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Post by huey on Aug 27, 2009 13:52:22 GMT -5
Hey how would you feel if you was in a committed relationship with someone and they had the opposite status as you? If they pledged and they didn't or you didn't and they did. Would you tell them things or be open about where you are going(if you are still making people) etc
Case in point
A know of a dude who didnt pledge and his wife pledged. The wife still go outs to make people. She obviously doesn't tell the husband that. What makes it so crazy is that dude advises an undergrad chapter, and the wife actually saw the chapter when they was underground and gave em wood. All under the nose of the hubby.
Thats some shit!
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Post by No Screen Name on Aug 27, 2009 13:57:45 GMT -5
 How old are these people? I always heard that people in old dude's situation shouldn't advise undergrad chapters anyway. |
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Post by huey on Aug 27, 2009 13:59:38 GMT -5
Late 20's / Early 30s?
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Post by Robelite on Aug 27, 2009 14:11:05 GMT -5
How old are these people? I always heard that people in old dude's situation shouldn't advise undergrad chapters anyway. More like how STUPID are they? Good greif!   |
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Post by Troopa1911 on Aug 27, 2009 15:44:03 GMT -5
never heard nothing like that before...wow
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Post by Blues Clues on Aug 27, 2009 16:53:00 GMT -5
First time I have heard of that...but I guess the wife feels that their situation has nothing to do with their relationship...people always have opposing views to anything - religion, politics, child rearing...I hope they are able to discuss and make the best decision to benefit their relationship...WOW!!
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Post by huey on Aug 27, 2009 16:59:41 GMT -5
Its crazy cuz the husband tried to get the undergrads in trouble for pledging underground, lil does he know his wife saw them when they was online!
Is that keeping secrets to far? I know we have opposing views when in relationships. Like maybe diff religions. But that does that mean you have to lie or sneak out to goto church?
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Post by Blues Clues on Aug 27, 2009 17:17:45 GMT -5
Lying and sneaking around will only cause more problems in the future....I mean, some people don't want to hear the truth, but why doesn't she tell him wassup?? Is she afraid of what he may think of her?? YOU damn RIGHT!! What is she going to tell him when he finds out that for all this time she has been lying to him?? It doesn't matter what you believe in, but how you handle the situation is what is important, and she not handling it correctly....IMO!!
The both of them are not being real with each other....
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Post by LejaOMG on Aug 27, 2009 17:39:18 GMT -5
I'm not unfamilar with this kind of situation. The only time it would matter to me is if I were married to frat (picture me helping make his boys and he's not even invited... please.) at the end of the day, I'm not going to do anything that would thwart any of my hisbands efforts or would promote public disrespect of him. I'm not going to stand by while somebody says "yeah! I'm sure glad Leja's skatin/pledgin (as the case may be) azz husband ain't here" at all.
Would I be honest about going to play with my own girls? Yes. If we're married, and you're greek, you've alread shown some sort of respect for how I roll, so it should not be that much of a problem for you down the line.
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Post by Oldskool on Aug 28, 2009 1:09:58 GMT -5
This whole thread is mind boggling to me. |
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Post by T-Rex91 on Aug 28, 2009 7:19:52 GMT -5
This whole thread is mind boggling to me. I'm with you OS. I didn't know this was a relationship issue. You learn something new every day around here. |
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Post by Julie Art on Aug 28, 2009 10:25:08 GMT -5
I'm with OS, '91, and Rob. This is crazy.
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Post by huey on Aug 28, 2009 11:26:03 GMT -5
More i think about it, i don't like this. When are you too old to make/see people?Especially people not in your org? Your my wife and you not coming home till like 12 or 1 in morning cuz you had sets wit Ques or something? Thats cheating.
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Post by LejaOMG on Aug 28, 2009 11:29:16 GMT -5
lol @ "that's cheating"
By the time I am married (E.T.A. 10 years or so in the future), I don't really see myself spending an inordinate amount of time out of the house, late at night, without my husband. I'm just sayin. I used to SMH @ pregnant/married almuni chicks back in the day. Like...ain'tchu got some live-in dangalang to go attend to? Why on earth are you HERE? Are you that pressed?
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Post by Southie on Aug 28, 2009 19:51:15 GMT -5
<<currently dating frat (no its not incest!  ) <<Frat no longer interested in participating in such activities <<soror not interested in participating in such activities...  Ok. seriously, this sounds rather childish and beyond ridiculous!  |
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Post by Blues Clues on Aug 28, 2009 20:41:43 GMT -5
^LOL at the incest......
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Post by BKupInHere on Aug 28, 2009 20:48:50 GMT -5
<<currently dating frat (no its not incest! ) <<Frat no longer interested in participating in such activities <<soror not interested in participating in such activities... Ok. seriously, this sounds rather childish and beyond ridiculous! <---goes to the dressmaker to get a dress to visit the Chi next year...time to eat wedding cake ;D |
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Post by Bunny Hop on Sept 6, 2009 15:56:07 GMT -5
I wonder if they have trust issues in general. If she keeps something like this from him I wonder what else she isn't telling him.
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Post by ShimmeringSTAR on Sept 6, 2009 16:31:21 GMT -5
I agree with Bun
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Post by 123Diva on Sept 6, 2009 18:01:22 GMT -5
I wonder if they have trust issues in general. If she keeps something like this from him I wonder what else she isn't telling him. Precisely. |
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Post by Dasani on Sept 6, 2009 18:11:32 GMT -5
This is crazy. How is he even allowed to advise the undergraduate chapter. How the heck is she coming home late and he not knowing where the heck she’s been.
If he married her I would hope that he is aware of the activities she does being Greek. He does not necessarily have to know the full details but he should at least be aware.
This relationship has to have more issues then this.
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Post by Search1906 on Sept 9, 2009 21:43:13 GMT -5
Yet another reason the divorce rate is what it is. When you are taking you vows to your org more serious than your wedding vows you know its some ish. How in the hell? If she gets caught she puts herself and him at risk of prosecution or liability for paying a settlement. Just dumb. Taking what she is doing out of the equation something has to be wrong in the relationship where you are sneaking around and staying out of the house all hours of the nice doing whatever. Hell why get married if you don't trust dude enough to give him the heads up whether he pledge or not. And if you don't respect the cat enough to either not do this or come clean how is the relationship going to play out? This is definitely a deeper issue. A damn shame. smh
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Post by 123Diva on Sept 10, 2009 18:50:27 GMT -5
Yet another reason the divorce rate is what it is. When you are taking you vows to your org more serious than your wedding vows you know its some ish. How in the hell? If she gets caught she puts herself and him at risk of prosecution or liability for paying a settlement. Just dumb. Taking what she is doing out of the equation something has to be wrong in the relationship where you are sneaking around and staying out of the house all hours of the nice doing whatever. Hell why get married if you don't trust dude enough to give him the heads up whether he pledge or not. And if you don't respect the cat enough to either not do this or come clean how is the relationship going to play out? This is definitely a deeper issue. A damn shame. smh Exalt. Common sense ain't so common. |
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