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Post by msurbana on Jan 28, 2008 18:13:06 GMT -5
This is a slight spinoff from the take last name thread.
Men (married) did you ask your wife's father for her hand in marriage?
Men (single) do you plan on asking your boo's father for her hand in marriage?
Is this tradition still valid or simply an archaic form of suck up?
Women is (was) this important to you?
Do tell...
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Post by Nupey on Jan 28, 2008 18:22:57 GMT -5
I was JUST about to post this....I'm getting ready to propose... (soon) but I haven't asked her father.....Should I?
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Post by msurbana on Jan 28, 2008 18:26:24 GMT -5
YAY NUPIE YAY!!!! LOL I think you should ask her how she feels about it?
It's VERY important to me. However I am willing to compromise, but it depends on the reasoning.
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Post by Alc 06 on Jan 28, 2008 18:27:11 GMT -5
I'm not married yet, but before I propose, I plan to speak to her father (and mother). I'm old fashioned, so I see that as part of the process
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Post by msurbana on Jan 28, 2008 18:27:57 GMT -5
That's good Alchy. Will you formally ask for her hand or will you simply talk to them about your decision to marry her?
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Post by QueenOH on Jan 28, 2008 18:32:29 GMT -5
Blacamus asked my father
I didn't want him to
I think that implied that I was not able to make the decision to marry on my own, but it was important to him to follow tradition so I let him do it
<---is a sucker for those big brown eyes and shiny bald head
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Post by Alc 06 on Jan 28, 2008 18:36:54 GMT -5
That's good Alchy. Will you formally ask for her hand or will you simply talk to them about your decision to marry her? More or less have a conversation about it, but still ask. if that makes sense... |
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Post by msurbana on Jan 28, 2008 18:36:58 GMT -5
AWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!
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Post by Nupey on Jan 28, 2008 18:50:17 GMT -5
I dont know....I'm afraid of "questions" they may asked..like:
How will you provide for my daughter?
I'm in college...I dont know!
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Post by Ms. RedamnDickulous on Jan 28, 2008 18:52:50 GMT -5
We always knew that my dad would kill the man who did not ask for my sisters and my hand in marriage. I have always been very close to him and respect my parent's opinions. I feel it is important to do, considering you are coming into their family and vice versa! My Man, made it a point, on his own, to holla at my parents (especially at my dad) once he realized we were getting serious. Having the talk should not be a stretch. It should be like two old friends having a business meeting. Afterall, the hubby with be your provider and is informally taking the responsibility from your parents...Just my Betty Crocker Ass Opinion.
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Post by QUIET As Kept on Jan 28, 2008 19:08:00 GMT -5
As I get older, I realize I would love for the man who marries me to ask my father for my hand. Unfortunately, this is no longer an option.
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Post by msurbana on Jan 28, 2008 19:09:19 GMT -5
I understand exactly. It will be a discussion, but you will still ask in the process. I'm not married yet, but before I propose, I plan to speak to her father (and mother). I'm old fashioned, so I see that as part of the process |
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Post by Puzzler on Jan 28, 2008 19:18:17 GMT -5
I don't know if he asked my father or not, but I think that it's very gentleman-like to ask the father for her hand in marriage.
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Post by msurbana on Jan 28, 2008 19:21:29 GMT -5
Aww Nupie, do you already have a good relationship with her father? I dont know....I'm afraid of "questions" they may asked..like: How will you provide for my daughter? I'm in college...I dont know! |
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Post by dappa on Jan 28, 2008 19:29:14 GMT -5
Yes, I asked for my wifes hand in marraige and it was given. I think if a man is serious about marrying a woman, he should ask the father man to man in person.
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Post by Puzzler on Jan 28, 2008 19:32:46 GMT -5
Yes, I asked for my wifes hand in marraige and it was given. I think if a man is serious about marrying a woman, he should ask the father man to man in person. oh damn....i didn't know...  |
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Post by Ms. RedamnDickulous on Jan 28, 2008 19:34:38 GMT -5
Exactly. It says a lot!
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Post by MochaD on Jan 28, 2008 19:37:27 GMT -5
If he know like I know he had BEDDA ASK MY DAD!!! Hmph...
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Post by msurbana on Jan 28, 2008 19:40:32 GMT -5
That's good! Do you think it shows a sign of respect? Yes, I asked for my wifes hand in marraige and it was given. I think if a man is serious about marrying a woman, he should ask the father man to man in person. |
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Post by FULLOFME on Jan 28, 2008 20:06:29 GMT -5
My husband discussed with both of my parents his intentions to marry me and it was important to him to have their blessings especially since he and my mom did not start out on a very good foot...I'm an only child so I think that meant a lot to my parents that he felt their blessings and support were important and needed...their blessings were a sign of their approval of him since both of my parents are very protective of me and he probably knew their was no way around it...
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Post by msurbana on Jan 28, 2008 20:13:03 GMT -5
HOLLABACK! ONLY CHILDREN STAND UP!!!
:-)
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Post by FULLOFME on Jan 28, 2008 20:17:04 GMT -5
PLEASE BELIEVE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Post by Alc 06 on Jan 28, 2008 20:20:23 GMT -5
sup only children
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Post by FULLOFME on Jan 28, 2008 20:21:30 GMT -5
Are you joining us or just suppin us?
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Post by msurbana on Jan 28, 2008 20:28:53 GMT -5
LOL *Waves*
Im technically an only child. I have half AND step siblings.
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Post by FULLOFME on Jan 28, 2008 20:39:16 GMT -5
<----Dad has a love child
<--------is still an only child as it is my birthright
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Post by Cambist on Jan 28, 2008 20:45:20 GMT -5
The dude that thinks he's marrying my daughter BETTER come see me first!!
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Post by Alc 06 on Jan 28, 2008 20:47:51 GMT -5
joining
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Post by coldfront06 on Jan 28, 2008 20:48:31 GMT -5
I plan to do it...out of tradition/respect.
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Post by dappa on Jan 28, 2008 20:50:52 GMT -5
That's good! Do you think it shows a sign of respect? Yes, I asked for my wifes hand in marraige and it was given. I think if a man is serious about marrying a woman, he should ask the father man to man in person. Yes it is a sign of respect because your asking to take care of a woman that another man has spent his life takng care of . |
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