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Post by DamieQue™ on Mar 29, 2010 14:48:22 GMT -5
Maybe she felt comfortable telling you that because she feels like she is training you. I don't mean that in a negative way, but maybe she feels more invested in making sure that you have good manners and so she corrects you, whereas she could care less how white people conduct themselves. I am just thinking of myself. I am usually more interested in making sure that black kids conduct themselves appropriately just because I care about them. When white kids are out of order, I just shake my head and judge them silently.
I am 36 years old.
I see what you're thinking (and it makes sense) but negative.
Again - I am 36.
And this is work, not church. |
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Post by ReignMan19 on Mar 29, 2010 15:00:50 GMT -5
*stifles laugh* She's going to bring a switch to work.. Train Damie up right...
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Post by DamieQue™ on Mar 29, 2010 15:12:18 GMT -5
*stifles laugh* She's going to bring a switch to work.. Train Damie up right... |
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Post by ReignMan19 on Mar 29, 2010 15:20:55 GMT -5
*stifles laugh* She's going to bring a switch to work.. Train Damie up right... Hey I always said she was wrong for insisting you say it ... however I do think its respectful to say it.. |
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Post by DamieQue™ on Mar 29, 2010 15:24:38 GMT -5
Hell though for real Reign, if she's gon' train me on proper titles why not bring the switch in too? Hey I always said she was wrong for insisting you say it ... however I do think its respectful to say it.. |
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Post by ReignMan19 on Mar 29, 2010 15:40:57 GMT -5
fine... I hope it there is never a time where you too are in the parking lot and then see eachother in the office.... The poor old lady is going to be so confused... She will think you have a rude identical twin... One day she is going to say "I wish you would be more like your brother"... you will be like  |
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Post by Prissy New Year!!! on Mar 29, 2010 16:14:36 GMT -5
Hey I always said she was wrong for insisting you say it ... however I do think its respectful to say it.. If you can address her as Miss outside of work, then why not do it at work? I think you should ask her why she doesn't insist on being called Miss by the white folks. I bet it is because she feels more invested in making sure that you are well behaved. If she could only see how you conduct yourself on this board she really would get out her switch  . |
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Post by Dasani on Mar 30, 2010 0:43:29 GMT -5
<------- Usually give much older black folks the handle (Ms., Mr or whatever) as a sign of respect. That is how I was thought. I do what is appropriate for the office culture. If everyone in the office does first name then thats what I do. If there is an older black lady everyone calls Ms. so and so then hey thats what you get.
I think the giving the handle out of respect is an us thing. White folk don't do that cause hell they have a superiority complex and don't know any better *coughing* I think my racism was trying to come out sorry .
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Post by Cambist on Mar 30, 2010 9:12:46 GMT -5
I call people what they want to be called (within reason) and leave it at that. If you require a title, I use title and last name. Doesn't bother me one bit.
In Damie's case I would just ask the question. For example:
**Damie makes sure that Ms. B is not busy and casually walks into her area and sits down**
Damie: Ms. B...you have a second?
Ms. B: Sure, Damie...what can I do for you?
Damie: Ms. B, I was just curious about something. Not that it's a problem...not at all but am I the only one in the office that calls you Ms. B?
Ms. B: No. Juaquan and NaNa also call me Ms. B. Is there a problem.
Damie: No problem at all Ms. B... I was just curious why the "others" called you by your first name. That's all.
**get up, grab a piece of peppermint from her glass bowl on her desk...open it pop it in your mouth and walk off**
Damie: Have a good day.
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Post by DamieQue™ on Mar 30, 2010 9:38:33 GMT -5
And OUTSIDE of work I will. Here... she gon' be Brianne and she's just gon' have to get over it. If you can address her as Miss outside of work, then why not do it at work? I think you should ask her why she doesn't insist on being called Miss by the white folks. I bet it is because she feels more invested in making sure that you are well behaved. If she could only see how you conduct yourself on this board she really would get out her switch .
If you were working in an office and an older AKA (let's call here Sister Johnson) was hired in and she worked in your group, and she insisted that she be called Sister Johnson or Big Sister Johnson at work would you oblige her? That's behavior for a different environment. It's not about respect persay or whether I can do it, it's a question am I obligated to?
The only compromise I can see is if she wants me to refer to her as Ms. Brianne then I'm going to be Mr. Damie. And since that's not what our culture supports, I'm gon' be Damie and she's gon' be Brianne My Niccuh even if she don't get no bigga. She is a peer whether she likes it or not. And she doesn't get to set the corporate culture for everyone else. |
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Post by ReignMan19 on Mar 30, 2010 9:42:59 GMT -5
She is going to ask the polite twin Damie (the one who calls her Ms. outside the job) to talk to the rude twin Damie... He don't have no damn respect.
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Post by LejaOMG on Mar 30, 2010 10:02:11 GMT -5
Interesting example, Purp. Y'know, I work with an older female member of my faith. I call her Maria at work, but I would never, EVER dream of doing so in the congregation. I'm just thinking about how outrageous it would be for her to expect me to call her Sister Jones in the workplace. Hmmm...
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Post by Chal™ on Feb 10, 2014 21:58:14 GMT -5
I hate being called Mr. Reigny... thats my dad... This made me laugh. |
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