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Post by THE emPRISS on Feb 1, 2009 15:17:39 GMT -5
I keep hearing about this. And AGAIN I was told "Im not trying to be in the friends zone."  Every dude is in my friendzone until I pull them OUT...not vice versa. There is nothing you can do to get out of the "friend zone" until I pull you out...no amount of charming, window jumping, or confessions of love will get you out before your time (with me). So what exactly is a friend zone? What makes you figure you are stuck in the friendzone? Do guys have one as well? |
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Post by **Dea** on Feb 1, 2009 15:21:14 GMT -5
<===doesn't have a friend zone
(damn...I really am the Anti-matter huh?)
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Post by **Dea** on Feb 1, 2009 15:23:54 GMT -5
Wait...I lied...I don;t have a traditional friend zone...
Like...I may think about sexin a dude...but I wont....but only because he has a girlfriend or something like that...but if he didn't...i'd most definately do it.
So I have dudes that are just friends, but not because i'm not attracted to them or haven't already or would if I could bone him....he's just taken. Now, NONE of these men are qualified to be my man though....but thats a whole other topic.
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Post by LejaOMG on Feb 1, 2009 15:30:21 GMT -5
I deeefinitely have a friendzone. A ill-azz one too, lol. It's official. Once you're in there, you don't come out. But unlike you, Priss, they don't start there. They get placed there for some reason or another
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Post by Gamma on Feb 1, 2009 15:47:03 GMT -5
My friend-zone is amazing! I put them there and they STAY THERE. Period. Mine is a lot like Leja's - they get put there. I have male friends that are NOT in the friend-zone, they're just friends. The friend-zone is something like hell. Nobody gets out once they're in, and they're in because they were BAD.
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Post by **Dea** on Feb 1, 2009 15:57:57 GMT -5
interesting
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Post by nsync on Feb 1, 2009 18:08:50 GMT -5
I've only OFFICIALLY put one guy into friend zone. I promised myself that I would never have sex with him or get serious with him under any circumstances...unless we were the last people on the earth and had to ensure the continuation of the species. Yeah that drastic. I honestly don't think it was anything he did. I just wanted to prove to myself that I could do it LOL 1. and 2. I realized that our friendship was special and only meant to be platonic. I was tested once or twice, but I stuck to my silent vow.
I think that other guys just kinda fell into the friends zone. I knew too much about them and concluded that there was NO way in the world I would do anything more than keep being their friends.
Then there's the whole "brother" syndrome.....
So yeah the friend zone does exist, but I think that most men ARE NOT placed in that group unless it's aparent that they can only be a friend and nothing more or less.
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Post by DamieQue™ on Feb 2, 2009 7:53:33 GMT -5
A Friend Zone, to me, is probably best called Nothing More Than Just a Friend EVER Zone. That's what they tend to be.
Why someone might figure they're stuck there? Experience. Most FriendZones that I've ever seen are one way gates. Once you go in - you stay in. There is no coming out.
Guys have "FriendZones" and "Off Limit Boxes". Friend Zone is for women who just do not, despite their best efforts, attract you. Off Limit Boxes - are women who you find attractive but you keep them at shoulders length (due to age disparity, working in same building, ex-girlfriend of a close friend, married/involved, etc.). That said - with dudes - no box is permanent. Given the right set of conditions you can still get outside the box
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Post by QueenOH on Feb 2, 2009 9:27:19 GMT -5
<---has a friend zone
Many men have gone in the friend zone and none have come out. They sent search parties, but it was hopeless.
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Post by Alc 06 on Feb 2, 2009 9:44:28 GMT -5
A Friend Zone, to me, is probably best called Nothing More Than Just a Friend EVER Zone. That's what they tend to be.
Why someone might figure they're stuck there? Experience. Most FriendZones that I've ever seen are one way gates. Once you go in - you stay in. There is no coming out.
Guys have "FriendZones" and "Off Limit Boxes". Friend Zone is for women who just do not, despite their best efforts, attract you. Off Limit Boxes - are women who you find attractive but you keep them at shoulders length (due to age disparity, working in same building, ex-girlfriend of a close friend, married/involved, etc.). That said - with dudes - no box is permanent. Given the right set of conditions you can still get outside the box LMAO at the "Off Limit Box". That one is right on the money. |
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Post by Cambist on Feb 2, 2009 9:45:42 GMT -5
<<== usually started in the "friend/brother" zone
<<== proved to be an escape artist
LOL!!
I concur with Damie.....
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Post by **Dea** on Feb 2, 2009 9:46:40 GMT -5
<==wonders if her discription of a non-tradition friendzone is just a Off-Limit Box in disguise.....
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Post by QueenOH on Feb 2, 2009 9:55:35 GMT -5
<<== usually started in the "friend/brother" zone <<== proved to be an escape artist LOL!! I concur with Damie..... ^^^is still in my friendzone ^^^will never escape because of the Nessa comments |
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Post by DamieQue™ on Feb 2, 2009 10:03:35 GMT -5
<<== usually started in the "friend/brother" zone <<== proved to be an escape artist LOL!! I concur with Damie..... ^^^is still in my friendzone ^^^will never escape because of the Nessa comments
...Nessa ;D |
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Post by huey on Feb 2, 2009 10:07:46 GMT -5
<---if i want to get out of friendzone ill get out
<---doesn't care if the friendzone and friendship self destructs in process.
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Post by QueenOH on Feb 2, 2009 10:11:20 GMT -5
^^^is still in my friendzone ^^^will never escape because of the Nessa comments
...Nessa ;D^^^is moving toward the Frienemyzone |
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Post by THE emPRISS on Feb 2, 2009 10:13:36 GMT -5
I deeefinitely have a friendzone. A ill-azz one too, lol. It's official. Once you're in there, you don't come out. But unlike you, Priss, they don't start there. They get placed there for some reason or another So you mean, every guy you meet has a "chance" unless proven otherwise (for whatever reason)? |
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Post by nsync on Feb 2, 2009 10:15:06 GMT -5
Priss, just curious...what do you mean when you say "chance". Do you mean relationship chance...fool around chance...d*&^ in box chance?
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Post by Cambist on Feb 2, 2009 10:17:05 GMT -5
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Post by huey on Feb 2, 2009 10:21:07 GMT -5
<----positive he has a 99.9% chance with Priss
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Post by ReignMan19 on Feb 2, 2009 10:23:19 GMT -5
Guys have "FriendZones" and "Off Limit Boxes". Friend Zone is for women who just do not, despite their best efforts, attract you. Off Limit Boxes - are women who you find attractive but you keep them at shoulders length (due to age disparity, working in same building, ex-girlfriend of a close friend, married/involved, etc.). That said - with dudes - no box is permanent. Given the right set of conditions you can still get outside the box Excellent Summary... this is the case with every dude I know |
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Post by THE emPRISS on Feb 2, 2009 10:28:11 GMT -5
Priss, just curious...what do you mean when you say "chance". Do you mean relationship chance...fool around chance...d*&^ in box chance? All of the above. When I meet guys, they are automatically my friends, just like with my female friends. After I get to know them and if there is an attraction, then we can go from there. I need a little more to work with then just physical attraction. It sounds like most people do the opposite (no knock)... are attracted and move solely on that attraction vs. actually getting to know the person first. |
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Post by THE emPRISS on Feb 2, 2009 10:31:19 GMT -5
<----positive he has a 99.9% chance with Priss LOL You clearly don't know me very well. |
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Post by QueenOH on Feb 2, 2009 10:32:16 GMT -5
Wow you have automatice friendships that is weird. I don't like many people that much. I've hung around people for years because they tag along with my friends, but I'm not friends with them.
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Post by coldfront06 on Feb 2, 2009 10:33:37 GMT -5
My friendzone is composed of women that I have absolutely no interest in for whatever reason...most of the time the reason is I'm not attracted to them.
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Post by THE emPRISS on Feb 2, 2009 10:53:09 GMT -5
Wow you have automatice friendships that is weird. I don't like many people that much. I've hung around people for years because they tag along with my friends, but I'm not friends with them. No not automatic friendships. I'm using the term "friend" loosely. We will chill, talk, kick it whatever but just doing so doesnt mean (in my mind) that we are dating or that it will ever evolve into anything...it just means we are starting off as friends first. I dont think its weird at all. |
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Post by DamieQue™ on Feb 2, 2009 10:57:01 GMT -5
Wow you have automatice friendships that is weird. I don't like many people that much. I've hung around people for years because they tag along with my friends, but I'm not friends with them. No not automatic friendships. I'm using the term "friend" loosely. We will chill, talk, kick it whatever but just doing so doesnt mean (in my mind) that we are dating or that it will ever evolve into anything...it just means we are starting off as friends first. I dont think its weird at all. |
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Post by LejaOMG on Feb 2, 2009 10:58:09 GMT -5
I deeefinitely have a friendzone. A ill-azz one too, lol. It's official. Once you're in there, you don't come out. But unlike you, Priss, they don't start there. They get placed there for some reason or another So you mean, every guy you meet has a "chance" unless proven otherwise (for whatever reason)? Precisely. Sometimes the reason for placement in the zone is almost instantaneous with our meeting (unattractive, married, etc). But there is at least a half-second of consideration |
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Post by LejaOMG on Feb 2, 2009 10:59:40 GMT -5
<---if i want to get out of friendzone ill get out <---doesn't care if the friendzone and friendship self destructs in process. Lol. For some reason, I believe you wholeheartedly |
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Post by ReignMan19 on Feb 2, 2009 11:05:58 GMT -5
^^^ I had thought about doing some like that before.. but if you do that (destroy the friendship because you want something more) do you really value the friendship in the first place??
I felt kinda guilty about that
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