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Post by Sapphire on Jun 11, 2012 23:34:50 GMT -5
Can a new love interest be too enthusiasic when trying to win your affection? Where is the line drawn between doing the most to show a potential love interest that you're interested and being too thirsty or even stalkerish? A recent dating situation has my LifetimeTV-dar going off and I've already determined the person in question is doing too much. My friend feels differently and says "he's just showing interest! I wish someone was that interested in me right now." See it's all fun and games until someone ends up in a suitcase in somebody's basement. LOL What behavior sends up red flags for you? Or do you chalk it up to you being the ish and getting the attention you deserve? What say you OO?
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Post by Chal™ on Jun 12, 2012 1:37:17 GMT -5
Oh boy! I recently met this guy named Wallace. First impression, GREAT! Everything after that, sheesh. He was very overbearing and seems to crave control over everything. We argued on each of the three phone calls we had. I was like, THA HAYLE???
My friend, like yours, said that he was just showing interest. I'm really confused as to how.
This other guy, Jay, says I wasn't "affectionate enough." DUDE, I MET YOU TWO WEEKS AGO!!!!! Sheesh!
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Post by T-Rex91 on Jun 12, 2012 9:06:47 GMT -5
A recent dating situation has my LifetimeTV-dar going off and I've already determined the person in question is doing too much. Details please..... |
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Post by Southie on Jun 12, 2012 11:09:27 GMT -5
If it gets to the creepy stage...yeah you might want to let that go.
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Post by ShimmeringSTAR on Jun 12, 2012 12:45:50 GMT -5
I had a guy that would call all night and knew that I had someone...he even knew where that someone worked
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Post by Coach on Jun 12, 2012 16:30:13 GMT -5
Can a new love interest be too enthusiasic when trying to win your affection? Where is the line drawn between doing the most to show a potential love interest that you're interested and being too thirsty or even stalkerish? A recent dating situation has my LifetimeTV-dar going off and I've already determined the person in question is doing too much. My friend feels differently and says "he's just showing interest! I wish someone was that interested in me right now." See it's all fun and games until someone ends up in a suitcase in somebody's basement. LOL What behavior sends up red flags for you? Or do you chalk it up to you being the ish and getting the attention you deserve? What say you OO? All I did was ask you out for some chicken and waffles...I didn't even mention no suitcase or a basement. Sheesh  |
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Post by ceeceedream on Jun 12, 2012 19:56:28 GMT -5
I once had a guy grab my hand as I was holding my spoon and make me feed him my ice cream on a first date. Gross! I think most women have that thing that just tells you "this isn't cool". Some people think a man has to be all over you or controlling to show his affection. Depends on what you have observed and how you have interpreted it I suppose.
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Post by ShimmeringSTAR on Jun 12, 2012 20:20:34 GMT -5
Lol..I was "messing" with a guy for 2 years and still thought it was gross to do that.
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Post by Sapphire on Jun 12, 2012 21:24:49 GMT -5
A recent dating situation has my LifetimeTV-dar going off and I've already determined the person in question is doing too much. Details please..... Overall too gung ho about the "relationship" that ain't started. I mean make a girl feel appreciated but you shouldn't be talking about the future like a wedding is planned. Asking a woman who's clearly on the sick and shut in list dumb questions like "When can I see you?" "Can we do lunch today?" ""Why don't you want to see me?" "Why are you delaying us?" Negus there is no us! We ain't been out yet and I'm sick. Asking too many specific questions about one's where abouts (i.e. what time does your class start? what's the name of the course again? And an answer like "math" isn't sufficient... he pushes "I mean what's the exact name of the class? It can't just be called "math." (and asking that a second time later in the convo to try and catch a sista off guard). I don't know you like that. You dont' need to know where I live or where I go. I don't want you popping out from behind my bushes (shout out to Reign, QS and Alc) Then last night's question which was the straw that broke the camel's back and he got put on the stalker tendency list: Him: What are you wearing tomorrow Her: I dont' know HIm Well what kind of office do you have? Her: Business casual Him: So you gonna wear jeans? Her: I don't know. Him: Well if you don't want to tell me you don't have to. Her:  Heebeejeebies before it starts is a no go. Next! |
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Post by Sapphire on Jun 12, 2012 21:25:10 GMT -5
If it gets to the creepy stage...yeah you might want to let that go. Exactly! |
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Post by ceeceedream on Jun 12, 2012 22:15:09 GMT -5
I think it is fair to say that wanting to know what I am wearing tomorrow is a red flag. I don't know why that one bothered me the most but it did. If he knows what you plan to wear he can see you comming but you can't see him comming.
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Post by ShimmeringSTAR on Jun 12, 2012 22:41:18 GMT -5
Men talk about woman but good Lord!!! Ive been cussed out for not answering the phone. Oh and those questions...
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