MAKING THE DECISION TO HEAL

[goldenepiphany]

[glow=Purple,2,300]Intro[/glow]

OK So For Those That Know In Pm's I Have Been Down A Little. Well I Contacted My Ex To Get Some Un-Resolved Questions Answered And He Has Answered Some.I Must Say Thanks To Those That Have Given Me Advice. From Some I Have Taken all And From Others Its Been Bits And Pieces.I Opened My www.beliefnet.com Daily Inspirational For Today And The Title Was Making The Decision To Heal. ..Yes I Know Thats The Smiley I Felt .


So My Questions Are.....


How Long Do You Cry?
Do You Tend To Let Go Without Answers?
Do You Play Back Situations Thinking What If?
After All Is Said And Done When Do You Decide To Heal?






Now G.E. knows that it will be hard for some to divulge their inner wimp,but its OK ya ll can PM me if need be.

[goldenepiphany]

Its Not Thanks Troof


The Healing Process Is The Better Of The Situation I Believe. I Do Think Its Selfish And Thats Why I Went Back.I am Feeling Better And It Seemed Like That Was A Meant Towards My Positivity And Its Getting Me Back To The Healthier And Happier G.E. I Know My Friends Miss Her

[Nupey]

<-----Has learned that Women Generally NEVER let go and the closure they seek is usually brought on to the next man, even men that they are not involved with.

[goldenepiphany]

Woman Do Get Closure Nupey, But questions Need To be Answered At Times To Recieve The Closure

[Bunny Hop]

How Long Do You Cry?
Depends on the person and the situation. Usually for a few minutes and then I go to sleep

Do You Tend To Let Go Without Answers?
nope...I found that I have to know everything to make a good decision because I'll always be thinking what if.

Do You Play Back Situations Thinking What If? yep, all the time

After All Is Said And Done When Do You Decide To Heal? when I know that there is nothing worth holding on to and I know that I'd be a better me without this person or relationship in my life. and if that person can't let go it makes it that m uch harder for you to let go.







Now G.E. knows that it will be hard for some to divulge their inner wimp,but its OK ya ll can PM me if need be.
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[BKupInHere]

FROM GE:How Long Do You Cry?depends how deep my feelings are...so the crying may last weeks
Do You Tend To Let Go Without Answers?no,thus the crying for weeks
Do You Play Back Situations Thinking What If?yes,but then realize how musch TIME Im wasting constructing false scenarios in my cranium. While I sit and do that ,LIFE IS PASSING ME BY
After All Is Said And Done When Do You Decide To Heal?see above


GE (btw:please put your old name in your siggy. Im 38 yrs young now and I dont have time to guess who you are Sweetie!!!) Dont ever apologize for having a hard time letting go-especially if you loved that person. Its not just the breakup that can be traumatic,its the LOSS OF A FRIEND that is also hard to let go. The first step is what you wrote: making the decision to heal. You learn this lesson and you slowly move on!

You'll be more than okay-you will be BETTER AND STRONGER!!!

[Champs Elysees]

How Long Do You Cry?
Do You Tend To Let Go Without Answers?
Do You Play Back Situations Thinking What If?
After All Is Said And Done When Do You Decide To Heal?

How Long Do You Cry?
Crying is for sukas!!!
Really, it depends on the situation. I'm not too much of a crier (I'm a thug), but I'm more apt to cry tears of joy than sorrow any day. When my relationship ended, I was hurt, but it fueled me to do better and reach my full potential. I'm the happiest I've been in months.

Do You Tend To Let Go Without Answers?
I have all the answers I need. We weren't meant to be. I sacrificed too much when he was showing me more and more that he was not as in to it as I was. He played me and that's all I need to know.

Do You Play Back Situations Thinking What If?
I just wish I had taken the opportunities that I sacrificed for his bitch ass. Now I can't buy a chance, but such is life. I'm still young and every day is a new chance for me to make my life (and the lives of those around me) better.

After All Is Said And Done When Do You Decide To Heal?
I decided that day. I don't feel like anyone is worth me feeling down and sad. Every day I wake up is an opportunity. I'm not gonna miss my blessings dwelling on a bitch ass nigga. It was probably easier for me because I had a friend to take me out and kick it with and there were signs that I refused to see until the very end.

I hope you feel better and can find the strength to move past this obstacle. Find something that makes you happy and do it! The past is the past. Everything happens for a reason. You are blessed you just have to see it. Good luck!

[goldenepiphany]

discerningtruth said:

Aww! I don't want to hear all this healing talk! I want you to be happy, sexy, pole dancing GE! Bring her back!!! ;D

Why Did I Just See This....Im Going To Bring Her Back In 08

[MochaD]

Healing isn't something you "decide." It's a process that includes a very vital factor called time. Time heals ALL wounds. Gone, not forgotten but healing will come with time.

As much as we would like to, we can't control our feelings. We can chose to be in denial, to be bitter and/or angry but as time surpasses you will have to face the facts/matter at hand and deal with it. Whether you cry, bury yourself with work, take on a hobby or whatever, you will eventually get over it. I will be a mere memory.

Closure is nice, ideal even, but sometimes we don't get closure so that's when I say, let go, and let GOD. Sometimes we will NEVER understand why things occurred the way they did but I trust that GOD knows best and move on.

I had a prior experience where I though my world was coming to a crashing end. I'd lost my job, my grandmother and my man was a stranger I no longer knew and he basically kicked me HARD (and kept kicking me) while I was down. When I look back on it, I did some things that I wish I did differently but I only did what I knew to do because I had NEVER experienced that before. So I went with my initial reactions because I simply didn't know any better. I know better now AND I am so grateful for that experience because it made me who I am. I am a far better person because of it and I'm much stronger. I'm STILL STANDING! I'M STILL STRONG!!! ;D

I say all of that to say, just stand the course, feel what you're feeling, react and learn from it. If the situation does not present closure it's OK. Give it to GOD (pray on it) and just let it go. What is meant to be will be and what GOD has for you is for you. That's TRUTH!!!

[regaldefined]

goldenepiphany said:

[glow=Purple,2,300]Intro[/glow]

OK So For Those That Know In Pm's I Have Been Down A Little. Well I Contacted My Ex To Get Some Un-Resolved Questions Answered And He Has Answered Some.I Must Say Thanks To Those That Have Given Me Advice. From Some I Have Taken all And From Others Its Been Bits And Pieces.I Opened My www.beliefnet.com Daily Inspirational For Today And The Title Was Making The Decision To Heal. ..Yes I Know Thats The Smiley I Felt .


So My Questions Are.....


How Long Do You Cry?
Do You Tend To Let Go Without Answers?
Do You Play Back Situations Thinking What If?
After All Is Said And Done When Do You Decide To Heal?




Now G.E. knows that it will be hard for some to divulge their inner wimp,but its OK ya ll can PM me if need be.

1. As long as tears fall or until you decide you've cried enough.
2. Until the answers you have suffice or you realize the answers you have is all you will ever NEED to get to move on
3. No, but I play back situations and ask "What Now" - meaning what did I learn, how do I apply it, and how do I stop reliving it?
4. You heal when you are tired of beating yourself up or tired of feeling beat by the situation.

All of this is easy for me to say, but it was harder to learn. When I finally learned the key to quick healing is to find the lesson and apply it, I felt like I found the key to life. I truly always feel better about things, no matter how tough, and even as I am going through because I KNOW the lesson is coming. I start to seek it mid lesson, start to ask "Okay what am learning right now? What should I be learning? What do I want to learn? Answering these questions or beginning to in your head, in your writing, in your venting really begins the process of learning yourself well enough to move forward.

[Can - Do]

mochadelight said:

Healing isn't something you "decide." It's a process that includes a very vital factor called time. Time heals ALL wounds. Gone, not forgotten but healing will come with time.

As much as we would like to, we can't control our feelings. We can chose to be in denial, to be bitter and/or angry but as time surpasses you will have to face the facts/matter at hand and deal with it. Whether you cry, bury yourself with work, take on a hobby or whatever, you will eventually get over it. I will be a mere memory.

Closure is nice, ideal even, but sometimes we don't get closure so that's when I say, let go, and let GOD. Sometimes we will NEVER understand why things occurred the way they did but I trust that GOD knows best and move on.

I had a prior experience where I though my world was coming to a crashing end. I'd lost my job, my grandmother and my man was a stranger I no longer knew and he basically kicked me HARD (and kept kicking me) while I was down. When I look back on it, I did some things that I wish I did differently but I only did what I knew to do because I had NEVER experienced that before. So I went with my initial reactions because I simply didn't know any better. I know better now AND I am so grateful for that experience because it made me who I am. I am a far better person because of it and I'm much stronger. I'm STILL STANDING! I'M STILL STRONG!!! ;D

I say all of that to say, just stand the course, feel what you're feeling, react and learn from it. If the situation does not present closure it's OK. Give it to GOD (pray on it) and just let it go. What is meant to be will be and what GOD has for you is for you. That's TRUTH!!!

and ^^^ this ^^^ is why i fucks with Mocha..no homo..lol

I'm still standing! I'm still strong!! is my favorite quote from Antoine Fisher...lol

[Bunny Hop]

bkupinhere said:

FROM GE:How Long Do You Cry?depends how deep my feelings are...so the crying may last weeks
Do You Tend To Let Go Without Answers?no,thus the crying for weeks
Do You Play Back Situations Thinking What If?yes,but then realize how musch TIME Im wasting constructing false scenarios in my cranium. While I sit and do that ,LIFE IS PASSING ME BY
After All Is Said And Done When Do You Decide To Heal?see above


GE (btw:please put your old name in your siggy. Im 38 yrs young now and I dont have time to guess who you are Sweetie!!!) Dont ever apologize for having a hard time letting go-especially if you loved that person. Its not just the breakup that can be traumatic,its the LOSS OF A FRIEND that is also hard to let go. The first step is what you wrote: making the decision to heal. You learn this lesson and you slowly move on!

You'll be more than okay-you will be BETTER AND STRONGER!!!

@the red part:I told my mom this one day...I don't think she gets it. She thinks that by trying to ignore and push something out of your mind that you're getting over it....doesn't work.

[goldenepiphany]

Awww Thanks For The Advice Ladies Keep It Coming..We Are Having A Face To Face..So I Don't Know

[Bunny Hop]

I hope it works out and yall get it all out. Face to face is good because people can't hide behind a phone or computer screen the stuff that you see in body language and facial expressions.

[regaldefined]

GE - Face to Face Pointers:
Ask yourself the following things while having this convo:

1. Will my tears change anything?
2. When this person walks away at the end of this what will the recap be and how do I want to look in the recap?
3. What if I don't get the answers I need?
4. How can I walk away from this WITH dignity?


Oh and being the first to walk will almost make you BUST A GOOD ONE! Don't be the one left at the table!

[goldenepiphany]

I Have Sent im Some Questions And Those Are The Ones I Really Just Want To Know...I Don't Know How I Wil Take Them. i just Want Honesty After All We Aren't Together Anymore

[goldenepiphany]

Im Donne I Got My Answers I Wanted And I Guess We Are Past