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Post by Chal™ on May 14, 2010 20:49:08 GMT -5
How old is too old for an aspirant to pursue undergraduate membership?
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Post by DJ Firecracker on May 14, 2010 20:52:54 GMT -5
Good question Chal!
*lurks to hear answers hoping that DJ herself isn't too old for UG*
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Post by **Dea** on May 14, 2010 20:59:00 GMT -5
GOOD ONE!
<====waiting on Logz to come in and rant
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Post by Chal™ on May 14, 2010 20:59:35 GMT -5
lol thanks, ladies.
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Post by peppermint on May 14, 2010 22:29:45 GMT -5
I want to say there is no such thing as "too old," but the non-traditional student may feel out of place. It's an individual and chapter decision though. I mean if you happen to be 40 and just entering or returning to college, why not pursue it? You may end up taking on a "parent" role at times but that isn't a bad thing. I would think you may bond more with the graduate chapter though.
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Post by Julie Art on May 14, 2010 23:46:35 GMT -5
Hmmmm. I guess it just depends on that person, the chapter, and if their personalities mesh.
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Post by BKupInHere on May 15, 2010 2:45:29 GMT -5
My friend was 28 yrs old; married with a full time job. Her line name was "Mom" and she was the Dean of the next line. She just celebrated 11 yrs in her sorority.
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Post by Oren Ishii on May 15, 2010 4:19:15 GMT -5
One of my pros was 42 when she crossed UG; cool as a fan once you cross
It was something she'd always wanted to do - so when returned to college, she did it. I was shocked b/c she doesn't look her age though.
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Post by DJ Firecracker on May 15, 2010 8:53:24 GMT -5
My friend was 28 yrs old; married with a full time job. Her line name was "Mom" and she was the Dean of the next line. She just celebrated 11 yrs in her sorority. So there's a glimmer of hope for me after all!!! Yessss! *starts praise dancing and does a forward flip* THIS IS YOUR DAY!!!! THIS IS YOUR DAY!!!! DAY OF THE LORD!!!! |
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Post by **Dea** on May 15, 2010 21:11:49 GMT -5
lmao
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Post by Worthy Most Ancient Matron on May 16, 2010 2:17:27 GMT -5
Although it was grad chapter, I know of someone in their 70s who joined a sorority.
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Post by ShimmeringSTAR on May 16, 2010 7:43:39 GMT -5
I had a friend in her 40s who did ug...
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Post by waymaker2010 on May 16, 2010 11:29:55 GMT -5
I was in my early 30's when i applied to a undergrad chapter. I didn't become a full time student until I was 29.
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Post by T-Rex91 on May 16, 2010 20:21:03 GMT -5
Totally depends on the person. One thing I can say for myself is I couldn't see myself doing it at this point in my life. My tolerance for boolshyt at near 40 is WAY lower than it was at 19. I def would not have been down for some aspects of pledging if I was a grown woman possibly with a family. Also, I would have been much less likely to be cool taking time away from my family and work, etc. for extracurricular activities. I guess it depends on how much of the UG experience that person is trying to have.
<---Also waits on Log. She was a non-traditional student when she pledged.
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Post by Chal™ on May 16, 2010 20:46:27 GMT -5
I def would not have been down for some aspects of pledging if I was a grown woman possibly with a family. Also, I would have been much less likely to be cool taking time away from my family and work, etc. for extracurricular activities. I guess it depends on how much of the UG experience that person is trying to have. This part of your post stood out to me. Mainly the family and work part. Suppose this was single male/female unmarried with no kids. However they have a full time job. Will that job interfere with the whole "pledging" aspect of things? |
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Post by T-Rex91 on May 16, 2010 21:08:20 GMT -5
If the full time job affected evening/late night availability, yeah, there would be a conflict.
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Post by LogAKAlly <3'n Keef on May 16, 2010 23:17:32 GMT -5
 Ok...I came in at 31 - a few month shy of my 32nd bday and I became Pres that same year. It DEF depends on the individual - in my opinion, for UG you GOTTA be young at heart and swag. Although I look young, people def knew that I am a SERIOUS student, mother and a grown ass woman. Even though I can blend in, I don't attend certain events - not because I have a point to prove...it's just not for me, I leave that up to the young Sorors. |
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Post by DJ Firecracker on May 17, 2010 2:57:35 GMT -5
Ok...I came in at 31 - a few month shy of my 32nd bday and I became Pres that same year. It DEF depends on the individual - in my opinion, for UG you GOTTA be young at heart and swag. Although I look young, people def knew that I am a SERIOUS student, mother and a grown ass woman. Even though I can blend in, I don't attend certain events - not because I have a point to prove...it's just not for me, I leave that up to the young Sorors. I know they dont make exceptions for anyone in the process it but I heard they make it extra hard for older UG pledges. I'm 28 with a husband and babies and if I do it, I'll go at it wholeheartedly but not at the risk of not making it based on age and marital/family status. Really dont wanna be discriminated against. |
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Post by T-Rex91 on May 17, 2010 7:42:56 GMT -5
DJ,
You won't attempt it if you think you won't make it even if it's for bull shyt reasons? That statement makes me think you don't really want it. If you say you're not willing to take time away from your family at this point that's different but that's not what I heard you say. Seriously, you need to think about why you'd want to pledge and why you'd want to pledge UG versus waiting for graduation and trying an alumnae chapter.
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Post by Southie on May 17, 2010 9:42:18 GMT -5
I guess if things were being done "by the book" it would not be a bid deal regarding the age factor.
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Post by Vudu_Prince on May 17, 2010 10:07:50 GMT -5
All of my pledgees were older than me except 1. The oldest was 26 at the time. They humbled themselves quite well I must say with no problem....
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Post by FatalDST on May 17, 2010 11:08:16 GMT -5
I was 25, I had a ls who was probably 35... let just say at out 8 yr dinner the other week, she was having hot flashes!
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Post by Chal™ on May 17, 2010 11:15:22 GMT -5
lol @ HOT FLASHES
thanks, you guys
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Post by Julie Art on May 17, 2010 12:09:35 GMT -5
DJ, You won't attempt it if you think you won't make it even if it's for bull shyt reasons? That statement makes me think you don't really want it. If you say you're not willing to take time away from your family at this point that's different but that's not what I heard you say. Seriously, you need to think about why you'd want to pledge and why you'd want to pledge UG versus waiting for graduation and trying an alumnae chapter. What she said. |
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Post by DJ Firecracker on May 17, 2010 13:38:48 GMT -5
DJ, You won't attempt it if you think you won't make it even if it's for bull shyt reasons? That statement makes me think you don't really want it. If you say you're not willing to take time away from your family at this point that's different but that's not what I heard you say. Seriously, you need to think about why you'd want to pledge and why you'd want to pledge UG versus waiting for graduation and trying an alumnae chapter. What she said. Nooo, Im not saying I wont try! I plan to give it 200% and then some. I also know that attempting UG will require time away from my family and Im prepared for that. I guess what Im saying is that I'm going into this realistically knowing that anything can happen with the chapter I go through. Im doing everything necessary to go at this completely educated on any and everything that can happen in UG. Grad is an option only if UG fails me after several tries. |
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Post by pinkngreen06 on May 17, 2010 16:35:19 GMT -5
My friend was 28 yrs old; married with a full time job. Her line name was "Mom" and she was the Dean of the next line. She just celebrated 11 yrs in her sorority. *DEAD* at her line name being MOM |
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Post by kingdelta on May 18, 2010 11:41:22 GMT -5
I think it depends on the maturity level moreso than the age. There are some old undergrads who are more hype than the younger ones.
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Post by Chal™ on May 18, 2010 13:24:09 GMT -5
so are you saying hype = less mature?
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Post by BKupInHere on May 21, 2010 9:59:47 GMT -5
My friend was 28 yrs old; married with a full time job. Her line name was "Mom" and she was the Dean of the next line. She just celebrated 11 yrs in her sorority. *DEAD* at her line name being MOM Her other name was NO LIMIT because she carried a 4.0 average the semester before and during her process! |
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