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Post by Sapphire on May 17, 2012 18:56:52 GMT -5
Who's to blame when a situation goes bad because a woman pressured a man to get married and he didn't want to? The woman who should have waited patiently or the man for being weak and giving in when he didn't want to do it? Or both? What say you OO?
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Post by Southie on May 18, 2012 9:52:37 GMT -5
The only thing that we have to do is live and die.
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Post by nyunupe on May 18, 2012 12:18:35 GMT -5
The only thing that we have to do is live and die. That's a cop out answer. You're a women, probably a fine one at that. I like a da Zetas ;D... *coughs* Anyway, what I meant to say before my bi-polarization kicked in was that you're a woman. Speak on that shyt! You know what it is.... Sapphy- It's on both. Why? Simple, it's called communication...or lack thereof. Pressure and weakness are combustible elements. Throw lack of communication into the mix and you have yourself yet another 1 in 2 couples divorcing. |
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Post by Chal™ on May 18, 2012 12:22:13 GMT -5
I blame him. Yea. I said it. All the pressure in the world should make you take a step you aren't ready for.
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Post by nyunupe on May 18, 2012 12:30:19 GMT -5
I blame him. Yea. I said it. All the pressure in the world should make you take a step you aren't ready for. Says the young unmarried woman.  |
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Post by Chal™ on May 18, 2012 12:31:33 GMT -5
Says the young unmarried woman.... who isn't pressuring anyone to get married. in fact, it was almost the opposite.  |
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Post by nyunupe on May 18, 2012 12:55:38 GMT -5
Says the young unmarried woman.... who isn't pressuring anyone to get married. in fact, it was almost the opposite. ....back atcha! *can't procure an answer so lowers standard and strikes back with untelligible sarcasms* |
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Post by Chal™ on May 18, 2012 13:05:34 GMT -5
LOL! I can't stand you!!!
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Post by nyunupe on May 18, 2012 13:14:03 GMT -5
LOL! I can't stand you!!! what?! then gimme back that #11 I bought yo ass! and that Arizona ice tea! ;D |
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Post by Southie on May 21, 2012 13:31:23 GMT -5
The only thing that we have to do is live and die. That's a cop out answer. You're a women, probably a fine one at that. I like a da Zetas ;D... *coughs* Anyway, what I meant to say before my bi-polarization kicked in was that you're a woman. Speak on that shyt! You know what it is.... Sapphy- It's on both. Why? Simple, it's called communication...or lack thereof. Pressure and weakness are combustible elements. Throw lack of communication into the mix and you have yourself yet another 1 in 2 couples divorcing. That was not a "cop out" answer, that is life. Everthing else is just details. Dude could walk away... Dude DECIDES to get married... Life becomes stressful... I am certain he wished he would have chosen "live my life as it is. |
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Post by nyunupe on May 21, 2012 13:49:00 GMT -5
That's a cop out answer. You're a women, probably a fine one at that. I like a da Zetas ;D... *coughs* Anyway, what I meant to say before my bi-polarization kicked in was that you're a woman. Speak on that shyt! You know what it is.... Sapphy- It's on both. Why? Simple, it's called communication...or lack thereof. Pressure and weakness are combustible elements. Throw lack of communication into the mix and you have yourself yet another 1 in 2 couples divorcing. That was not a "cop out" answer, that is life. Everthing else is just details. Dude could walk away... Dude DECIDES to get married... Life becomes stressful... I am certain he wished he would have chosen "live my life as it is. Southie....that is a collosal one-sided explaination of a two-way situation if I've EVER heard one. Dude this, dude that.......Please with all that. Actually, it's the other way around.....Those are details, the rest is life. |
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Post by Southie on May 22, 2012 9:16:08 GMT -5
That was not a "cop out" answer, that is life. Everthing else is just details. Dude could walk away... Dude DECIDES to get married... Life becomes stressful... I am certain he wished he would have chosen "live my life as it is. Southie....that is a collosal one-sided explaination of a two-way situation if I've EVER heard one. Dude this, dude that.......Please with all that. Actually, it's the other way around.....Those are details, the rest is life. Not difficult to understand...short and to the point. |
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Post by Noble Work on May 22, 2012 11:37:38 GMT -5
Who's to blame when a situation goes bad because a woman pressured a man to get married and he didn't want to? The woman who should have waited patiently or the man for being weak and giving in when he didn't want to do it? Or both? What say you OO? I think the actual "blame" goes to no one. Assuming they are both grown, they are both consenting adults. Which means they make their own decisions. NO woman should be put in a situation when SHE ask a man to marry her. Period. No man should feel like he is forced to marry a woman as well. If she has to ask, then that in itself is a warning sign (neither a good sign nor bad sign). It simply means he's not ready. And for whatever reason, It is his reason(s). Though I don't believe in a decade of dating/fiancee or what have you. We have all heard of a man asking a woman's hand in marriage because of baby....I still say this is a bad choice. If that's the ONLY reason to ask to marry her, then I say there need to be some serious convos to be had. When a man marries a woman He is placing himself in an important role that he should faithfully commit himself to. |
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Post by 123Diva on May 22, 2012 22:35:34 GMT -5
Both!
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Post by Sapphire on May 23, 2012 0:23:39 GMT -5
I agree that both are to blame... well at least both are part of the problem. A woman should never pressure someone into a big step just to satisfy some sort of standard time table or for any reason for that matter. A woman should want a man to want her as well. But IMO opinion the man is at greater fault because he gave into whatever real or perceived pressure he was getting and chose to ignore his heart, mind and common sense by actually popping the question. He should just be honest and explain how he feels. However, I think some men want their cake and eat it to. They don't want to take the next step but they don't want the woman to step out and onward.
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Post by ceeceedream on May 25, 2012 23:36:32 GMT -5
I think both have a part in what is an obvious breakdown in communication. Rather than either party succumbing to pressure to get married, both should speak up about any reservations. It doesn't matter who wants the marriage and who doesn't. It is the duty of both people to be honest and upfront about their wishes and intentions. Aside from just expressing their wishes, they must act on them. By staying true to their wants they will be doing the other person a favor. Either they will gladly marry or save the other person major heartache down the road by being honest about not wanting to marry.
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Post by All Pledging Is Legal on May 26, 2012 20:15:04 GMT -5
Marriage is easy to avoid. Just start acting gay.
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Post by ceeceedream on May 26, 2012 23:24:18 GMT -5
Marriage is easy to avoid. Just start acting gay. Hmm... |
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Post by nyunupe on May 28, 2012 19:59:12 GMT -5
Marriage is easy to avoid. Just start acting gay. Classic and ::DEAD:: |
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