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Post by LejaOMG on Jan 5, 2012 13:56:34 GMT -5
Would you say that all of your opposite sex friendships are either strictly platonic or strictly romantic? Why or why not?
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Post by Southie on Jan 5, 2012 14:07:32 GMT -5
My male friends are just that friends. No beneifts, No goodies, no conversation of taking it to another level.
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Post by Chal™ on Jan 5, 2012 15:24:30 GMT -5
All of them? No. Strictly would be too harsh a word to use. I do have male friends who, though they are not "beneficial" to/for me, we are way past the platonic stage.
My male friends and I all have understandings. We know where we are comfortable. Though there aren't many lines drawn, we recognize and respect the boundraries that could ruin what is if crossed.
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Post by LejaOMG on Jan 5, 2012 15:30:44 GMT -5
I'm SO into defining the parameters for all my relationships (same-sex, opposite-sex or otherwise) on a case-by-case. For that reason, I support "fuzzy" friendships in various forms.
That is...I have some male friends with whom I am not sexual or romantic but with whom I engage in various types of non-sexual intimacy. Things are "fuzzy" with a friend when you start to do things that might not be ok if either of you had a significant other.
Before I continue: What do y'all think non-sexual intimacy means?
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Post by Chal™ on Jan 5, 2012 15:44:53 GMT -5
non-sexual intimacy (to me) could be being cuddled up watching a movie or sleeping in the same bed. It could be something a simple as laying my head in his lap (or vice versa) while watching tv. Going out for (what could be accused of being) romantic lunches or dinner. Getting up and driving all the way to the other side of town to bring/take me/you soup and theraflu because I'm/you're sick. Taking trips/planning vacations where the focus is moreso on us having fun together rather than us just having fun.
That's just a few things I got off the dome.
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Post by QueenOH on Jan 5, 2012 16:02:33 GMT -5
I like people to know where they stand with me so all of my guys friends are friends only.
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Post by LejaOMG on Jan 5, 2012 16:19:17 GMT -5
1st of all, Chal is on it! That's precisely what I mean by non-sexual intimacy.
2ndly, Queen, I also advocate for people knowing where they stand with one another. The "fuzziness" only refers to people outside the relationship who may not get it. For me, a fuzzy friendship needn't signify a lack of candor between the friends. Some people call it an "understanding."
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Post by ReignMan19 on Feb 29, 2012 14:21:02 GMT -5
why do I have a feeling.......
nevermind.. LOL!
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Post by nyunupe on Feb 29, 2012 14:38:24 GMT -5
Good topic.
Men and women relationships are not really defined...or, should not be defined.
Women who have "LOTS" of male friends, also have LOTS of underlying motives. Some are very logical, most are not...A relationship between a man and woman usually take a very natural course. Anything outside of that natural course is engineered to be something else, which is a game that only benefits the "engineer".....
Non-sexual intimacy between two people is cool, even ethical. Particularly between two people whose belief in non-sexual intimacy is rooted theologically....
Outside of that, non-sexual intimacy between two people is bullshit. Either smash or get on with life.
The fuzzy-ness is more advertant and inadvertant....
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Post by ReignMan19 on Feb 29, 2012 15:10:33 GMT -5
hmmm good point.. Mine is a little more simple
My "lady- friends" fall into two categories
Ones I will not smash because i'm not attracted to for whatever reason but we have mutual interests
Ones who I will def smash but she is holding up the smang for whatever reason and we have mutual interests.
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Post by ReignMan19 on Feb 29, 2012 15:11:02 GMT -5
both of em can get felt up and kissed while i'm under the influence..
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Post by Chal™ on Feb 29, 2012 15:16:56 GMT -5
1st, let me say I love Reign and I miss him dearly. lol 2nd, in the statement "Women who have "LOTS" of male friends, also have LOTS of underlying motives." you need a modifier. STAT and 3rd, well, there's no third, it's just the OOA way to go.  |
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Post by nyunupe on Feb 29, 2012 15:21:48 GMT -5
hmmm good point.. Mine is a little more simple My "lady- friends" fall into two categories Ones I will not smash because i'm not attracted to for whatever reason but we have mutual interests Ones who I will def smash but she is holding up the smang for whatever reason and we have mutual interests. Yeah right, c'mon man. You KNOW what it is.... Men HAVE NO mutual interest in women where attraction doesn't exist. I mean, if you're alluding to the fact that maybe you like cheeseburgers, chocolate shakes and the democratic party, okay, then I see your point... Women are attracted intuitively and innately in power... Men are attracted intuitively and innately, in THEE most primal sense, to good-looks.... I like the word "smang". |
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Post by nyunupe on Feb 29, 2012 15:25:21 GMT -5
1st, let me say I love Reign and I miss him dearly. lol 2nd, in the statement "Women who have "LOTS" of male friends, also have LOTS of underlying motives." you need a modifier. STAT and 3rd, well, there's no third, it's just the OOA way to go. Let's make a deal.... I will see to it that the modifier is implemeted STAT...well by the weekend, at least.... If you think critically as to why in the world would a woman need "alot" of male friends without the presence of a single motive? |
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Post by Chal™ on Feb 29, 2012 15:26:19 GMT -5
*cues the Let Me Smang It video"
[sing/rapping] It's a smash bang fusion. [/sing/rap]
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Post by Chal™ on Feb 29, 2012 15:27:43 GMT -5
Let's make a deal.... I will see to it that the modifier is implemeted STAT...well by the weekend, at least.... If you think critically as to why in the world would a woman need "alot" of male friends without the presence of a single motive? Some of us were raised that way. I could elaborate (if properly motivated) but I think that statement says enough. |
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Post by nyunupe on Feb 29, 2012 15:29:42 GMT -5
Let's make a deal.... I will see to it that the modifier is implemeted STAT...well by the weekend, at least.... If you think critically as to why in the world would a woman need "alot" of male friends without the presence of a single motive? Some of us were raised that way. I could elaborate (if properly motivated) but I think that statement says enough. Coo...in any case, I'm on that modifier! |
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Post by ReignMan19 on Feb 29, 2012 15:29:46 GMT -5
hmmm good point.. Mine is a little more simple My "lady- friends" fall into two categories Ones I will not smash because i'm not attracted to for whatever reason but we have mutual interests Ones who I will def smash but she is holding up the smang for whatever reason and we have mutual interests. Yeah right, c'mon man. You KNOW what it is.... Men HAVE NO mutual interest in women where attraction doesn't exist. I mean, if you're alluding to the fact that maybe you like cheeseburgers, chocolate shakes and the democratic party, okay, then I see your point... Women are attracted intuitively and innately in power... Men are attracted intuitively and innately, in THEE most primal sense, to good-looks.... I like the word "smang". I agree that MOST of my female friends would get this young thunder.. but there is a population of them that are just cool.. I mean just cool... We can kick it (sans the young thunder) ... |
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Post by nyunupe on Feb 29, 2012 15:32:43 GMT -5
LOL @ "sans the young thunder"
Comprendo, homie!
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Post by Chal™ on Feb 29, 2012 15:40:28 GMT -5
so we've gone from Reignbone to young thunder? Cool.
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Post by ReignMan19 on Feb 29, 2012 15:45:09 GMT -5
Reignbone and young thunder are one and the same...
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Post by DamieQue™ on Feb 29, 2012 17:01:02 GMT -5
Would you say that all of your opposite sex friendships are either strictly platonic or strictly romantic? Why or why not? |
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Post by Chal™ on Feb 29, 2012 17:08:17 GMT -5
i would copy and past my "reign returns" rant here, but I think a certain someone should get the silent treatment for a minute first.
hmpf
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Post by DamieQue™ on Feb 29, 2012 17:51:55 GMT -5
i would copy and past my "reign returns" rant here, but I think a certain someone should get the silent treatment for a minute first. hmpf |
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Post by Chal™ on Feb 29, 2012 18:44:34 GMT -5
appreciate deez. hmpf  *turns face to hide my "Yay, Reign AND Damie put in appearances on the same day" grin* |
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Post by ReignMan19 on Mar 1, 2012 11:57:01 GMT -5
Would you say that all of your opposite sex friendships are either strictly platonic or strictly romantic? Why or why not? You probably wont see this for another 6 months but... Do you keep your female friends at a certain distance now due to your SO situation? |
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Post by DamieQue™ on Mar 1, 2012 21:10:34 GMT -5
Every last one of mine had some potential. Every last one. Even if I never intended to act on it, it was there, and to say it wasn't was a lie. After making this realization, I couldn't really be mad at my girlfriend's concern about my interaction with "female friends" no matter how harmless I intended them to be, or harmless I perceived them to be. Potential Energy is a mamma jamma. I mean it might never ever be unleashed, but the threat of it, is always there. You probably wont see this for another 6 months but... Do you keep your female friends at a certain distance now due to your SO situation?
I can't be the only one that this kind of thing happens to though. I mean do you have female friends, who given the right situation, you wouldn't try to get at? Even if only for 1 night?
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Post by Chal™ on Mar 1, 2012 22:26:43 GMT -5
I can't be the only one that this kind of thing happens to though. I mean do you have female friends, who given the right situation, you wouldn't try to get at? Even if only for 1 night?
Why, yes. I do. ;D |
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Post by LejaOMG on Mar 2, 2012 8:32:03 GMT -5
both of em can get felt up and kissed while i'm under the influence.. *long, loud sigh* |
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Post by ReignMan19 on Mar 2, 2012 10:06:24 GMT -5
both of em can get felt up and kissed while i'm under the influence.. *long, loud sigh* LOL! what's up with the long loud sigh?? |
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