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Post by LejaOMG on Nov 14, 2011 13:15:45 GMT -5
From the bride and groom, right down to your garden-variety guest, most everyone involved with a wedding has some sort of role to play.
Any interesting stories? Ever shell out a small fortune for a tux? Ever get stuck on mother-in-law duty? Do you feel that your level of obligation depends on how well you know the bride/groom? Whatchall got?
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Post by Chal™ on Nov 14, 2011 13:32:37 GMT -5
In the process of "planning" a wedding now. (Kia's suppose to be getting married, yall LOL)
The soon-to-be mother-in-law seems to think that this is her chance to have the wedding she never had. For the second time in her life she's about to become well acquainted with Chally from the Block. *eye roll*
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Post by LejaOMG on Nov 14, 2011 13:32:42 GMT -5
I've been a bridesmaid twice, once for a close relative and once for my Line Sister. Both times, I put forth a good amount of effort but each time was worth it based on my relationship with the bride. On couples: Outside of the more precise etiquette rules, I think they are obligated to be graceful to their guests and attendants. That includes: - sending out invitations at LEAST 4 weeks in advance of the wedding (save the date notices are also appreciated)
- giving at least passing consideration to the seating arrangement
- financing their ENTIRE wedding so that they are not depending on gifts and contributions from the wedding party to get back in the black
- devise a comprehensive projected expense for the party so that people can make an informed decision as to whether they wish to participate
- make some sort of effort to introduce the wedding party to each other prior to the wedding (I once walked down the aisle holding hands with a guy I met that morning. Awwwkward)
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Post by LejaOMG on Nov 14, 2011 13:36:18 GMT -5
random story: I once had a soror invite me to her wedding w/3 weeks notice (and the RSVP deadline had already passed). When I told her that I could not attend, she informed me that I would still be able to get her a gift from the registry. Man...GTFOOH
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Post by Chal™ on Nov 14, 2011 13:40:20 GMT -5
In my aunt's wedding she wanted us (bridesmaids) to purchase our dresses. No problem. We went to the bridal shop and she showed us these hideous there-is-no-way-anyone-is-outshining-me-on-my-day dresses that was overly priced by $200 (the dress was $200). Everyone kinda grimaced but took their dress. Everyone but the kid of course. I told that heffa that if I have to buy a dress it will be something that a) i like, b) doesn't make me look like a circus act, and c) i can rock at another function sometime down the line.
Yea, she was mad. But in the end we compromised. We could pick our own, sticking to her theme and scheme, and she had to approve the dress before purchase.
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Post by Chal™ on Nov 14, 2011 13:41:27 GMT -5
random story: I once had a soror invite me to her wedding w/3 weeks notice (and the RSVP deadline had already passed). When I told her that I could not attend, she informed me that I would still be able to get her a gift from the registry. Man...GTFOOH WHAT!!! So she pretty much invited you for the gift? lol |
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Post by LejaOMG on Nov 14, 2011 13:54:27 GMT -5
random story: I once had a soror invite me to her wedding w/3 weeks notice (and the RSVP deadline had already passed). When I told her that I could not attend, she informed me that I would still be able to get her a gift from the registry. Man...GTFOOH WHAT!!! So she pretty much invited you for the gift? lol evidently, yes. And I really didn't want to go anyway. After I saw the pictures (littered with folks I hate), I was glad I declined to attend. I have not had any contact with her since. |
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Post by LejaOMG on Nov 14, 2011 13:57:24 GMT -5
Both my bridesmaids dresses were beautiful. One is hung in a closet in my spare room. The other is stuffed in a plastic bag in my trunk (where it has been since I removed it in a hotel lobby restroom in 2009). Don't have any real intention of wearing either of them again.
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Post by Rare_Commodity on Nov 14, 2011 14:14:00 GMT -5
^^LOL did this chick say littered  like a photo op of the Puppy Pound.....hahahaha. Yep my sisters bouchetto wedding. Wanted the sun, moon, and stars, on a value meal budget and refused to take advice or assistance from anyone. Despite the wedding planner (groom's bf) left half the decorations and guest gifts at home, depsite the groom's mother showing up in her Easter dress (literally) in the fall, depsite that the chef undercooked the chicken and we had to send several plates back, depsite that of the over 100 gifts my sis got like 3 gifts (her friends are young 20-22), it turned out nice. Glad its over. Oh I forgot to mention I never met the best man (so I thought) only knew his first name until the day of rehersal. Well come to find out this use to be a guy from back in the day (like high school) I use to "talk" to. His wife was there and let's say very awkward. |
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Post by QueenOH on Nov 14, 2011 14:18:08 GMT -5
I was called the day before the wedding to be an usher because one of them got sick. It was only because the groom and I have been friends since I was 13 that I agreed to it, but then they said "Please wear a blue dress".
I know I married a sigma, but I don't have a lot of blue clothes in my closet.
The only blue dress I had was one that was blue that faded to silver and back to blue.
When I get there the other Ushers were a upset because 1) my dress made me stand out 2) it was prettier than the ones they had to wear and 3) since my dress was different people assumed I was the leader of the ushers and would ask me everything and tell me everything that needed to be done so I was automatically in charge.
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Post by Chal™ on Nov 14, 2011 14:29:40 GMT -5
lol @ automatically in charge.
I probably should bring up my cousin's wedding fiasco earlier this year. We're STILL laughing at that one. lol
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Post by QueenOH on Nov 14, 2011 14:41:52 GMT -5
lol @ automatically in charge. I heard a distant whisper say "she didn't even go to the rehearsal how she gonna tell us what to do" |
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Post by 123Diva on Nov 14, 2011 15:09:07 GMT -5
<-----On mother of the bride duty currently.
This will be my 6th wedding (that I'm in) not counting being an usher, and counting being a mini-bride and flower girl.
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Post by LejaOMG on Nov 14, 2011 15:33:48 GMT -5
lol @ mini-bride. Hella foreign. lol again.
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Post by 123Diva on Nov 14, 2011 15:46:47 GMT -5
lol @ mini-bride. Hella foreign. lol again. I was 6 & the wedding was in Jamaica... It was an experience that maybe I'll talk about in detail one day. |
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Post by Southie on Nov 15, 2011 10:18:23 GMT -5
From the bride and groom, right down to your garden-variety guest, most everyone involved with a wedding has some sort of role to play. Any interesting stories? Ever shell out a small fortune for a tux? Ever get stuck on mother-in-law duty? Do you feel that your level of obligation depends on how well you know the bride/groom? Whatchall got? <<has already been a bridesmaid (more than once) <<has already been the maid of honor <<at this point, would prefer to just be guest and partake in the bar ;D |
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Post by QueenOH on Nov 15, 2011 10:25:50 GMT -5
When I was a teen i was a candle lighter in my cousin's wedding. We had to walk with the long candles held in front of us stiff armed.
Well the decorator must have forgot about the candles and out pillars down the Aisle with ferns hanging low.
I set a fern on fire
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Post by 123Diva on Nov 16, 2011 21:52:43 GMT -5
When I was a teen i was a candle lighter in my cousin's wedding. We had to walk with the long candles held in front of us stiff armed. Well the decorator must have forgot about the candles and out pillars down the Aisle with ferns hanging low. I set a fern on fire I am on my 3rd glass of Riesling so this is EXTREMELY funny to me right now! |
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Post by **Dea** on Nov 17, 2011 14:32:17 GMT -5
<===planning a wedding now (I is gettin married yall)
My wedding will only have 6 attendees so no character roles will be needed. My reception/celebration party will have everyone and they great anties and no one has to do anything for that either.
I believe when I remove responsibility from other ppl it lessen the chance that they'll mess my day up!
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Post by Chal™ on Nov 17, 2011 15:45:07 GMT -5
Congratulations, babe!
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Post by **Dea** on Nov 18, 2011 10:52:43 GMT -5
Thanksie poo!
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Post by QueenOH on Nov 18, 2011 11:02:17 GMT -5
I promise not to set your wedding on fire.
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Post by **Dea** on Nov 21, 2011 7:09:45 GMT -5
Lol! Why would u do that?
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Post by 123Diva on Nov 21, 2011 17:21:26 GMT -5
Congrats Dea!
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Post by **Dea** on Nov 21, 2011 17:40:10 GMT -5
Thanksie
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Post by **Dea** on Nov 21, 2011 17:40:55 GMT -5
Im still waiting to see why Queen wants to set my wedding on fire.
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Post by Chal™ on Nov 21, 2011 17:58:54 GMT -5
@ Dea I think she's referring to one of her previous posts. When I was a teen i was a candle lighter in my cousin's wedding. We had to walk with the long candles held in front of us stiff armed. Well the decorator must have forgot about the candles and out pillars down the Aisle with ferns hanging low. I set a fern on fire |
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Post by **Dea** on Nov 22, 2011 15:05:09 GMT -5
LMBO!!! How did I miss this!!! Hilarious!!!! Thanks for the clarity! @ Dea I think she's referring to one of her previous posts. When I was a teen i was a candle lighter in my cousin's wedding. We had to walk with the long candles held in front of us stiff armed. Well the decorator must have forgot about the candles and out pillars down the Aisle with ferns hanging low. I set a fern on fire |
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Post by ShimmeringSTAR on Nov 29, 2011 3:19:59 GMT -5
I have been a bridesmaid twice
left at the hotel for one...
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like a photo op of the Puppy Pound.....hahahaha. 
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