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Post by ReignMan19 on Mar 8, 2012 10:25:56 GMT -5
"Man she cute and all but she at every party"
How much does a person's social life come into play when considering dating someone?
Should you alter your social life when getting into a relationship?
Why can't your social life and relationship coexist?
These are questions.
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Post by Chal™ on Mar 8, 2012 10:44:02 GMT -5
"Man she cute and all but she at every party"
So is he if he sees her at "every" party.
How much does a person's social life come into play when considering dating someone?
I don't think it's a question of "quantity." I believe that you should consider the type of social activity and the "behavior" displayed and said places.
Should you alter your social life when getting into a relationship?
Depends. Some people are out socially looking for a mate. When you find him/her then of course you should ease up. Even if this is not your intention (mate-seeking) once you're in a committed relationship, you should either ease up a bit or do it together.
Why can't your social life and relationship coexist?
They can. Just depends on the kind of people you're dealing with.
These are questions.
Those are answers.
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Post by DamieQue™ on Mar 8, 2012 10:58:39 GMT -5
"Man she cute and all but she at every party"So is he if he sees her at "every" party.
#ThisIsACounterpoint |
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Post by nyunupe on Mar 8, 2012 11:01:39 GMT -5
yeah...., or homies sayin' she was at the party last night and last weekend and the weekend before that.
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Post by Chal™ on Mar 8, 2012 11:04:37 GMT -5
sure, fix it up how you will. i refuse your logic
#counterpointdeez
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Post by nyunupe on Mar 8, 2012 11:08:03 GMT -5
sure, fix it up how you will. i refuse your logic #counterpointdeez whaaaat? you know da homies speakin' truth on it. #nowcounterpointdeezDAT |
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Post by QueenOH on Mar 8, 2012 11:11:22 GMT -5
He sounds insecure because she is exciting and he wants her but he feels like he can not keep up
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Post by nyunupe on Mar 8, 2012 11:20:38 GMT -5
He sounds insecure because she is exciting and he wants her but he feels like he can not keep up #oprahandgayle |
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Post by ReignMan19 on Mar 8, 2012 11:23:10 GMT -5
I've heard a lot of women say if their dudes go out a lot it gives them more opportunities to cheat...
Some dudes say they don't want their girls out living this Sex & the City lifestyle......
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"Me, myself, personally" , I'm on the fence. Do I want a chick who is always out.. probably not.
Do I want a chick who is always home and does nothing. ABSOLUTELY NOT.
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Post by Rare_Commodity on Mar 8, 2012 13:47:48 GMT -5
"Man she cute and all but she at every party" How much does a person's social life come into play when considering dating someone? Should you alter your social life when getting into a relationship? Why can't your social life and relationship coexist? These are questions. VERY MUCH to me. If they are always on the scene then yeah I don't expect much to change once we start dating. But how would I know they were always on the scene less I am always there. Ain't nutting wrong with kickin it but every Fri, Sat, & Sun is a bnit much expecially if you are post 30... |
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Post by Rare_Commodity on Mar 8, 2012 13:48:55 GMT -5
I think you need a balance I don't want a dude that always frequents the places me and my girls frequent and vice versa...I like to be boo'd up when I have a dude but I also like to get away with the girls.
Like this weekend is S.W.A.C.C. attack so I will be "on the scene"
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Post by LejaOMG on Mar 8, 2012 16:33:29 GMT -5
M'eh. I don't want a dude who's too busy (with ANYTHING) to spend time with me. Whether he clubs every night or builds habitats for humanity, if everytime I want you I get bumped for a "prior engagement," I'll feel rejected.
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Post by ReignMan19 on Mar 8, 2012 16:37:41 GMT -5
M'eh. I don't want a dude who's too busy (with ANYTHING) to spend time with me. Whether he clubs every night or builds habitats for humanity, if everytime I want you I get bumped for a "prior engagement," I'll feel rejected. I totally get this... and I think anybody would feel rejected in this instance. I just find it interesting how people tie the social scene and relationships together. the whole "you are in a relationship now you don't need to be in those streets" is intriguing to me. I don't agree or disagree with the notion. |
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Post by LejaOMG on Mar 8, 2012 16:41:23 GMT -5
I don't club, but I jetset. I wonder if those same people would argue that I need to stay put when I'm in a relationship.
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Post by ReignMan19 on Mar 8, 2012 16:42:48 GMT -5
I don't club, but I jetset. I wonder if those same people would argue that I need to stay put when I'm in a relationship. yep they would. |
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Post by 123Diva on Mar 8, 2012 18:00:26 GMT -5
This is a tricky one.
What happens when a person's profession require that he/she be "on the scene"?
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Post by nyunupe on Mar 8, 2012 18:07:52 GMT -5
I don't club, but I jetset. I wonder if those same people would argue that I need to stay put when I'm in a relationship. I don't see anything wrong with continuing your jetsetting, so long as he's sitting first class with you... |
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Post by nyunupe on Mar 8, 2012 18:11:49 GMT -5
This is a tricky one. What happens when a person's profession require that he/she be "on the scene"? Profession? too many distractions and temptations. Move on and find a person with a less temptuous career... |
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Post by LejaOMG on Mar 8, 2012 18:25:26 GMT -5
This is a tricky one. What happens when a person's profession require that he/she be "on the scene"? Been there. Hated it. Men whose professions require them to be on the scene are often followed around by loose women. Even if the man is trustworthy, keeping those hoes at bay is like a full time job (for you). |
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Post by Sapphire on Mar 8, 2012 20:35:19 GMT -5
yeah...., or homies sayin' she was at the party last night and last weekend and the weekend before that. #homiesbehatin |
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Post by 123Diva on Mar 8, 2012 22:33:24 GMT -5
This is a tricky one. What happens when a person's profession require that he/she be "on the scene"? Been there. Hated it. Men whose professions require them to be on the scene are often followed around by loose women. Even if the man is trustworthy, keeping those hoes at bay is like a full time job (for you).  Women in this situation often have to decide if they should totally immerse themselves in SO's profession, or stay separate for the most part. To Leja's point, the latter can have devastating consequences. And who wants to babysit a man stand by to ward off his loose female followers??? |
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Post by Southie on Mar 9, 2012 9:48:39 GMT -5
"Man she cute and all but she at every party" How much does a person's social life come into play when considering dating someone? Should you alter your social life when getting into a relationship? Why can't your social life and relationship coexist? These are questions. If I met dude while traveling, because that is what we like to do, don't alter that habit. |
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Post by ReignMan19 on Mar 9, 2012 10:22:13 GMT -5
I dont get the whole "ward off the groupies" what are you actually doing??
I'm picturing a chick with a bat swinging at a group of clamoring hoodpoodles.... but that can't be real life.
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Post by LejaOMG on Mar 9, 2012 10:42:16 GMT -5
I dont get the whole "ward off the groupies" what are you actually doing?? I'm picturing a chick with a bat swinging at a group of clamoring hoodpoodles.... but that can't be real life. It is not real life. But I learned that men are very "present" wherever they are. I used to refer to this as oblivion, but I'm growing. For that reason, when they're on the scene (esp for work), they're working the room, they're popping bottles, they're doing whatever it is they do and the hoodpoodles are attracted to that. Meanwhile, because he is so "present," he's not giving a bit of thought to: (1) is my behavior encouraging foolishness in any way? (2) how would shorty feel if she was seeing this right now? (3) what message am I sending to observers about my relationship status right now? Unless his woman is literally on his arm, hoes will be flocking. So as his woman, you're not really doing anything besides peeing on him and marking your proverbial territory. And then, obviously if he's going home with you he can't be going home with anybody else. But why? Because the man is focused on the scene. These women are nameless and faceless to him. They mean nothing. Whereas the women are thinking and scheming...about how they plan to bump into him in the parking lot and ish. You'd be surprised at how much your woman's very presence can decrease the incidence of hoesh*t. And the worst part is, the real barracudas--the professional piranha hoes, don't even care. So while your presence may be mitigating the hoesh*t, it doesn't prevent it entirely on account of it's some superhuman hoes out here. And they don't all wear fishnets and platform heels. |
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Post by 123Diva on Mar 9, 2012 10:49:03 GMT -5
I dont get the whole "ward off the groupies" what are you actually doing?? I'm picturing a chick with a bat swinging at a group of clamoring hoodpoodles.... but that can't be real life. It is not real life. But I learned that men are very "present" wherever they are. I used to refer to this oblivion, but I'm growing. For that reason, when they're on the scene (esp for work), they're working the room, they're popping bottles, they're doing whatever it is they do and the hoodpoodles are attracted to that. Meanwhile, because he is so "present," he's not giving a bit of thought to: (1) is my behavior encouraging foolishness in any way? (2) how would shorty feel if she was seeing this right now? (3) what message am I sending to observers about my relationship status right now? Unless his woman is literally on his arm, hoes will be flocking. So as his woman, you're not really doing anything besides peeing on him and marking your proverbial territory. And then, obviously if he's going home with you he can't be going home with anybody else. But why? Because the man is focused on the scene. These women are nameless and faceless to him. They mean nothing. Whereas the women are thinking and scheming...about how they plan to bump into him in the parking lot and ish. You'd be surprised at how much your woman's very presence can decrease the incidence of hoesh*t. And the worst part is, the real barracudas--the professional piranha hoes, don't even care. So your presence may be mitigating the hoesh*t, it doesn't prevent it entirely on account of it's some superhuman hoes out here. And they don't all wear fishnets and platform heels. Leja is soooo right. And I HATE that she is. Cuz I HATE this whole concept. Such is life tho. I used to shun this very thought...but it is reality. In some cases, it makes the most sense for a woman to be right by her man's side ON THE JOB. Take it or leave it...I guess. |
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Post by ReignMan19 on Mar 9, 2012 10:52:17 GMT -5
Wow. Consider myself schooled.
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Post by LejaOMG on Mar 9, 2012 10:55:11 GMT -5
With all that said, I'd try it again. I attract (and am attracted to) high profile cats. Whether the scene is a club or a legislative conference, similar rules apply...which is why I mentioned above that some of these superhuman hoes dress in chief of staff clothing.
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Post by 123Diva on Mar 9, 2012 11:00:54 GMT -5
With all that said, I'd try it again. I attract (and am attracted to) high profile cats. Whether the scene is a club or a legislative conference, similar rules apply...which is why I mentioned above that some of these superhuman hoes dress in chief of staff clothing. I just flatlined. Trust that I know about this. SMH. I am in a sharing mood, but I won't. <----Incognegress (kinda sorta) LMBO...I can't deal with Leja and her truths right now. |
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Post by ReignMan19 on Mar 9, 2012 11:03:02 GMT -5
change the identities and share...  |
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Post by LejaOMG on Mar 9, 2012 11:06:46 GMT -5
With all that said, I'd try it again. I attract (and am attracted to) high profile cats. Whether the scene is a club or a legislative conference, similar rules apply...which is why I mentioned above that some of these superhuman hoes dress in chief of staff clothing. I just flatlined. Trust that I know about this. SMH. I am in a sharing mood, but I won't. <----Incognegress (kinda sorta) LMBO...I can't deal with Leja and her truths right now. where I come from, that's what PM is for. Yes. Do it. Commiserate with Leja. And ask Reign. I'm great at reading your private thoughts and sanitizing them for public consumption! |
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