
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Post by QueenOH on Apr 17, 2010 21:52:30 GMT -5
I just flash my ring at them and let them know that they should move along soon as a warning. I have saved a few guys from getting their butts whooped.
Other don't seem to understand that following me is in my eyes considered stalking and you will be stabbed if I feel threaten. Lucky I have never been arrested for anything that may or may not have happened
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Post by Chal™ on Apr 17, 2010 22:20:34 GMT -5
exactly! I've told a guy that if he touches me again, i will punch him in the face. he said i didn't look like a hitter. I looked him dead in the eye and said try me. he walked away.
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Post by Chal™ on Apr 17, 2010 22:22:07 GMT -5
and then, males say (as some of you have [slick] said), "You should be happy for the attention. What if you didn't get it at all?"
I'd rather not get the attention than be disrespected. There is a MUCH better way to express yourself.
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Post by Oren Ishii on Apr 18, 2010 13:11:45 GMT -5
Yeah, cause Blac ain't no small dude. I'd be scared if I was them. I'd imagine an encounter with him to be painful... I just flash my ring at them and let them know that they should move along soon as a warning. I have saved a few guys from getting their butts whooped. Other don't seem to understand that following me is in my eyes considered stalking and you will be stabbed if I feel threaten. Lucky I have never been arrested for anything that may or may not have happened |
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Post by All Pledging Is Legal on Apr 18, 2010 17:06:09 GMT -5
Women love getting approached. I don't stop talking to a woman just because she says she has a man or isn't interested. Sometimes you have to borderline harass a woman to get the goods.
Why do I say this? Because being harassed is 100 times better than being ignored. I have seen ugly girls cry in public from being rejected. An attractive woman never cries from being hit on time after time again.
Women like to be chased and fawned after. Never let a woman tell you otherwise.
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Post by Chal™ on Apr 19, 2010 2:58:32 GMT -5
Women love getting approached. I don't stop talking to a woman just because she says she has a man or isn't interested. Sometimes you have to borderline harass a woman to get the goods. This is the stupidest ish ever. You CAN'T be serious. Seriouly, you're posting just to see your name "in print" @ the red part you're an idiot. @ the green part  yea. right. chased? boy, stop! |
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Post by T-Rex91 on Apr 19, 2010 7:42:55 GMT -5
exactly! I've told a guy that if he touches me again, i will punch him in the face. he said i didn't look like a hitter. I looked him dead in the eye and said try me. he walked away. *opens mouth to say something but rethinks and closes it ans walks away* |
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Post by QueenOH on Apr 19, 2010 7:49:47 GMT -5
Reign please don't stalk women. It is not cute
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Post by Chal™ on Apr 19, 2010 7:59:03 GMT -5
exactly! I've told a guy that if he touches me again, i will punch him in the face. he said i didn't look like a hitter. I looked him dead in the eye and said try me. he walked away. *opens mouth to say something but rethinks and closes it ans walks away* lol |
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