Same-Sex Flirtation

[Oren Ishii]

Okay, so it's late, I'm up & bored, so we're going to talk about something random.

*This primarily applies to women, because I don't really care about two guys flirting (and most of y'all would lie about it anyway)...*

Have you ever flirted with another person of the same sex?
Did you think there was anything wrong with it?
Do you think that means there's a real attraction to your own gender if you flirt with them?


~I'll add my comments after I hear from some of y'all.~

[msurbana]

No. And I actually thought about that.

However, I would be very interested in seeing two straight men flirt.........

[coldfront06]

I don't know that thats possible...seriously. I can't imagine a scenario where two straight men would flirt with each other. It would have to be a joke, and most straight men don't even joke like that.

[msurbana]

Yes, that's what I am thinking. LOL That's why it would be a sight to see.

[Oren Ishii]

Hmmmm,

I think that a lot of our dealings with other people are based on some level of attraction.

It's not necessarily directly sexual, but I think even "straight" men are drawn to interactions, friendships & whatnot with other straight men, based on a level of attraction (I see something of myself in him, he's the type of man I'd like to be, the chiks dig him, whatever).

[blandtaste]

I have flirted with women, sometimes unknowingly.

[Puzzler]

Yes I have flirted with another female, sometimes I didn't have to try.

Nope didn't think anything was wrong with it.

In my opinion no, I don't think there is a real attraction.

[Bunny Hop]

I can't recall any time that I've ever flirted with a women but if I did it was not done on purpose.

I did have another female intern come at me on some other stuff at the end of the summer after we had all went back to our homes. I wasn't offended at the fact that she did it but more at how she did it. In the end I told her I like men, not women, and that she doesn't need to contact me anymore, lol.

[happy1]

No man has ever flirted with me. I guess I don't give off that vibe, or too ugly.

[MochaD]

I've had women flirt with me, but unbeknown to me they were lesbian. I'm slow like that though, unless you are a dike/butch, I don't see the signs and symptoms of gay women. I'm very friendly and affectionate in nature meaning I'm an innocent "toucher"... be it a hand on your shoulder or a touch of your hand. It "could" be taken wrong sometimes but I really mean no harm or advances. I've been told that I am a flirt but I am also very open and direct so you won't get it twisted cause I will let you know where I stand and how I feel about you and I am and always have been STRICKLY D!CKLY!!! ;D

[Mmm Mmm Brown!]

If you watch make me a supermodel... There is alot of male male flirting, gay, straight and everything in between.

I had never seen it before. But there is a gay guy who has a crush on a married striaght guy. They are actually really good friends, and I think the straight guy crossed the line a couple of time, but I think their friendship is very cool. (However, I bet the gay guy is hotter than his wife... Ronnie is a hottie)

Also, Perry and Casey, who I believe are both straight, are extra booed up... Casey was rubbing Perry's bootie on the camera...

Its kinda weird!

[Oren Ishii]

LOL @ Melo...

I am a firm believer in the Kinsey theory. There's a scale to go along with it (I know I gave info & resources on it on the old board)...but basically, it says that sexual attraction is someowhat fluid & most folks fall somewhere in between being totally gay or totally straight.

However, I think because of collectively held societal "norms," many people with stronger attractions to the same sex never opnely act on them (fear of rejection, ostracism, that kind of thing).

Have I been hit on by a straight woman before?
HELL Yes...happens all the time & I'm a (or I look like a) "femme." I'm not one of those people who thinks everybody flirts with me...but I'm a total flirt myself.

I'm not saying a chick says "Oh, that's such a cute blouse, you look so pretty in it." & I think they're flirting. I mean I get the whole 9:

Oh, so you're a lesbian?
Do you have a girlfriend?
No, well I always wondered about that...How does it feel? What's it like?
Have you ever dealt with a straight girl before? Would you?

Now, NOBODY is that dayum curious about my lifestyle & not trying to give up some goodies. That is not my style, though. I like women who LOVE women.

This happens online & off. Hell, there were even a few ole skool OOers who were talking CRAZY stuff to me back in the day, but that's another story....SMH

[happy1]

@tpk - Question. One night I was at Dave and Busters with some friends and somehow we ended up going back and forth in a friendly way with some gay sisters. Anyhow, when we were saying our goodbyes a particular one and myself sort of lingered and chatted. It was somewhat surreal, that at that moment, sexual orientation was replaced with individuality, but I knew that the basis of attraction existed within our indivudality. Does that sound crazy?

[Oren Ishii]

Not to me. I am "attracted" to people of both genders. There are women that I am "attracted" to that I wouldn't want to deal with romantically...same thing with men.

I get along very well with men, and I think that it's b/c the straight men that I associate with have put aside my looks, body, whatever, and just see me as a person. I don't even really see them as male anymore...they're just cool people & their character appeals to me. Thus, I like to be around them.

I think it happens to most people at some point or another.

happy1 said:

@tpk - Question. One night I was at Dave and Busters with some friends and somehow we ended up going back and forth in a friendly way with some gay sisters. Anyhow, when we were saying our goodbyes a particular one and myself sort of lingered and chatted. It was somewhat surreal, that at that moment, sexual orientation was replaced with individuality, but I knew that the basis of attraction existed within our indivudality. Does that sound crazy?