Dating

[Rare_Commodity]

Where oh where do you go to find quality men!? No I take that back I don't want to find a man I would him to find me but this ishhh right here is the pitts...

[Sapphire]

When you find out let me know. Honestly I think they're all around us. But there's a lot of riff raff, many are taken and many we overlook.

[T-Rex91]

My ex and I happened to sit by each other at church and struck up a convo that lasted 4 years........
Currently dating a guy I met in the elevator at work..........
Previous ex and I met in the waiting room at the car dealership...........
Met another ex on a Habitat for Humanity build.............

I know a ton of "quality" men, most friends but some people I've dated. I guess key for me has been to meet people in places of commonality. Since I don't drink, the likelihood of me meeting someone that I vibe with at a bar is low. I can't remember in all the cases above who initiated convo but we women have to learn to do the icebreaking sometimes. Guys, particularly the good ones, can be shy too .

[Chal™]

met one ex at the library.
met one ex on campus
met one ex at a football game.
met a couple of guys at a networking even. gonna see how those work out

[Rare_Commodity]

I will try some of these places.

[Rare_Commodity]

I've stepped back out on the dating scene and I found this article interesting....I can now see my previous dating faults lol! ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________
How to Be a Man Magnet!!

Call them super-attractors—women whose pull is so powerful that men clamor to get close to them. Show of hands: Who wants a little of that? Kenrya Rankin Naasel got the magic-makers themselves to share their secrets.

Attracting guys has never been a problem for Julie Wilson, 34. The Greensboro, North Carolina, native has been proposed to an astonishing four times. “My friends can’t understand why even so-called players want to run down the aisle with me,” she says. “And they keep calling me long after the relationship ends.” Wilson’s fantastic, but so are plenty of other girls—so what is it about women like her that men just can’t resist? What do they know that the rest of us don’t? We present to you: their secrets! Soak ‘em in, then do some super-attracting of your own.

Go Out Looking for a Good Time—Not Your Future HusbandSuper-attractor Rule No. 1: Don’t go hunting. “Too many girls focus on meeting The One when they should be looking for a tasty drink and a fun night out,” says Amber Kallor, a 26-year-old in New York City who’s known for getting guys of all stripes—hipsters, bankers, sailors, you name it—hopelessly hooked. “When you’re out seeking your ‘penguin’—you know, because penguins mate for life—men sense that, and no guy wants or needs that kind of pressure.” Adam LoDolce, a Boston-based dating coach and author of Being Alone Sucks!: How to Build Self-Esteem, Confidence and Social Freedom to Transform Your Dating and Social Life (cheesy title, solid advice), agrees. “There’s nothing more appealing than the girl who carries herself like she’s having a good time,” he says. “Who wouldn’t want to be around her?” So buy your own martini, and enjoy yourself. That’s penguin bait.

Never Bash Other WomenAnother insight man magnets share: Being catty will get you nowhere with guys. Men want to know that you’re confident. “Think about it: If you two start dating, he has a mom, sisters and female friends he’ll want you to spend time with,” says Marie Salazar, 29, a marketer from San Francisco whose male buddies are all in love with her (or so say her annoyed girl-friends). “Showing a guy that it won’t be a nightmare to bring you to a family dinner is a good first step.” Philadelphian Meredith Klein, 23, sums it up this way: “Someone else’s strengths don’t make you look bad—but being jealous and insecure does.”

Be EasyWe’re not talking Jersey Shore easy; we’re talking easygoing. Guys are drawn to girls they can picture having fun with in either a dive bar or a schmancy restaurant. “Men appreciate that I can hang with their friends, kill it at a work event and chill at home,” says New Yorker LaNora Williams-Clark, 32, who has been single for a total of three months since she started dating more than 15 years ago. “It boils down to charm and an ability to roll with the punches.”


Don’t Dress for GirlsThe super-trendy stuff you’d wear to impress your friends often leaves men cold. Guys Glamour spoke to gave the thumbs-down to maxidresses (“They cover too much skin,” says Rob, 38), rompers (“How do you even pee?” asks Thomas, 36) and harem pants (“MC Hammer is calling,” quips Kyle, 30). But you don’t have to squeeze into a Kardashidress to get his attention, either. What’s universally sexy, according to men? A woman in a white tee, cute-butt jeans and a pair of heels. Done and done.

Be (Genuinely) Busy-This trick’s not about playing hard to get; it’s about having so much great stuff going on in your world that he wants to be a part of it. “Women who are genuinely busy feel more fulfilled, are happier and are more confident—three powerful magnets for attracting men,” says Angelica Perez-Litwin, Ph.D., a Nyack, New York, psychologist and relationship counselor. Says Mickelle Jackson, 30, a school administrator from Trenton, New Jersey, who’s had more than a few male friends confess romantic feelings: “If a man has to choose between a clingy beauty and an unavailable average girl, he will choose average every time.”

Two Words: No bitching-When your crazy boss is blowing up your iPhone after hours and your sister is insisting you wear pistachio-and-melon-striped chiffon to her wedding, it can be easy to slip into a monologue about why life sucks. Don’t! “It makes you look like a drama queen, and if there’s one thing all guys hate, it’s drama,” says Christina Nguyen, a 31-year-old from Minneapolis who’s been told her fun-loving attitude makes her memorable. LoDolce agrees: “It’s impossible to flirt if you’re complaining.”

Let Him See Your Ambitious Side-It’s a corollary of “be busy”: Guys like women who have passions in life, so show yours! “When my husband and I were dating, he would always tell me how much my ambition inspired him to be better,” says Jessica Guberman, 34, a vice president of marketing and development for a national nonprofit in Princeton, New -Jersey. For Alexa Carlin, 20, of Wellington, Florida, fulfilling her dream of running her own fashion company caused a noticeable spike in male attention: “Girls who are motivated to accomplish their dreams show drive and determination—guys love those qualities.” Sharing your goals up front also affects the type of guy you attract. “High-quality men are drawn to ambitious women,” LoDolce believes. “I hate when women worry about intimidating men. If a guy is intimidated by you, he doesn’t deserve you.” Amen to that.

Be the Person You Want to Date-Sounds simple, but you can’t seek a man who is secure, self-assured and emotionally evolved if you’re not all of those things yourself. It’s basic relationship karma! “If you wouldn’t want to date yourself, then how can you expect someone else to want to date you?” says Lina Shivangi, a 31-year-old marketing director from Austin, Texas. Nadarah Butler, 31, a doctor living in Los Angeles who has never gone more than a year without a serious boyfriend, agrees: “If you haven’t figured out who you are yet, you can’t possibly know what you want in a guy.”


Perfect the Art of Sexting-“So much of flirting goes on somewhere other than in person,” says Thaisa Gee, 32, a Chicago-based PR consultant. But you don’t have to be explicit—in fact, it’s better if you’re not (so embarrassing the next day!). There’s one text that never fails to get him excited about seeing you, say our super-attractors. Ready? “Come play.”


Read More www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/2011/10/dating-advice-how-to-be-a-man-magnet#ixzz1asoWoFXN

[LejaOMG]

I think I'm about to be become a dating coach. Cause if this^^is the kinda crap people will pay to hear...

[Rare_Commodity]

Most dating advice is the same some straight to the point cutting through the BS, others very flowery and over the top.

I think you should do it... might turn you into a Trillionaire!

[Chal™]

like seriously, I could do that. I'm already the "go-to" chick. I could make some bank

[Rare_Commodity]

I'm bored already with the few that I am "dating". What is it with men wanting to send you pictures of their "junk" lol...just nastee I know what u looking for but I ain't the one boo boo.

One throwback keeps mysteriously popping in and out of my life. I refuse to wait for him to get his stuff together so that he can head it back to the lone star state. It's been over 4 years since you graduated college...you still living the college life.

[Rare_Commodity]

Dating gift ideas hmmmmmm....

www.giftypedia.com/Dating_Anniversary_Gifts

[Rare_Commodity]

Wonder why my boo-thang interest ain't called or text all day gues she got him a new boo...maybe he is busy working something I'm obviously not doing.

I was dating like 5 dudes couldn't do it. They expected too much and weren't giving enough.

[LejaOMG]

...is so much FUN!

[Rare_Commodity]

So now I see what ShapelyLawyerLeja was talking about. Since moving to my new city I have met over 6 guys some a few I dropped off some I still remain in contact with. I have one that is a real potential. Not sure why it took me moving to get me out my comfort zone and wanting to try new things/people.

[nyunupe]

Jun 1, 2012 15:43:59 GMT -5 Rare_Commodity said:

So now I see what ShapelyLawyerLeja was talking about. Since moving to my new city I have met over 6 guys some a few I dropped off some I still remain in contact with. I have one that is a real potential. Not sure why it took me moving to get me out my comfort zone and wanting to try new things/people.

Best wishes. Get your sammich-making skills up! Men are always hungery. I'm hungery now...will you make me a hoagie-sammich with some red/purple kool-aid?...do you have a sweet-potato pie laying around anywhere?

[Chal™]

*whistles*

[Coach]

Jun 2, 2012 0:27:37 GMT -5 Chal™ said:

*whistles*

While you twerk?

[Chal™]

Jun 2, 2012 21:38:08 GMT -5 Coach said:

Jun 2, 2012 0:27:37 GMT -5 Chal™ said:

*whistles*

While you twerk?

Depends on the forecast? Do you see "rain" in my near future?

[Coach]

Jun 2, 2012 22:25:27 GMT -5 Chal™ said:

Jun 2, 2012 21:38:08 GMT -5 Coach said:

While you twerk?

Depends on the forecast? Do you see "rain" in my near future?

Got a bunch of dollar coins in my possession, so I see hail in your near future.

[Chal™]

Ouch!!!

How about I just put a bucket at the edge of the stage and you just drop them in there.

[Rare_Commodity]

Jun 1, 2012 17:20:53 GMT -5 nyunupe said:

Jun 1, 2012 15:43:59 GMT -5 Rare_Commodity said:

So now I see what ShapelyLawyerLeja was talking about. Since moving to my new city I have met over 6 guys some a few I dropped off some I still remain in contact with. I have one that is a real potential. Not sure why it took me moving to get me out my comfort zone and wanting to try new things/people.

Best wishes. Get your sammich-making skills up! Men are always hungery. I'm hungery now...will you make me a hoagie-sammich with some red/purple kool-aid?...do you have a sweet-potato pie laying around anywhere?

Men are always hungry hmmmm I got something he can....Anyways sure hun you want that bread toasted or not lol

[LejaOMG]

^^ oop!

[Coach]

Sistah at work told me it's not really a date unless you feed her...who said dates has to include food though?

[Chal™]

Feed DEEZ!

(~_~)

[nyunupe]

Jun 4, 2012 21:27:29 GMT -5 Coach said:

Sistah at work told me it's not really a date unless you feed her...who said dates has to include food though?

Coach, women LOVE TO EAT....an expensive meal PLUS a great dessert is the quickest route to the dirty south

I took a chick to a diner-like restaurant just to see her reaction. She was salty.....but she must have been like fuggg it 'cause she ordered a hot pastrami sammich and fugg'ed it up somethin' proper.

I played tag on that ass that night, too.

[Rare_Commodity]

Jun 5, 2012 18:13:56 GMT -5 nyunupe said:

Jun 4, 2012 21:27:29 GMT -5 Coach said:

Sistah at work told me it's not really a date unless you feed her...who said dates has to include food though?

Coach, women LOVE TO EAT....an expensive meal PLUS a great dessert is the quickest route to the dirty south

I took a chick to a diner-like restaurant just to see her reaction. She was salty.....but she must have been like fuggg it 'cause she ordered a hot pastrami sammich and fugg'ed it up somethin' proper.

I played tag on that ass that night, too.

Dear nyunupe,

My dear I am starting to think you are a male whore that LOVES TO EAT...food. I believe you use food as a mechanism and tool of enticement to get what you want. That 'tis all.

Sincerely,

RC

[nyunupe]

Jun 5, 2012 18:42:30 GMT -5 Rare_Commodity said:

Jun 5, 2012 18:13:56 GMT -5 nyunupe said:

Coach, women LOVE TO EAT....an expensive meal PLUS a great dessert is the quickest route to the dirty south

I took a chick to a diner-like restaurant just to see her reaction. She was salty.....but she must have been like fuggg it 'cause she ordered a hot pastrami sammich and fugg'ed it up somethin' proper.

I played tag on that ass that night, too.

Dear nyunupe,

My dear I am starting to think you are a male whore that LOVES TO EAT...food. I believe you use food as a mechanism and tool of enticement to get what you want. That 'tis all.

Sincerely,

RC

I guess that's one way to look at it...

I love the company of women. I love to dine. I choose to put the two together as a starting point and see where the evening takes us.

Mechanism? Hmmm. This is what I know:

Women love to dine. They love attention from good company and very fond of confidence. If I provide these and it results in eventual and consensual relations, why am I stamped a whore?

[ShimmeringSTAR]

I love food especially while its eaten off of me...



I would love a great date...not necessarily eating though...I love creativity. If you make my date creative in a couple of weeks your night will be creative...lol

[**Dea**]

I met my Solomon at a Masonic event. I'm a strong believer that if u remain true to yourself and immerse yourself in the things that u personally enjoy you will run into someone with similar interests and passions. Thus making a potential relationship a lot more likely to succeed.

[Sapphire]

LOL @ Nupe's dinescapades.