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Post by ShimmeringSTAR on Jun 10, 2012 12:30:13 GMT -5
What do you feel is an appropriate time for your children to meet your s/o?
If you two were to breakup how would you handle the attachments that your children may have?
More questions to follow...
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Post by ceeceedream on Jun 10, 2012 17:43:03 GMT -5
I think one would just know when the time was right. I don't know that there is a universal mark that would signal the right time.
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Post by ShimmeringSTAR on Jun 11, 2012 19:56:40 GMT -5
But why isnt there...Take Royce 3 men in 3 seasons and they have all been involved in her childs life and they are all gone.
Do parents think of the child ever???
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Post by ceeceedream on Jun 11, 2012 20:02:41 GMT -5
That is a good point. I wasn't thinking about any one particular person. Yeah, that sucks to do that to your child. But what would that mark be??? I have no idea what would be appropriate. Royce defiantly moves to fast.
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Post by Chal™ on Jun 12, 2012 1:38:09 GMT -5
Defiantly or definitely?  |
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Post by ShimmeringSTAR on Jun 12, 2012 12:43:09 GMT -5
I think past 6 months before a year...giving you enough time to know a person.
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Post by ceeceedream on Jun 12, 2012 19:42:43 GMT -5
I would definitely say "definitely". But you must admit the way she chases the menfolk with no regard ffor her father's feelings is difiant.
Hey, I had to give it a shot.
I think 6 months to a year could work. Some people just get so caught up in the newness of it all that they FEEL certain things will work out. They don't realy take the time to consider every angle.
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Post by ShimmeringSTAR on Jun 12, 2012 20:18:54 GMT -5
I believe definitely after the honeymoon phase for anyone. I know a guy dating a girl with children 5 months in the 13 year old calls him daddy and his daughter is the step sister. I feel bad for the children as a person in Education I see the tole. (  ) it takes on them. |
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Post by Sapphire on Jun 12, 2012 21:29:33 GMT -5
I would say once you're established. After the honeymoon phase when you know it's "real." They should have already passed muster with friends and family first. I don't think you should be calling them daddy/mommy unless you're married or common law. I know way too many kids out there confused on who their actual parent is.
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Post by Sapphire on Jun 12, 2012 21:31:50 GMT -5
I believe definitely after the honeymoon phase for anyone. I know a guy dating a girl with children 5 months in the 13 year old calls him daddy and his daughter is the step sister. I feel bad for the children as a person in Education I see the tole. ( ) it takes on them. GE you know I love you, but I are we just gonna ignore the fact that you said you're in education but you're not sure how to spell the word "toll?" *e-crickets* LOL |
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Post by ShimmeringSTAR on Jun 12, 2012 22:34:46 GMT -5
Lol...I was thinking hard Saph...thank God Ill only teach the babies and bless Teacher editions...lol
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Post by T-Rex91 on Jun 13, 2012 14:00:56 GMT -5
If you two were to breakup how would you handle the attachments that your children may have? My ex and I were together for 4 years and his niece and nephew are 6 and 9 so I was around for most of their lives. I still have a relationship with them but we sat them down and explained that I'm now Auntie 91 like many of mommy's friends not because I'm with their Uncle. I realize that in my situation I don't have to deal with my ex when I see them so that makes it easier but sometimes you have to respond to the stability the child needs and take the bullet. This very convo is going on in the mediaright now because Jenny McCarthy is accusing Jim Carrey of abandoning her son and putting it out there how traumatized he is. Sucks. |
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Post by Chal™ on Jun 13, 2012 14:57:39 GMT -5
i see it like this:
there is no "time" to bring someone around. you'll know when it's right. And you can be together for ages. become all integrated into each other's life. then, nothing. you break up. Baby has 2 daughters. It's awkward seeing them out together because WE're no longer together, BUT they were around me for YEARS. And not just around me, but straight up with me.
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Post by Southie on Jun 13, 2012 15:16:21 GMT -5
What do you feel is an appropriate time for your children to meet your s/o? If you two were to breakup how would you handle the attachments that your children may have? More questions to follow... Once things in the relationship have settled down from the "honeymoon" phase, looks like they are in it for the long haul, then a discussion regarding meeting the children take place. If you are randomly dating people, that is not a good message. |
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