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Jun 5, 2009 13:36:09 GMT -5
Post by ShimmeringSTAR on Jun 5, 2009 13:36:09 GMT -5
How do you as a person find yourself or don't lose yourself in life,love and or career?? I have read in alot of post recently that you must find yourself or keep up with self while in different situations..How can you merge the two or multiples without being selfish...  |
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Jun 5, 2009 13:38:07 GMT -5
Post by 123Diva on Jun 5, 2009 13:38:07 GMT -5
Great thread...I will be back with my thoughts.
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Jun 5, 2009 13:49:55 GMT -5
Post by ShimmeringSTAR on Jun 5, 2009 13:49:55 GMT -5
YAAAAAAY..I will be waiting  |
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Jun 5, 2009 13:50:13 GMT -5
Post by Bunny Hop on Jun 5, 2009 13:50:13 GMT -5
IDK...I'm still trying to figure this out.
I guess for now I still do some things by myself...shop, go to the movies, spend time with the folks, watch my shows, etc. As far as work...when I'm gone I'M GONE unless I have something that has to be turned in. It's rare that I'll take it home. This might be why I disliked grad school the way I did...I felt like there was no separating it and I didn't even enjoy it.
Losing myself scares me...I feel like you can work, have love, etc and still be you....it just might take some work and effort.
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Jun 5, 2009 13:56:25 GMT -5
Post by 123Diva on Jun 5, 2009 13:56:25 GMT -5
I think a part of losing self is ceasing to develop self or focus on self as a result of being with or involved with someone or something else.
There are things that single people do sometimes to better themselves such as working out, going to school, taking some kind of lessons, reading up on something of interest...just basic personal development that sometimes gets lost when they couple up.
For me it's important that I can first of all be myself - my TRUE self - with another person. And then also that they support my personal goals...so even when lives merge that person should be your biggest fan of that continued self development...
I have also thought that a person who is securely grounded in self and unafraid to push to improve themselves, makes for a better partner, which makes for a better relationship.
I've probably digressed.
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Jun 5, 2009 14:00:21 GMT -5
Post by ShimmeringSTAR on Jun 5, 2009 14:00:21 GMT -5
My SELF consists of being a SPOILED child..Youngest of 4 and most of My friends..I'm the dependable one that is ALWAYS there..In a relationship I tend to become what he NEEDS...Spiritually I back away from the church but I KNOW and believe GOD exists  I'm actually there now in a phase of losing myself  I feel Im NOT where I use to be spiritually, career wise, I find myself compromising my NEEDS for unhealthy wants... I have re-designed my carrer goals and I feel much happier with it... Relationship wise I find that I may NOT be emotionally ready for one and it scares me that Im such a strong believer in LOVE and I'm starting to see it may NOT be for me Spiritually..I KNOW GOD exists but in my life I have been through alot and though it may be a walk in the park for some...I want to believe that he "WON"T PUT MORE ON YOU THAN YOU CAN BARE" but Im drowning and I feel he is stacking it up... |
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Jun 6, 2009 10:58:51 GMT -5
Post by juschill on Jun 6, 2009 10:58:51 GMT -5
-/ Relationship wise I find that I may NOT be emotionally ready for one and it scares me that Im such a strong believer in LOVE and I'm starting to see it may NOT be for me CHUUURCH!!! |
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Jun 6, 2009 11:42:42 GMT -5
Post by coldfront06 on Jun 6, 2009 11:42:42 GMT -5
I think you first have to do some introspection and discover what makes YOU happy. What are your goals, desires, morals, values, etc? After that, stay true to yourself. Don't do things that go against your stated beliefs for love, your career, etc.
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Jun 6, 2009 12:14:34 GMT -5
Post by Mrs. Eyes on Jun 6, 2009 12:14:34 GMT -5
I agree with Cold.
One must figure out they are first. Even if it is an everyday discovery. I think me time helps a lot also.
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Jun 6, 2009 13:02:31 GMT -5
Post by ShimmeringSTAR on Jun 6, 2009 13:02:31 GMT -5
I believe it is a daily progression...Im known for getting people out of my life that don't belong...
It is a process though I must admit
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Mar 15, 2012 15:37:32 GMT -5
Post by ShimmeringSTAR on Mar 15, 2012 15:37:32 GMT -5
I think some of my self has changed
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