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Post by LejaOMG on Jan 5, 2012 11:13:19 GMT -5
Well, there's the question. If you already have kids, the question still applies.
Second question: How different, if at all, is your intended approach to parenthood/child rearing different than those of your own parents? Why?
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Post by Chal™ on Jan 5, 2012 11:52:51 GMT -5
Good questions.
What kind of parent do you want to be?
Not really sure how to word the answer. I know that I would like to be a strong, positive example for my kid rather than a do-what-i-say-not-what-i-do parent. Stern and disciplining, yet fair and compassionate. I know that above all, I will definitely be a praying mother.
How different, if at all, is your intended approach to parenthood/child rearing different than those of your own parents? Why?
I definitely plan to be more involved in my kid(s)'s(?) life(ves). I want them to have options. Rather than force them to engage in activities they so obviously hate (never could get that darn plié right, mom), I will support them in the ones they enjoy (whoo hoo! go, drama club!)
More than anything, I want to establish an open line of communication. I want my kids to know and feel that they can come to me for any and everything. I don't go for that whole "my kid is my friend" mess, but I do believe that as a parent I should have a the patience, understanding, and at least a small memory of what it was like to be their age.
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Post by ShimmeringSTAR on Jan 5, 2012 14:18:39 GMT -5
Well said Twin..I agree
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Post by Rare_Commodity on Mar 7, 2012 11:30:41 GMT -5
What kind of parent do you want to be?
A good if not better parent than my mother was to us.
Second question: How different, if at all, is your intended approach to parenthood/child rearing different than those of your own parents? Why?
I lived with my grandma in Ark for over 5 years so I learned alot from her and my mother. She forced us to be very active in church and in the community. In some ways I respect this in others I resent her for this. In my mind I say I will give my children a choice but that may change once they actually come.
My mom was great in some ways and not so great in others. I'll take the good and learn from the bad. I was a mean little girl but no one every stop to ask me why? My dad was not around and my mom was not the easiest to talk to. Our family wasn't raised to "talk" about our problems you just dealt with them or ignored them. So that is one aspect I would like to change when I become a parent. Allow the lines of communication to be open and learn to be more understanding. One protective mechanism that I I love is the fact that my kept us away from men (uncles, bf, male friends) unless she was around.
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Post by DamieQue™ on Mar 7, 2012 11:47:58 GMT -5
What kind of parent do I want to be:
A good one. That's about all I can hope for right there.
Second question: How different, if at all, is your intended approach to parenthood/child rearing different than those of your own parents? Why?
Probably not much different at all. I might try to be a little more sensitive to my kids, compared to my parents but that's about it.
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Post by nyunupe on Mar 7, 2012 11:50:05 GMT -5
I would like to be the type of parent that my parents were.... consistant and nurturing and above all else, honest.
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Post by Oldskool on Mar 7, 2012 17:33:04 GMT -5
Good questions. What kind of parent do you want to be? Not really sure how to word the answer. I know that I would like to be a strong, positive example for my kid rather than a do-what-i-say-not-what-i-do parent. Stern and disciplining, yet fair and compassionate. I know that above all, I will definitely be a praying mother. How different, if at all, is your intended approach to parenthood/child rearing different than those of your own parents? Why? I definitely plan to be more involved in my kid(s)'s(?) life(ves). I want them to have options. Rather than force them to engage in activities they so obviously hate (never could get that darn plié right, mom), I will support them in the ones they enjoy (whoo hoo! go, drama club!) More than anything, I want to establish an open line of communication. I want my kids to know and feel that they can come to me for any and everything. I don't go for that whole "my kid is my friend" mess, but I do believe that as a parent I should have a the patience, understanding, and at least a small memory of what it was like to be their age.
Well said chal.
Also, with more than one child, remember to never show favoritism. Your expectations should be very clear. Never promise and not deliver. Your children won't trust you. Remember that all children are individuals and you should not compare one to the other. It's hard enough to be yourself than to try to live up to what someone else was or was not.
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Post by Sapphire on Mar 7, 2012 21:35:37 GMT -5
What kind of parent do you want to be?
Honestly, I would just want to be a good parent... the best that I can and hopefully the best in the eyes of my child. I know that I would like to be a loving, supportive and patient mother who is able to prepare my child for his or her future. I would want my child to see and learn from my strength, wisdom, knowledge, resiliency, determination, love and respect for others. I want to be caring and nurturing, yet not slack on discipline to be sure my child knows how to act and treat others.
How different, if at all, is your intended approach to parenthood/child rearing different than those of your own parents? Why?
I cosign on wanting to establish an open line of communication. We're not friends, but I want my kids to know and feel confident that they can come to me for any and everything. I would try to be more adventurous and try new things even when my kids didn't want to. My parents let me get involved with various activities, but the minute I didn't like it they let me give it up. Also I would expose them to different types of foods so they wouldn't end up the picky eater that I've turned out to be. :-)
At the end of the day, at the end of a lifetime, I would want to be the kind of parent that was succesful in letting her child know he/she was loved and wanted from the beginning and always.
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Post by QueenOH on Mar 8, 2012 9:08:20 GMT -5
I want to be a good parent. And I want to instill a sense of independence in my son that I see many kids in our neighborhood lacking. Also i want him to develop good deductive reasoning skills.
I'm different from my parents because I still remember what I was like to be a kid. How a kid's mind works and all the pressure I felt growing up. I see so many parents that forget they were once young and dumb too.
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