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Post by Noble Work on Apr 19, 2010 12:20:30 GMT -5
Well, NOW isn't the best time to join the military but I never thought in a MILLION years I would have joined the military but I'm so GLAD I did. I never had to go to war but if I ain't NEVER learned discipline, I damn sure learned it there. I didn't have a choice. It was sink or swim and failure was not an option...not if you want to make it out in as lil' pain as possible -LoL. I grew up REAL quick in the military and when I returned to college I was on my 'A' game and ready for the world. It's a far better option than not going to college. I know. I'm not saying anythings against those who do. Actually I commend all those who has chosen that path and kept us save here at home in the U.S. Thank You Mocha  Your growing up comment can be very affective. I recently talked to my wife younger cousin about "choices". He was already in College but for some reason decided he didn't wan to be there. Ok so I and others talked to him. He enrolled in the reserves. Make long story short he got kicked out. He has a little history of "not taking orders" to well.  |
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Post by T-Rex91 on Apr 19, 2010 12:24:24 GMT -5
@work, I totally understand your concerns about their safety. I'd be scared to death if my child said they want to enlist. BF's daughter is deploying to Afghanistan at the end of the month and like most people, thought she'd just reap the benefits and only serve stateside. Young people don't always consider all the options (deployment) so yeah, I'd be worried too. I wouldn't necessarily push enlistment as an option, I'm just saying it might be a tolerable place to land before going to college for the reasons Cam and Mocha mentioned.
I haven't spent a lot of time around enlisted people so I can't comment on your second concern. I'd just have to trust that my child valued the degree, at least a bachelor's, as something they needed to accomplish personally, and would get it even in they were employed and on their way to a successful career.
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Post by Noble Work on Apr 19, 2010 13:45:28 GMT -5
I totally understand and will half way agree to my child serving. lol But I will respect it and keep him/her Prayed up.
Ok now that you in College, what was you motivator to stay in there?
Was it "I ain't going back home without my degree"?
Was it your inspiration ie mother, cousin, roommate, pastor, a strangers words?
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Post by T-Rex91 on Apr 19, 2010 13:56:54 GMT -5
I'm finding this thread interesting because you are making college sound like a conscious decision. Maybe I'm not the target audience because in my case going and staying is just what was expected. I never contemplated not staying and finishing what I started. I was lucky enough to not have financial issues and that would have been the only thing that could have swayed the path, not being able to find funding for it.
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Post by Noble Work on Apr 19, 2010 14:23:33 GMT -5
I'm finding this thread interesting because you are making college sound like a conscious decision. Maybe I'm not the target audience because in my case going and staying is just what was expected. I never contemplated not staying and finishing what I started. I was lucky enough to not have financial issues and that would have been the only thing that could have swayed the path, not being able to find funding for it. Your are one of the Blessed ones ;D. But there are others who got to college and asked themselves "what the [censored] am I doing here"? What made/encouraged you (generally speaking) to stay? |
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Post by Hummy Jones on Apr 19, 2010 15:55:08 GMT -5
For me, college was always a given since I was little. It was always made apparent that I would be going to college because a.) my mother had me at a very young age and she wanted me to go further than she was able to, b.) my father is a college grad and vowed that all of his children will receive a college degree, and c.) my close teachers always did the "a mind is a terrible thing to waste" showcase scene. Since it was always talked about so much among my family and friends, I thought college was the norm place to go like people going to high school.
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Post by LejaOMG on Apr 19, 2010 16:35:13 GMT -5
forced to go to college? Nah. That would suggest that I had some sort of resistance to it. I was not aware of any other option (and even if I were, I really wanted to go)
Not gonna front though; I was kinda co-erced into going to law school. I considered getting a Masters and/or taking a break between UG and G school and I then learned that my family wasn't havin that. I was informed that I had to EITHER go to professional school OR get a Doctorate (if I insisted on remaining in the liberal arts/humanities/soft sciences). I chose the shortest option. Hated every second of it. I don't quite regret it; but I totally could've had a V8.
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Post by Mrs. Eyes on Apr 19, 2010 19:12:20 GMT -5
College was stressed from my mom and dad all the time from a very early age.
Dad didnt care where I went as long as I went. LOL. My mom on the other hand couldn't deal with me going out of state. It took her a minute cuz I was her baby, but other than that I wouldn't trade college for the world.
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Post by peppermint on Apr 19, 2010 23:28:27 GMT -5
I totally understand and will half way agree to my child serving. lol But I will respect it and keep him/her Prayed up. Ok now that you in College, what was you motivator to stay in there? Was it "I ain't going back home without my degree"?Was it your inspiration ie mother, cousin, roommate, pastor, a strangers words?@ 91 it's always a conscious decision. Even if it's something you grew up expecting to do, once you get there, you always have the option to stop. 1. My motivator was student loans. I wasn't going to pay back thousands of dollars for nothing. Also I wanted to see what would happen once I got a degree. 2. My parents were an inspiration because they were so excited to see me graduate. |
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Post by goldmind1922 on Apr 19, 2010 23:56:21 GMT -5
Long post alert I was guilted into going. School was so constant, I just got burnt out. My mother was not allowed to finish high school because at the time she had my brother, pregnant girls weren't allowed to remain in school. There were no "take your baby to school with you programs." My father entered the military to take care of my mother and siblings. Both of them wanted careers that required college.My dad was able to do engineering in the military but it was hard for my mom to do what she wanted lugging children all over the world. Even though I didn't want to go, my parents made it a point to let me know that tomorrow can easily turn into next year. It wasn't until I graduated high school that my mother was able to get her GED (after 40 years of NO school). She started college and got a 3.9 her first semester. She has had to stop off and on but still gets mainly As when she is able to take classes. I was out of school for about 5 years when I decided to get my masters. It has been a difficult adjustment. I can't imagine after 40 years! I'm not fond of my college experience. I'm glad I stuck it out though. I pray that my children have the academic ease I experienced in school BUT will be more diligent than my parents at making sure they do non-academic related things. I want them to want to go to college. My goal is to make sure they don't need to take out loans  . My siblings did well without college. I am the youngest and decided to make my own path. That was my motivation~I also wanted kids from my old neighborhood to know that they did not have to have children at 16 and be religated to the "system" (criminal or welfare). I wanted the younger kids to know that it's cool to be young, black, intelligent and beautiful. Kids in my neighborhood tended to dumb themselves down to appear more street smart. To be honest I didn't fully see the inspiration until after I graduated: I went to a PWI. A neighbor told me that she was proud of me for making it 'round all those white people." She had three teenage grandchildren who she kept in black schools thinking she was "protecting them." From K-12 they were in PBI. There is nothing wrong with that if there isn't this illogical reasoning behind it. I explained to her that their IQ isn't going to change based on the color of their classmates. Now one of the grandchild is pre-med. She sends me FB messages asking how to deal with comments from other who question her intelligence because of her color. This is something she is going to have to learn~ especially majoring in the hard sciences. The other now women in our neighborhood haven't set forth the best example. Some are getting themselves together now but I'm grateful there were at least 2 or 3 of us who said"this is not our destiny." |
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Post by ReignMan19 on Apr 20, 2010 10:54:52 GMT -5
Real Talk .. I need to stop playing with my Masters.... I have been off and on with it for a few years now.. I need to get my life together...
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Post by MochaD on Apr 20, 2010 10:57:44 GMT -5
^^There is no better time than the NOW!!!
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Post by Chal™ on Apr 21, 2010 0:20:25 GMT -5
honestly, i want to return to school full time, but the bills are always due. and the extra money is hard to find. i have to take a couple of classes whenever i can. that is so not what's up.
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Post by 123Diva on Apr 21, 2010 11:43:28 GMT -5
Real Talk .. I need to stop playing with my Masters.... I have been off and on with it for a few years now.. I need to get my life together... Me too, looking more like Doctorate than Masters at this point. |
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