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Post by whispers06 on Feb 14, 2008 20:33:30 GMT -5
im one of those who believe marriage is not for me, maybe cause im young and havent really experience a real relationship. but i have seen how many marriages in my family didnt work, cause of certain things, and i dont want that to be me...if i do get married, i wanna be able to make sure its the right thing, and that its ordained by God
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Post by Puzzler on Feb 18, 2008 12:32:08 GMT -5
<----Married
<----Very happy!!!!
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Post by Bigs on Feb 18, 2008 12:49:37 GMT -5
<--- Married
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Post by No Screen Name on Feb 18, 2008 12:56:53 GMT -5
HA HA HA@Smooth
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Post by Puzzler on Feb 19, 2008 23:27:24 GMT -5
Here is my take on it..."some" women want to be married, but they don't want to fully submit to their husbands. While there are some husbands that take submission to the dumb levels (trying to treat her like a slave). Also if they aren't equally yoked, its not going to happen....trust me on that one. LOL !
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Post by Search1906 on Feb 20, 2008 10:01:01 GMT -5
<---married and loving it. whisper just remember that others experiences don't have to be yours. My wife and I both came from families where our parents broke up but are determined to break the cycle. We depend on God to keep and sustain our marriage and don't buy into its thought process that its bound to end in divorce. Once you start thinking like that you allow that to become your reality. Marriage is a beautiful thing if done right and with the right person for the right reason.  |
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Post by Nupey on Feb 20, 2008 10:16:01 GMT -5
Man, I just Told my Parents that Me and My girl live together. I didnt get the Response I expected...
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Post by Search1906 on Feb 20, 2008 10:16:46 GMT -5
What did they say Nupey?
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Post by Nupey on Feb 20, 2008 10:18:07 GMT -5
They were suprisingly ok with it.
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Post by Bigs on Feb 20, 2008 10:21:24 GMT -5
They were suprisingly ok with it. They knew. |
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Post by Nupey on Feb 20, 2008 10:26:21 GMT -5
Lol, you're right Bigs...
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Post by jay0heavenly on Feb 20, 2008 11:05:52 GMT -5
2 thoughts of profound wisdom just came to me. 1. If your shacking your lacking.  2. If you ain't first yer last. LOL. |
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Post by Nupey on Feb 20, 2008 11:08:44 GMT -5
 ? Jay, refer to the Picture in your siggy. |
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Post by jay0heavenly on Feb 20, 2008 11:16:58 GMT -5
lol. #1 was addressed to the shacking situation. #2 was cuz I'm bored  |
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Post by Search1906 on Feb 20, 2008 12:04:08 GMT -5
Jay you know you're wrong. Inventive but wrong especially with #2. :smh:
Darn biblebeaters!! Wait a minute.....aren't I a bible beater of sorts? *finger snap* LOL
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Post by jay0heavenly on Feb 20, 2008 12:21:58 GMT -5
LOL
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Post by Search1906 on Feb 20, 2008 12:38:07 GMT -5
;D
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Post by MochaD on Feb 24, 2008 5:26:57 GMT -5
LOL
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Post by water on Apr 7, 2008 8:05:26 GMT -5
A Young Lady's Testimony
I asked myself that question for a long time at one time in my life. I don't think that some of us intentionally set out to be "looking" for Mr. Right on purpose. I feel it is a natural longing that some of us have to be married and be a part of that holy affiliation or convenant that God ordained between man and woman. At one time in my life I lost heart in thinking that it would never happen to me. I fell into traps of dead-end relationships, fornication, lust, brokenness and was left fragile in spirit and heart and anything that you may personally add to it that would describe your "war story".
Many times I had to go back to Jesus and ask Him to mend me back together and because of His mercy & love...Thank you, Jesus! After a few blows from the strain of relationships, God called me back to wholeness and I dedicated my body back to Him and declared my body sanctified. I made up in my mind that another man wasn't going to "know" me until I was married and I have walked in that victory for nearly 3 years! It was a choice of righteousness just as the other choices I made that were unrighteous. Any one of us could fall from grace at any time but it's a wonderful thing to be kept by Jesus through maintaining and developing a relationship with Him.
I had to allow God to put me in position to be "molded" by Him to be the help meet that He desires for me & whom He has ordained me for. That does qualify to be totally submitted to God for EVERY area of my life not only for preparation of marriage but for His good and perfect will for my life.
I believe people get lost in relationships because they are trying to fill a void in their lives but not have "identified" for themselves what that void is. Feeling lonely or alone could be a clear sign that their relationship with God has gone cold. At one time in my life, my focus was on the WRONG relationship! Sometimes we settle for "girl/boyfriend" because we figure its better than be "alone". When you're in that frame of mind, you're not thinking, "Am I prepared to be a mate? Am I in position for God to mold me as a wife? Is my relationship with the Lord in tact? Am I ready to "serve" in that capacity of ministry?" So forth and so on...
I am now in the "cleft" of the rock preparing to be positioned and in transition for God to reveal, mold, and transform me into the call of this institution. Once I threw my hands up and totally surrendered...God moved. This is just a short-of-the-long of my testimony of where I was, where I am and where I'm going. It was a pleasure to share and I hope it sparks some hope for someone else.
In preparation,
Empowered1 Wink
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Post by bulls3y3 on Apr 7, 2008 9:33:39 GMT -5
marriage isn't for you only if you aren't mature/grown enough
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Post by afnik17 on Apr 7, 2008 14:22:51 GMT -5
Marriage is like anything else in life; it's what you make of it. If you don't put God first, invest the time or have communication with your spouse you might have ended up on Divorce Court or Cheaters.
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Post by water on Apr 7, 2008 15:34:00 GMT -5
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Post by FatalDST on Apr 7, 2008 16:50:28 GMT -5
<--- wants sex with no committment
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Post by water on Apr 7, 2008 17:10:55 GMT -5
been there done that and the results can be permanent and or deadly
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Post by denounced on Apr 7, 2008 17:11:16 GMT -5
Disturbia- Do you declare Jesus as your Lord and Savior?
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Post by THE emPRISS on Apr 7, 2008 21:59:18 GMT -5
LOL @ "depends on what you beat them with"....  ;D Depends on what you beat em with LOL But thats why Im really a believer of praying over your child nightly...and good parenting works. I've been single so long...and I TRULY, TRULY enjoy single life. I enjoy it immensely. I am not sure if I'd enjoy married life as much. *BUT*, if I WERE to marry, it would definitely be to my boo. But I'm not so sure. Also the whole kids thing...not so sure about that either. Anytime I spend time with my friend's two-year-old niece, I become more and more doubtful. She is so DESTRUCTIVE!  And the whoopings don't take. |
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Post by THE emPRISS on Apr 7, 2008 22:07:15 GMT -5
I think someone mentioned it but knowing whether you were meant to be married or if you have the grace to be single is very difficult to comprehend and wrap your mind around....esp. if you WANT to be married.
Im at a point where I think I'd be completely happy either way. I know some people who cant fathom never getting married and I think those that force it wind up in bad situations.
Also, praying for a mate requires alot of specificity. I prayed for a number of mates...and I got EXACTLY what I prayed for and let's just say I'm VERY careful now b/c I realized I have NO idea what is best for me! LOL!... So now I dont pray for a mate, I pray for guidance, wisdom, peace, patience, etc etc. and concentrate on my personal relationship with God...if a man is meant to fit, God will put him there.
Water, that email by the single lady was really good. On point.
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Post by water on Apr 8, 2008 1:39:20 GMT -5
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Post by Warner Fite on Apr 8, 2008 12:50:28 GMT -5
I really think Water and The Priss are right....
I'm no religious zealot, but If you want your marriage to work, or you are looking for the right mate, you've got to look the Lord and Savior for that...you cannot just simply do it yourself. The temptations and obstacles are just far beyond our scope and strength to just deal with without the help of God in your life. You cannot deal with those challenges by yourself.
Marriage and a family resulting from marriage is by far the most rewarding thing I will and have ever experienced.....and like Cam, I have too been through the ups and downs that marriage offers....
Just my opinion...good thread Water!
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Post by water on Apr 8, 2008 13:10:06 GMT -5
My brother EPUN whats up ? I like that real talk ... Family life is cool
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And the whoopings don't take.