RubyPearl
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Post by RubyPearl on Mar 26, 2011 17:38:50 GMT -5
Would you help pay for your stepchild's parent funeral?
My friend's is going through this situation right now. Unfortunately, the minor stepchild's mom passed away with no insurance and her of age children can not afford to pay for the funeral. They have ask the the stepchild's dad to contribute/pay for the funeral.... I say Hell NO with the trouble she had put that family through its not his responsibility. I can see helping because of the connection between the mom and dad-- the child; but ... no, I just could not do it. What would you do?
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Post by Bunny Hop on Mar 28, 2011 10:11:52 GMT -5
I'd probably help a little....
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Post by Rare_Commodity on Mar 28, 2011 12:07:50 GMT -5
That's a hard one RubyP. I would first see if the immediate family and extended family (mother's sisters/brothers/parent's) could assist. I would then make a small contribution but only if doing it genuinely. If you don't want to do it don't do it.
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Post by T-Rex91 on Mar 28, 2011 12:18:42 GMT -5
WHo is the "they" doing the asking?
If the deceased has no family and only minor children, your friend is gonna get punked into contributing. The kid will look at it's parent (the spouse) with hurt and confusion if momma can't be buried and as part of a set, the step-parent's finances will be pulled in.
If none of her family is available to kick in/help make decisions, I'd do the least possible to honor the memory for the child. I'd cremate her and have a small memorial. If broke relatives are the "they", i'd toss 'em $500 as a contribution and leave all the planning to them.
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RubyPearl
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Post by RubyPearl on Mar 28, 2011 18:21:36 GMT -5
Its the kids asking if the minor's father would pay or contribute to the funeral. She has/had eight kids; seven are adults. So between the seven of those kids they should be able to pay for at least a cremation. With seven adult kids you would think they could bury their mother, but hey I hope I'm never in this situation.... I feel bad for the minor child he is a good kid, that would be the only reason I would contribute but ugh! The mother treated my friend soooooooooo nasty calling her job, following her, calling her home, all kinds of shyt!
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Post by Cambist on Mar 29, 2011 10:35:53 GMT -5
I'd put in on it.
Regardless of the wicked nature of a person, my heart wont let my own stepchild's mother not be buried. We're going as cheap as possible and I'm not footing the entire bill but I will put in on it.
If everyone was broke...I'd probably pay for it. Call me a sucker.
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Post by Sapphire on Mar 29, 2011 11:08:37 GMT -5
^^ what Cam said.
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Post by 123Diva on Mar 30, 2011 13:20:47 GMT -5
Yes, I would help pay,as long as I could afford it.
A step-parent is still a parent and it isn't right to go forth in life making the step-child suffer for something for which he/she is not responsible.
If you can't do the merged family thing, don't marry someone with children.
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Post by Noble Work on Apr 6, 2011 16:24:15 GMT -5
Yep what Cam and Diva said.
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Post by denounced on Apr 8, 2011 18:16:46 GMT -5
Walmart has nice caskets for 1G. If I am able to help I would, if not I would be honest and say that I couldn't, no matter who it is.
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