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Post by happy1 on Sept 17, 2009 17:40:42 GMT -5
Has anyone done it? What were your reasons? How did your chapter sisters or brothers react  Pls PM if you like. I am at a certain point.  |
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Post by Oldskool on Sept 17, 2009 18:58:17 GMT -5
This never happened to me but I can just imagine that chapter members would be upset and might even mean mug you at 7-eleven.
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Post by Southie on Sept 18, 2009 7:32:09 GMT -5
I just sent a PM
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Post by Alc 06 on Sept 18, 2009 9:35:45 GMT -5
i'm battling with this right now. A few guys have been supportive and understanding, because I have since moved farther from my current chapter (1 hour). So it's extremely draining and just flat out difficult to be as active as I would like. However, if I did move to the chapter that is local to me, I would still support my old chapter as much as possible. I've forged actual friendships that have expanded beyond Brotherhood, so those I expect would stay in tact.
Now, realistically, I know that there are those people who will have issues with it, but i would HOPE that they can be adults about it
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Post by LejaOMG on Sept 18, 2009 9:46:34 GMT -5
We had a lot of that in my first grad chapter...folks going to another grad chapter 'cause they was mad...or 'cause they wanted to haze...or because they wanted a better shot at being elected to e-board...or 'cause it was more "young." As you can see, I rarely respected folks' reasons for leaving. I don't believe in staying in a dysfunctional situation, but I'm all about being the change you wish to see. I especially don't like to see neos leave their chapter of iniatiation before they even see what the XYZ world is all about
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Post by T-Rex91 on Sept 18, 2009 10:23:47 GMT -5
One of the major grad chapters here has lost a LOT of members to other local chapters. Members of that chapter are ticked with the lost members but also I get questioned about coming to join that chapter whenever I run into it's members.
Bottom line, if you are disgusted with your chapter, being a member at large starts looking like a good option. I've done it. I wouldn't be as worried about their reaction as you doing what you need to to not get to the point that being non-afflilated/inactive starts looking like a GREAT option.
My reasons? Poor money management, lack of strategy, lack of evolution to current times, excess cattiness. Nothing illegal just poor business management.
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Post by Southie on Sept 18, 2009 11:53:31 GMT -5
Sometimes "newer" members will leave a chapter because the "seasoned" members do not want to hear their ideas, or try something different. Everyone needs to feel valued.
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Post by adisa on Sept 18, 2009 12:20:36 GMT -5
i'm battling with this right now. A few guys have been supportive and understanding, because I have since moved farther from my current chapter (1 hour). So it's extremely draining and just flat out difficult to be as active as I would like. However, if I did move to the chapter that is local to me, I would still support my old chapter as much as possible. I've forged actual friendships that have expanded beyond Brotherhood, so those I expect would stay in tact. Now, realistically, I know that there are those people who will have issues with it, but i would HOPE that they can be adults about it Dang, frat. I was coming to post exactly what you said. I've already told a few in my current chapter, the one that initiated me, I will probably be transferring to the chapter that's closest to me . Most of them have said they will be cool with what ever decision I make, and I know I will still support their initiatives whenever I can. |
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Post by pinkngreen06 on Sept 18, 2009 17:51:32 GMT -5
I can soo get with the reasons already posted
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Post by happy1 on Sept 19, 2009 4:19:00 GMT -5
I appreciate everyone's input, especially the PM's. Iota's motto is "Building a Tradition, Not Resting Upon One". I believe in this as strongly as the day I came in (SP 07 - Grad). For those who know me, these thoughts do not come easily.
Again - Thanks.
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Post by Southie on Sept 19, 2009 6:56:23 GMT -5
Make sure that Happy is Happy
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Post by FatalDST on Sept 21, 2009 8:38:29 GMT -5
I left my first alum chapter.. I just didnt feel like I was apart of the chapter.. I was just member number 123456... The older sorors werent trying to hear any new ideas, were set in their ways, and really tried to take over anything anyone else tried to do.. The only younger sorors they listened to were their own (neos) and if someone maybe was an advisor and one of the new ladies use to be their undergrad... (if they were kiss asses) That just wasnt me and wasnt feeling it.. so I left. I really didnt care what they thought.
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Post by No Screen Name on Sept 21, 2009 11:51:57 GMT -5
The chapter where I was initiated--it is a much older chapter made up of a lot of 55+ women. The line right after mine is mostly younger sorors--mostly 25 and under. One of them was venting to me the other night. I feel SOOOOOO sorry for them. The older women don't want to do anything. I mean NOTHING. They do NO programs. The younger sorors come up with some AWESOME ideas, but the older ones come up with 50/11 excuses as to why they can't do them or why they won't work. As a result, a lot of my sorors in that city are inactive, or join chapters in other cities. This soror I was talking to wants to start a chapter in a different city.
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Post by Coldfront06 on Sept 21, 2009 11:54:44 GMT -5
The chapter where I was initiated--it is a much older chapter made up of a lot of 55+ women. The line right after mine is mostly younger sorors--mostly 25 and under. One of them was venting to me the other night. I feel SOOOOOO sorry for them. The older women don't want to do anything. I mean NOTHING. They do NO programs. The younger sorors come up with some AWESOME ideas, but the older ones come up with 50/11 excuses as to why they can't do them or why they won't work. As a result, a lot of my sorors in that city are inactive, or join chapters in other cities. This soror I was talking to wants to start a chapter in a different city. I can relate. For some time, I was the youngest member in my grad chapter, and I never felt like they were as active as I would have liked. Most of the under 30 members don't stick around, and there was talk of starting another chapter. Things have gotten better recently since we elected a new President. |
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Post by happy1 on Sept 22, 2009 17:45:31 GMT -5
Officially did it. Don't feel good about it.  |
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Post by Oldskool on Sept 22, 2009 18:56:23 GMT -5
Happy, it will be alright. Time heals.
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Post by Southie on Sept 23, 2009 7:17:23 GMT -5
Happy
Its going to get better
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Post by Kyng of JDs on Sept 23, 2009 10:29:18 GMT -5
Happy,
Focus on continuing your hard work. Let those feelings drive your service to your new chapter.
Good luck.
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Post by T-Rex91 on Sept 23, 2009 15:02:20 GMT -5
Officially did it. Don't feel good about it. Good for you. Sometimes you have to put your own needs that will drive long term participation above friendships. Hope you acclimate into the new chapter and have a more positive experience. |
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Post by DamieQue™ on Sept 23, 2009 16:25:38 GMT -5
Here's something a Bruh once told to me that maybe you can apply to you Happy.
There are lots of Chapters... but there's still only one Frat.
In other words it ain't where you do your thing, it's THAT you do your thing. I'm not advocating against Chapter Pride/Unity - just advocating perspective.
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Post by Oldskool on Sept 23, 2009 19:14:24 GMT -5
Here's something a Bruh once told to me that maybe you can apply to you Happy.
There are lots of Chapters... but there's still only one Frat.
In other words it ain't where you do your thing, it's THAT you do your thing. I'm not advocating against Chapter Pride/Unity - just advocating perspective. |
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Post by Serenity on Sept 23, 2009 21:34:11 GMT -5
I can personally relate to a lot of what has been shared. Damie, I love the quote you posted, that is wisdom. Happy, I wish you well in your new chapter. In time, it all works out.
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Post by Comedy on Sept 29, 2009 8:34:22 GMT -5
Your prophytes never told you that "change you want to see" isn't real? We had a lot of that in my first chapter...folks going to another grad chapter 'cause they was mad...or 'cause they wanted to haze...or because they wanted a better shot at being elected to e-board...or 'cause it was more "young." As you can see, I rarely respected folks' reasons for leaving. I don't believe in staying in a dysfunctional situation, but I'm all about being the change you wish to see. I especially don't like to see neos leave their chapter of iniatiation before they even see what the XYZ world is all about |
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Post by Comedy on Sept 29, 2009 8:35:38 GMT -5
Isn't it funny how folks trip when we're all supposed to be 1 organization? It really shouldn't matter where you go as long as you're active. i'm battling with this right now. A few guys have been supportive and understanding, because I have since moved farther from my current chapter (1 hour). So it's extremely draining and just flat out difficult to be as active as I would like. However, if I did move to the chapter that is local to me, I would still support my old chapter as much as possible. I've forged actual friendships that have expanded beyond Brotherhood, so those I expect would stay in tact. Now, realistically, I know that there are those people who will have issues with it, but i would HOPE that they can be adults about it Dang, frat. I was coming to post exactly what you said. I've already told a few in my current chapter, the one that initiated me, I will probably be transferring to the chapter that's closest to me . Most of them have said they will be cool with what ever decision I make, and I know I will still support their initiatives whenever I can. |
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Post by Oldskool on Sept 29, 2009 8:56:02 GMT -5
Isn't it funny how folks trip when we're all supposed to be 1 organization? It really shouldn't matter where you go as long as you're active. Dang, frat. I was coming to post exactly what you said. I've already told a few in my current chapter, the one that initiated me, I will probably be transferring to the chapter that's closest to me . Most of them have said they will be cool with what ever decision I make, and I know I will still support their initiatives whenever I can. |
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Post by LejaOMG on Sept 29, 2009 9:18:40 GMT -5
If your Greek experience has made you truly as bitter as this post makes you seem, I'm sorry to know that. Your prophytes never told you that "change you want to see" isn't real? We had a lot of that in my first chapter...folks going to another grad chapter 'cause they was mad...or 'cause they wanted to haze...or because they wanted a better shot at being elected to e-board...or 'cause it was more "young." As you can see, I rarely respected folks' reasons for leaving. I don't believe in staying in a dysfunctional situation, but I'm all about being the change you wish to see. I especially don't like to see neos leave their chapter of iniatiation before they even see what the XYZ world is all about |
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Post by Comedy on Sept 29, 2009 10:02:59 GMT -5
For the simple fact that people are leaving your chapter because they want to haze tells me our experiences are different. If your Greek experience has made you truly as bitter as this post makes you seem, I'm sorry to know that. Your prophytes never told you that "change you want to see" isn't real? |
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Post by LejaOMG on Sept 29, 2009 10:09:18 GMT -5
How so? Is your perception of our differences what makes you seem so frustrated with your journey? For the simple fact that people are leaving your chapter because they want to haze tells me our experiences are different. If your Greek experience has made you truly as bitter as this post makes you seem, I'm sorry to know that. |
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Post by Comedy on Sept 29, 2009 20:29:58 GMT -5
You are so quick for calling someone bitter on this mb and I've never figured out why. All I said was that the shyt wasn't real. Why am I be bitter? Is it because I don't like every member of my organization? Hell I don't like half of my chapter. You cannot change an entire organization even if you are the best sister, soror or friend. If you could your GB wouldn't being joking about sucking Dicks for a living. If you are all powerful leja why are people leaving your chapter? You should be pulling your hair out to make everything better for all the members. You should be doing all that you can do to make it comfortable and functional for every single chapter member. I know if is a tall order you can't fill, but you are really trying to convince the wrong person that you are a super greek. I think this mb has distorted your perception of what "we" are really like. How so? Is your perception of our differences what makes you seem so frustrated with your journey? For the simple fact that people are leaving your chapter because they want to haze tells me our experiences are different. |
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Post by LejaOMG on Sept 29, 2009 20:34:27 GMT -5
Oh. ok.
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